butterflymuslima
Junior Member
Salam sister!
I am a revert also and I have 5 children. You should explain your concerns to the family members and see if there is an alternative visitation that could be arranged. Your daughter is to young now to understand Christmas, but what about next year and the next. If you give in know it will only be expected of you again next year and you will have the same problem every year. Trust me it will get worse. Soon your child will start begging! So maybe since they are off this weekend for probably 4 days one of those days could be visiting you and your daughter and doing something unrelated to Christmas. Just a suggestion, I know it's hard! You know what I've noticed with my family is this: my mother knows how important Islam is to me and she would never ask my children to her house for Christmas, we do other things at different times, she also spends the most time with my children!!! My children's fathers mother on the other hand, never spends any time with them all year and at Christmas and makes a real fuss over their participation?! Makes it easy to ignore her!Insha'Allah everything will work out for you. My favorite saying: Everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay its not the end!
I am a revert also and I have 5 children. You should explain your concerns to the family members and see if there is an alternative visitation that could be arranged. Your daughter is to young now to understand Christmas, but what about next year and the next. If you give in know it will only be expected of you again next year and you will have the same problem every year. Trust me it will get worse. Soon your child will start begging! So maybe since they are off this weekend for probably 4 days one of those days could be visiting you and your daughter and doing something unrelated to Christmas. Just a suggestion, I know it's hard! You know what I've noticed with my family is this: my mother knows how important Islam is to me and she would never ask my children to her house for Christmas, we do other things at different times, she also spends the most time with my children!!! My children's fathers mother on the other hand, never spends any time with them all year and at Christmas and makes a real fuss over their participation?! Makes it easy to ignore her!Insha'Allah everything will work out for you. My favorite saying: Everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay its not the end!