pologamy

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I would suggest you to study the life of the Prophet regarding this issue. My quenstion is that do you mean that our prophet was very rich and had so much time thats why he could have more than one wife?

I am personally practicing polygyny. My conclusion is that stay with the Quran and Sunnah and practicing as good as we can in all aspect. Then, for sure, we won't have any problem. As for the feeling having inside a woman, I think it is NORMAL. It is just because we are women not because of the polygyny.

What would you suggest to the lady, the only wife of her husband, who feels that her husband has not enough time for her. Shall we suggest her to divorce him?

What Allah allows us is all good in one way or another. If we cannot do it, for example the polygyny, it is us who have problem due to our weekness. It is like any other things, for example, wake up in the night and pray. We know it is good but we cannot do it as much as our prophet did.

But why is that when come to the topic of polygyny instead of accepting our weekness (in this regard) we just look at it as if it is not okey.

I think it is fine if a person cannot accept polygyny. I never try to convince anyone to practice polygyny. But I would rather suggest them to look at polygyny the same way they look at any other laws in Islam.


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that's what im saying, the weakness is that we have become addicted to the luxuries of life. most people work two jobs and barely make ends meet. in Islam it is obligatory for the husband to provide for all the money. A wife can ask for a separate dwelling too and new clothes etc. Recently, many people have lost their only job and a new job is hard to get buy. Inflation is on a high and prices have increased several folds. perhaps you haven't seen real poverty, long queues and hungry children. maybe your husband is rich and he can meet all your needs but vast majority of people are not. so thank Allah for your good fortune.

as for the holy prophet (pbuh) he was poor but our mothers were patient. they complained little and were ever present to please him. How many wives today are willing to survive on 1 proper meal a day or sleep on the ground or surviving on dates and water? How many men are willing to marry poor widows?

staying with quran and sunnah
here is fatwa regarding a husband who stays busy in dawa while ignoring his wife and doesnt spend on his wife and children

http://islamqa.com/en/ref/23481/husband not giving enough time

Then a man has to be fair in dealing with his wives.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and inclines more towards one of them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2/242; al-Tirmidhi, 3/447; al-Nasaa’i, 7/64; Ibn Maajah, 1/633. classed as saheeh by Ibn Hajar in Buloogh al-Maraam, 3/310 and by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 7/80).

some of the other issues are as follows
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/10091/
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/20455/
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/3054/

im not saying polgany is wrong :astag:, but i am saying that it is difficult especially in these times and most men will not be able to do it. However, muslim men who have the good islamic knowledge and plenty of time, patience, wisdom and money should opt for it.