sweetshaama
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Assalaamu Alaikum Dear brothers and sisters,
A brother who lives abroad brought in a marriage proposal for me through his parents. All went well, Alhamdulillah and I am also confident about the brother's character and religious knowledge from the conversations we had. We have seen each other only via pictures. He had told me that he was a person who had gone through so many hardships, educated himself and now in a very higher position in his company and so many people are jealous of him, for various reasons. He also said he does not have many friends and like to be alone most of the time. He was planning to come and see me end of this week and meanwhile when my parents enquired about him from his work colleagues nobody said anything positive or negative about him, they were being neutral as if they don't want to say anything about him, except one who is not in good terms with him spontaneously mentioned about him even without us asking that he saw him dropping a female colleague of his after work and he had his arms around her, plus he saw them again in a shopping mall together and they were holding hands. My parents got worried and explained the situation to his parents, for which him and his parents were extremely disappointed and he has promised to come anyway, meet my parents and clear the mess about him as he cannot tolerate anyone demeaning his character.
Now, my concern is what should I do ? When the proposal came I prayed Isthkara recited and events which followed after made me firm on this proposal, I did not have an inch of doubt about his character, in fact even now no matter what others are saying my instincts say that cannot be it, plus bearing in mind we don't have any proofs. I am glad he wants to come and clear things than hiding inside a nutshell. What I am thinking is should I trust what others say and say NO this this bro ? or should I place the trust on Allah and decide according to his guidance ? I am very concerned because just because others say I don't want to make the mistake of blaming him falsely nor do I want to trust him blindly. This is not what I want, I want what Allah has and that's best for me. But please give me some advice on how to deal with this situation. inshAllah when he comes to talk to my parents at the end of this week, should I also talk to him directly and clear all my concerns ?
A brother who lives abroad brought in a marriage proposal for me through his parents. All went well, Alhamdulillah and I am also confident about the brother's character and religious knowledge from the conversations we had. We have seen each other only via pictures. He had told me that he was a person who had gone through so many hardships, educated himself and now in a very higher position in his company and so many people are jealous of him, for various reasons. He also said he does not have many friends and like to be alone most of the time. He was planning to come and see me end of this week and meanwhile when my parents enquired about him from his work colleagues nobody said anything positive or negative about him, they were being neutral as if they don't want to say anything about him, except one who is not in good terms with him spontaneously mentioned about him even without us asking that he saw him dropping a female colleague of his after work and he had his arms around her, plus he saw them again in a shopping mall together and they were holding hands. My parents got worried and explained the situation to his parents, for which him and his parents were extremely disappointed and he has promised to come anyway, meet my parents and clear the mess about him as he cannot tolerate anyone demeaning his character.
Now, my concern is what should I do ? When the proposal came I prayed Isthkara recited and events which followed after made me firm on this proposal, I did not have an inch of doubt about his character, in fact even now no matter what others are saying my instincts say that cannot be it, plus bearing in mind we don't have any proofs. I am glad he wants to come and clear things than hiding inside a nutshell. What I am thinking is should I trust what others say and say NO this this bro ? or should I place the trust on Allah and decide according to his guidance ? I am very concerned because just because others say I don't want to make the mistake of blaming him falsely nor do I want to trust him blindly. This is not what I want, I want what Allah has and that's best for me. But please give me some advice on how to deal with this situation. inshAllah when he comes to talk to my parents at the end of this week, should I also talk to him directly and clear all my concerns ?
