Question regarding friends

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

when i am with not-so-good friends, though i do a little-less good deeds but all of them are for Allah's sake inshallah.

and when i am with good frinds, i do more good deeds but i feel some type of *want of praise*, *riya- showing off* (astaghfirullah).

wht should i do? stick to the first group?

yes i know, we should not be in the company of pious ppl. but wht to do with this *riya* problem.

 

[Mahzala]

Assalamualaikum Brother Ahmed_Indian

As we know, our company also determines the type of person we are ourselves and this has a great influence on many aspects of our lives, be it socially or morally, but most importantly, our spiritual lives are also at question.

I would base this decision on your intentions. If you exercise those deeds around the second group of friends to seek their praise, then you may want to reconsider and question those intentions. If not, then it is as simple a fact of your friends and you having a good influence on each other. If they praise you, and that is not your intention, than you shouldnt have to feel that way. I say, it should encourage you and maybe they do it too, to encourage others around you. We dont exercise good deeds to show them off, but if it encourages and influences our peers, than why not.

If, around the first group, you exercise less good deeds, it again, shows their influence on you. Instead, around anyone you are, be it good or bad, you should always try and reflect your true self, the true and right teachings and thus your positive affect and influence on them. Give off light, which others can shine from too.

And Allah knows Best.

 

[hana*]

'riya' comes from the shaytan and most likely everyone has had such thoughts entering their mind at some point, especially when doign good deeds, they shaytan targets us from all directions. whenever such thoughts come to your mind i would recommend you seek refuge from Allah from shaytan and recite ayatul kursi, as shaytan flees from this.

may Allah purify our intentions and accept our good deeds :tti_sister:

 

[nyerekareem]

:salam2:


the best group of people that a muslim should associate with is fellow muslims that are practicing their deen. what it does is help the believer to grow strong in their iman and or help keep the believer on the straight path. for me personally, i'm craving the friendship of fellow muslims. i have muslim friends here on TTI Alhamdulillah, however here where i'm at, i really don't have any. it has been this way for years. since, i lack a significant number of muslim friends to depend on, i often find myself picking up negative habits or characteristics of non-muslim friends. this is why i'm always excited to meet a new muslim face, with the hopes of creating a friendship with them, because as a believer; i know that i need them.

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:

jazaak Allah khair sisters mesbah and hana, brothers nyerekareem and ayman1for ur advices and responses.

inshallah will try to solve it out with the help of Almighty Allah.

 

[rightpath_357]

Lol- bro! I know how to take care of your Riyah!!!!!
whenever you want praise- give it to Allah- or another of your friends.
Don't expect a compliment back though- because giving one will make you not want one!( i hope:lol

 

[ahmed_indian]

Lol- bro! I know how to take care of your Riyah!!!!!
whenever you want praise- give it to Allah- or another of your friends.
Don't expect a compliment back though- because giving one will make you not want one!( i hope:lol

jazaak Allah khair sister. sounds funny but have a strong point. hope it works!