Abdurrahman89
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any comments...someone i know needs advice on his habit:astag:
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The habit is the watching of indecent pictures on the Net..i need some facts about its danger and its status in Islam(etc.haram)..need the facts to advise somebody..
The habit is the watching of indecent pictures on the Net..i need some facts about its danger and its status in Islam(etc.haram)..need the facts to advise somebody..
Globalpeace
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Asslamo Allaikum Brother,
I am going to assume that this is concerning a man and if he is married and his spouse is supportive, she can play a VITAL part in him getting rid of this problem
First and foremost there is no doubt that this is HARM and utterly reprehensible.
Please note that it is common in the Muslim communities in the West and lot of couples (particularly sisters when they know that their husbands are engaged in this online) just suffer in Silence because it is embarrassing to talk about it and they don’t feel like discussing it & seeking help.
Lust: The origin of this addiction is in lust. The Qur'an and the hadith, sayings of the Prophet, prohibit lust. Lust can impinge on a person's path to Allah, as the Qur'an states, "Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve (Surah 4:135)." People who act on lust are not among the believers, as the Qur'an says, "Allah doth wish to Turn to you, but the wish of those who follow their lusts is that ye should turn away (from Him), far, far away (4:27)." Lust leads to this addiction.
Fornication & its types: Some Muslims misunderstand fornication to be limited to a physical activity, however fornication is defined in the Sunnah as, “Abu Hurairah reports in Sahih Muslim, the Prophet said, "The fornication of the eyes is to look with lust; the fornication of the tongue is to speak lustful things; the fornication of the hands is to touch with lust; the fornication of the feet is to walk towards lust; the fornication of the heart is to desire evil."
Causes: Why does someone look at *!*!*!*!? There are many reasons:
• It could be that the person is not married.
• It could be that the person is married but there is something missing in the relationship.
• Cultural differences between couples. A lot of brothers who have grown up in the West & end up marrying Sisters from (conservative East) often cite this as a reason.
• It could be that the person is spending too much time alone. This is sometimes a major factor!
Cure: Construct an action plan and it may consist of any of the following (person can change the order if necessary)
First and foremost the person has to admit to themselves that they have a problem! I don’t mean that the person should start beating themselves over the head and die of low self-esteem because none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
Secondly they have to realise that this is ABSOLUTELY HARAM and damaging to one’s health (psychological and physical). Turn towards Allah (SWT) sincerely, utterly and totally, ask for forgiveness and ask Allah (SWT) to help you get rid of this habit.
Thirdly, it is important for them to discuss this problem with someone…However a note of caution, discussing it one’s family can sometimes be FATAL as some sisters just won’t understand it and might go ballistic. If you have a supportive spouse, its great but it rarely happens!
Fourthly this addiction first exhibits itself in the mind so the person MUST STOP spending time alone and must pick up some kind of a constructive habit to counter spending time alone…Working out, going to the Masjid, hanging out with friends; what-ever but stop thinking about it. Now no one can consciously stop thinking about something so they must substitute it with something else i.e. don’t beat yourself up about stopping it (because you never will) rather start thinking about something else. Do something to STOP shaytaan from whispering garbage into your mind.
Fifthly learn to lower your gaze & this is hard. Make conscious efforts of lowering your gaze. When you are unable to do so then chastise yourself and remind yourself with the punishment of Allah (SWT) & remind yourself of the fire of hell and its ferocity, remind yourself that you have purchased punishment in the fire of hell for a few moments of pleasure. A person might be in a habit of checking out people of other sex and they MUST stop. Allah (swt) says: "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well aquainted with all they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof… "
The scholars of tafseer say that this means that both men and woman are obliged to direct their sight away from that which is haram and that there is no harm in looking at that which is halal (such as viewing one's spouse while they are uncovered).
In regard to these verses Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) says: "So He (Allah) put purity after lowering of the gaze and protecting of the private parts. For this reason lowering the gaze away from the prohibited things warrants three great benefits. The first of them is the sweetness of Imaan and the pleasure that comes from it, which is more sweet and pleasing than that which he diverted his eyes away from for Allah's sake. Verily, whoever abandons a thing for Allah's sake, He (swt) compensates him with better than it…The second benefit is a light in the heart and quality of intuition… and the third benefit is the strength of the heart and steadfastness and courage. So Allah (swt) would give him, by His strength, the ability of wisdom and substantiation, and the devil would flee from him as it has been mentioned in the saying, "Whoever fears his whims, the devil would race out of his shadow."
Indeed, the opposite is also true. This is because the eyes are the most direct path to the heart. One who allows his whims to overwhelm him and indulges his eyes in the viewing of haram things has weakened his heart, corrupted his soul, and invited shaytan to control him.
Sixthly you have to be observant in your obligatory duties (i.e. Salah, fasting etc.) and constantly stay in the state of Wudhu and constantly keep turning to Allah (SWT) for guidance and help and constantly ask for protection from Shaytaan.
Other knowledgable brothers & sisters are welcome to correct him & shed some more light on this.
Asslamo Allaikum Brother,
I am going to assume that this is concerning a man and if he is married and his spouse is supportive, she can play a VITAL part in him getting rid of this problem
First and foremost there is no doubt that this is HARM and utterly reprehensible.
Please note that it is common in the Muslim communities in the West and lot of couples (particularly sisters when they know that their husbands are engaged in this online) just suffer in Silence because it is embarrassing to talk about it and they don’t feel like discussing it & seeking help.
Lust: The origin of this addiction is in lust. The Qur'an and the hadith, sayings of the Prophet, prohibit lust. Lust can impinge on a person's path to Allah, as the Qur'an states, "Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve (Surah 4:135)." People who act on lust are not among the believers, as the Qur'an says, "Allah doth wish to Turn to you, but the wish of those who follow their lusts is that ye should turn away (from Him), far, far away (4:27)." Lust leads to this addiction.
Fornication & its types: Some Muslims misunderstand fornication to be limited to a physical activity, however fornication is defined in the Sunnah as, “Abu Hurairah reports in Sahih Muslim, the Prophet said, "The fornication of the eyes is to look with lust; the fornication of the tongue is to speak lustful things; the fornication of the hands is to touch with lust; the fornication of the feet is to walk towards lust; the fornication of the heart is to desire evil."
Causes: Why does someone look at *!*!*!*!? There are many reasons:
• It could be that the person is not married.
• It could be that the person is married but there is something missing in the relationship.
• Cultural differences between couples. A lot of brothers who have grown up in the West & end up marrying Sisters from (conservative East) often cite this as a reason.
• It could be that the person is spending too much time alone. This is sometimes a major factor!
Cure: Construct an action plan and it may consist of any of the following (person can change the order if necessary)
First and foremost the person has to admit to themselves that they have a problem! I don’t mean that the person should start beating themselves over the head and die of low self-esteem because none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
Secondly they have to realise that this is ABSOLUTELY HARAM and damaging to one’s health (psychological and physical). Turn towards Allah (SWT) sincerely, utterly and totally, ask for forgiveness and ask Allah (SWT) to help you get rid of this habit.
Thirdly, it is important for them to discuss this problem with someone…However a note of caution, discussing it one’s family can sometimes be FATAL as some sisters just won’t understand it and might go ballistic. If you have a supportive spouse, its great but it rarely happens!
Fourthly this addiction first exhibits itself in the mind so the person MUST STOP spending time alone and must pick up some kind of a constructive habit to counter spending time alone…Working out, going to the Masjid, hanging out with friends; what-ever but stop thinking about it. Now no one can consciously stop thinking about something so they must substitute it with something else i.e. don’t beat yourself up about stopping it (because you never will) rather start thinking about something else. Do something to STOP shaytaan from whispering garbage into your mind.
Fifthly learn to lower your gaze & this is hard. Make conscious efforts of lowering your gaze. When you are unable to do so then chastise yourself and remind yourself with the punishment of Allah (SWT) & remind yourself of the fire of hell and its ferocity, remind yourself that you have purchased punishment in the fire of hell for a few moments of pleasure. A person might be in a habit of checking out people of other sex and they MUST stop. Allah (swt) says: "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well aquainted with all they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof… "
The scholars of tafseer say that this means that both men and woman are obliged to direct their sight away from that which is haram and that there is no harm in looking at that which is halal (such as viewing one's spouse while they are uncovered).
In regard to these verses Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) says: "So He (Allah) put purity after lowering of the gaze and protecting of the private parts. For this reason lowering the gaze away from the prohibited things warrants three great benefits. The first of them is the sweetness of Imaan and the pleasure that comes from it, which is more sweet and pleasing than that which he diverted his eyes away from for Allah's sake. Verily, whoever abandons a thing for Allah's sake, He (swt) compensates him with better than it…The second benefit is a light in the heart and quality of intuition… and the third benefit is the strength of the heart and steadfastness and courage. So Allah (swt) would give him, by His strength, the ability of wisdom and substantiation, and the devil would flee from him as it has been mentioned in the saying, "Whoever fears his whims, the devil would race out of his shadow."
Indeed, the opposite is also true. This is because the eyes are the most direct path to the heart. One who allows his whims to overwhelm him and indulges his eyes in the viewing of haram things has weakened his heart, corrupted his soul, and invited shaytan to control him.
Sixthly you have to be observant in your obligatory duties (i.e. Salah, fasting etc.) and constantly stay in the state of Wudhu and constantly keep turning to Allah (SWT) for guidance and help and constantly ask for protection from Shaytaan.
Other knowledgable brothers & sisters are welcome to correct him & shed some more light on this.
Happy 2BA Muslim
Islamophilic
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Jazak Allah khayran Brother Globalpeace!!!
I have a friend who uses the internet and goes to *!*!*!*!ographic websites. What is the shar’i ruling on that, and how can I help him to keep away from such things?.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible to look at *!*!*!*!ographic pictures that show the charms of women, either on internet web sites or in newspapers or magazines etc. That is because looking at them is a means of enjoying them and knowing the beauty of the woman in the picture.
This may also be a means that leads to something haraam, so it is also regarded as haraam, because the means come under the same rulings as the ends.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 2424.
Many people take the matter of looking at pictures of non-mahram women lightly, on the grounds that these are just pictures and are not real. But this is a very serious matter, because it inevitably tempts a man to try to look at the woman directly. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them”
[al-Noor 24:30]
Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1/268
You can help your friend to keep away from these things by always advising him and making him fear Allaah, and reminding him that Allaah is always watching him and that nothing is hidden from Him. And remind him of the blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon him, such as giving him eyes with which to see things that will benefit him, and He has forbidden him to use them to look at things that He has forbidden. Remind him that Allaah will question him about that, hence Allaah concludes the verse referred to above with the words (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do”
[al-Noor 24:30]
And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, the hearing, and the sight, and the heart of each of those ones will be questioned (by Allaah)”
[al-Isra’ 17:36]
If a wise man thinks about it, when he is looking at these haraam pictures, he will realize that there is nothing behind these glances but loss, pain and sorrow, because he cannot really get what he sees in these pictures.
The poet spoke the truth when he said:
“When you give free rein to your eyes, this will cause great pain to your heart.
You will see what you cannot have, and you will feel frustration because you do not have some of what you see.”
So it is clear that there is nothing to be gained from these pictures except the wrath of Allaah, and wasting time and money on things that are not pleasing to Him, and tormenting yourself.
The Muslim has to seek chastity by means of marriage, and try his best to achieve that.
He should also give up bad company who may have a bad effect on him and encourage him to go to these bad web sites.
He should also keep himself busy with things that will benefit him in both religious and worldly terms, such as memorizing the Book of Allaah, attending gatherings of dhikr, and going to useful websites that contain sound knowledge.
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Jazak Allah khayran Brother Globalpeace!!!
How can I advise someone who is addicted to *!*!*!*!ography?
Question:I have a friend who uses the internet and goes to *!*!*!*!ographic websites. What is the shar’i ruling on that, and how can I help him to keep away from such things?.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible to look at *!*!*!*!ographic pictures that show the charms of women, either on internet web sites or in newspapers or magazines etc. That is because looking at them is a means of enjoying them and knowing the beauty of the woman in the picture.
This may also be a means that leads to something haraam, so it is also regarded as haraam, because the means come under the same rulings as the ends.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 2424.
Many people take the matter of looking at pictures of non-mahram women lightly, on the grounds that these are just pictures and are not real. But this is a very serious matter, because it inevitably tempts a man to try to look at the woman directly. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them”
[al-Noor 24:30]
Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Rasaa’il Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1/268
You can help your friend to keep away from these things by always advising him and making him fear Allaah, and reminding him that Allaah is always watching him and that nothing is hidden from Him. And remind him of the blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon him, such as giving him eyes with which to see things that will benefit him, and He has forbidden him to use them to look at things that He has forbidden. Remind him that Allaah will question him about that, hence Allaah concludes the verse referred to above with the words (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do”
[al-Noor 24:30]
And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, the hearing, and the sight, and the heart of each of those ones will be questioned (by Allaah)”
[al-Isra’ 17:36]
If a wise man thinks about it, when he is looking at these haraam pictures, he will realize that there is nothing behind these glances but loss, pain and sorrow, because he cannot really get what he sees in these pictures.
The poet spoke the truth when he said:
“When you give free rein to your eyes, this will cause great pain to your heart.
You will see what you cannot have, and you will feel frustration because you do not have some of what you see.”
So it is clear that there is nothing to be gained from these pictures except the wrath of Allaah, and wasting time and money on things that are not pleasing to Him, and tormenting yourself.
The Muslim has to seek chastity by means of marriage, and try his best to achieve that.
He should also give up bad company who may have a bad effect on him and encourage him to go to these bad web sites.
He should also keep himself busy with things that will benefit him in both religious and worldly terms, such as memorizing the Book of Allaah, attending gatherings of dhikr, and going to useful websites that contain sound knowledge.
Islam Q&A