Need advice concerning my dad

[ZeeeA]

As-salam alaykum brothers & sisters

Well... here's the situation: I'm a 21 y/o girl, and I live in a non-muslim country with my family.
The problem is that my dad doesn't get rid of the Riba and doesn't give Zakat al-Maal...He does give Zakat al-Fitr though.
And my mom and I...and few others family members gave him few speeches about how haram it is.
But still...he keeps finding excuses.
I know you're gonna tell me to keep give him a speech again & again...but I feel like I'm talking to a wall.
I made him read verses about it from Koran al-Karim, I also read them to him...I told him "Don't you fear Allah swt? He's watching you right now!"

We did that several times already but he keeps arguing with us and then he begins to ignore my advices and my mom's....and then he gets angry and he says "Just leave me alone!"

I don't think I can change him...He's 70 y/o and probably never gave Zakat and got rid of Riba in his entire life.
I don't know what to do...I'm desperate right now.

Any ideas, plz?

 

[muhammad sabri]

Salam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu Dear Sister,
I'd suggest to understand the situation more..''leave me alone'' he said, maybe he'd like to go away from riba but can't,riba is a hard system to go out of, so speak with him, tell him that you're old enough to understand and give your opinion and that everyone loves him and supports him but that riba hurts you and it's something you have and you want to be free from..ask Allah(glory eb to Him) to inspire you as Musa (peace be upon him) said:

25. Qala rabbi ishrah lee sadree

25. (Moses) said: "O my Lord!
Expand me my breast;

26. Wayassir lee amree

26. "Ease my task for me;

27. Waohlul AAuqdatan min lisanee

27. "And remove the impediment
From my speech,

28. Yafqahoo qawlee

28. "So they may understand
What I say.


Hope it helps, if you need to know more just ask,Salam

 

[Mabsoot]

wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

You can do nothing more except to keep advising him. May Allah have mercy upon Him and soften His heart. This is one of the gravest of sins. Being charitable is a big part of Islam and there are many ayaat and hadith about giving zakat and the punishment for those who do not care to give Zakat. Likewise there are many ayaat about the forbiddance of Ribaa.

“O you who believe! Be afraid of Allaah and give up what remains (due to you) from Ribaa (from now onward) if you are (really) believers.

And if you do not do it, then take a notice of war from Allaah and His Messengerbut if you repent, you shall have your capital sums. Deal not unjustly (by asking more than your capital sums), and you shall not be dealt with unjustly (by receiving less than your capital sums).”
[al-Baqarah 2:278-289]

What are his arguments for keeping Riba? Let him know that Allah will not allow him to lose out, the next life is much more important than a brief keep of money in this one. Certainly, the wealth he accumulates now will not go with him to the grave! But, it will count against him. Keep gently reminding him. Does he keep his prayer? or read the Qur'an?

 

[Ummah 99]

As-salam alaykum brothers & sisters

Well... here's the situation: I'm a 21 y/o girl, and I live in a non-muslim country with my family.
The problem is that my dad doesn't get rid of the Riba and doesn't give Zakat al-Maal...He does give Zakat al-Fitr though.
And my mom and I...and few others family members gave him few speeches about how haram it is.
But still...he keeps finding excuses.
I know you're gonna tell me to keep give him a speech again & again...but I feel like I'm talking to a wall.
I made him read verses about it from Koran al-Karim, I also read them to him...I told him "Don't you fear Allah swt? He's watching you right now!"

We did that several times already but he keeps arguing with us and then he begins to ignore my advices and my mom's....and then he gets angry and he says "Just leave me alone!"

I don't think I can change him...He's 70 y/o and probably never gave Zakat and got rid of Riba in his entire life.
I don't know what to do...I'm desperate right now.

Any ideas, plz?

Walaikum Assalam
Same thing with me. Even worse- the whole family is against me. They say- I am an extremist... :/ I just abide by all the Sunnahs and it looks "unsmart to my family members" Even yesterday, my father shouted at me to cut the beard. I am from a Muslim family from a Muslim country and yet face such problem... Stay positive, you are not alone.

Best thing you can do is relate verses of the Quran to him. (Sigh) I know it won't work. But you need to remember that you are not responsible for your parents. It is mentioned in Surah Luqman, you may have a look at the whole Surah, it will boost up your confidence. One thing you can do is increase your Nafl prayers (Tahajjud, Chast, Ishraq) it worked with me I grew stronger. Allah loves you 70 times more than your mother!