salaam alikom
With all do respect to you all, NON of you in her shoe so dont start saying for example:
you are an adult you said yes that mean you agreed etc ...
What kind of excuses you all talking about..? have you been under pressure from the whole family to the point you have not choice except saying YES ?
Give me a break... what I see that most of you are attacking the sister rather than advising her, judging her based on your own opinion
ISLAM dosnt call marriage by force and what I see in this situation is forcing by keeping talking to her for a the whole Wmonth since she SAID NO first time, to the point she had to say Yes.
When some one asked for marrige and I am sure she already seen the guy and she said NO that means NO.
some of you say you werent rude well please read your post again if you dont feel you been rude ..BUT when otherS read it and think your post sound rude then Your post is rude
If any one of you have a good advise to post you are most welcom to post but making one of the members cry and attacking them more than advising please then keep your advise to your self.
For the sake of Islam young woman come to your senses and think.
last but not least that dosnt mean who ever comes to marry a young woman she have to agree on him IF she have excuse and she dont like him then this VALID excuse in Islam
Any excuse she have even if its tiny excuse may be in your eyes is NOTHING , but for her its a big issue so please all of you THINK before you reply dont try to pass fatwa's.
at the time of the prophet peace be up on him, a woman came to the prophet peace be up on him and she want the divorce because she just didnt like her husband she cant live with him and the prophet peace be up on him granted it for her from her husband.
Take in consideration what sisters and brohter said in positive way, even though it sounded rude they mean good insha Allah.
So sister if you did istikhara and you dont like this person ask an Imam or shiekh to get involved with your family if your teacher who have islamic knowldege said its not a marriage then you need to talk to your family and get imam involved.
Allah help you.
Wa salaam alikom
Wa Allah knows best
wa salaam alikom