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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]A Muslim brother and I wanted to get married in future and we used to talk. However, we didn’t have the resources to marry at the present time, but didn’t want to do what was prohibited in Islam and considered dating. So we decided to have nikah just for ourselves and for Allah, and it made us feel better. However, we haven’t told anyone as it was just for ourselves as we cannot live together yet, and it was basically for us. What is your view on that? [/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Question number: 339[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Date posted: 2002-07-17
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]It is not clear from your question what you mean by ‘making a nikah just for both of you’ and not for others. In Islam, nikah or marriage for its validity and acceptance must conform to certain minimum standards and requirements; without these, it is considered neither valid, nor acceptable, for it is then hardly distinguishable from fornication or illicit relations.
The minimum conditions for the validity of nikah are the following: The consent of the guardian of the girl, presence of witnesses, offering and acceptance, and finally mahr (dower). Once the above conditions have been fulfilled, the marriage shall be deemed as valid; but if these conditions are not fulfilled, then it shall be considered as being null and void.
As far as the consent of guardian is concerned, it can only be dispensed with if the guardian is simply refusing to give consent for considerations other than Islamic, in which case, the qadi or judge can authorize the marriage, after having followed the due the due process. If, on the other hand, such is not the case, and no attempt was made to ascertain the consent of the guardian, then such a marriage would be considered invalid, and, therefore unacceptable in Islam. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “There is no (valid) marriage without a guardian and two reliable witnesses.”
By stipulating the above mentioned conditions for the validity of marriage, Islam insists that a marriage should remain distinct from other loose and immoral life-styles such as fornication and illicit affairs. Hence, the Prophet insisted on making marriages public. Based on what has been stated above, the concept of a marriage ‘just for both of you or for Allah’ is not tolerated in Islam.
Society has a share in marriage in the sense that they should know that both of you are married so that they do not suspect you of maintaining an illicit relationship. According to the teachings of Islam, we are under obligation to do whatever we can to safeguard our religion, honor and dignity and as such we should stay away not only from that which is considered as strictly haraam or forbidden but also from all that are doubtful and dubious. The Prophet, peace be said, “Whosoever shuns what is doubtful he/she has protected his/her religion and honor; but whosoever commits what is doubtful, he/she may inadvertently fall into haraam!”[/FONT]
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Reference: http://www.islam.ca/answers.php?id=339[/FONT]
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Wassalam Alykom.
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]A Muslim brother and I wanted to get married in future and we used to talk. However, we didn’t have the resources to marry at the present time, but didn’t want to do what was prohibited in Islam and considered dating. So we decided to have nikah just for ourselves and for Allah, and it made us feel better. However, we haven’t told anyone as it was just for ourselves as we cannot live together yet, and it was basically for us. What is your view on that? [/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Question number: 339[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Date posted: 2002-07-17
[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif][/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Answer:[/FONT]
The minimum conditions for the validity of nikah are the following: The consent of the guardian of the girl, presence of witnesses, offering and acceptance, and finally mahr (dower). Once the above conditions have been fulfilled, the marriage shall be deemed as valid; but if these conditions are not fulfilled, then it shall be considered as being null and void.
As far as the consent of guardian is concerned, it can only be dispensed with if the guardian is simply refusing to give consent for considerations other than Islamic, in which case, the qadi or judge can authorize the marriage, after having followed the due the due process. If, on the other hand, such is not the case, and no attempt was made to ascertain the consent of the guardian, then such a marriage would be considered invalid, and, therefore unacceptable in Islam. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “There is no (valid) marriage without a guardian and two reliable witnesses.”
By stipulating the above mentioned conditions for the validity of marriage, Islam insists that a marriage should remain distinct from other loose and immoral life-styles such as fornication and illicit affairs. Hence, the Prophet insisted on making marriages public. Based on what has been stated above, the concept of a marriage ‘just for both of you or for Allah’ is not tolerated in Islam.
Society has a share in marriage in the sense that they should know that both of you are married so that they do not suspect you of maintaining an illicit relationship. According to the teachings of Islam, we are under obligation to do whatever we can to safeguard our religion, honor and dignity and as such we should stay away not only from that which is considered as strictly haraam or forbidden but also from all that are doubtful and dubious. The Prophet, peace be said, “Whosoever shuns what is doubtful he/she has protected his/her religion and honor; but whosoever commits what is doubtful, he/she may inadvertently fall into haraam!”[/FONT]
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Reference: http://www.islam.ca/answers.php?id=339[/FONT]
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Wassalam Alykom.
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