sharing problem

[almanar]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh

I hope everyone is ok. May Allah have mercy on all of us.
Just to share my problem. Hope somebody will give opinion.

I have a family problem.

My family consists of my parents, 5 sisters, 3 brothers.

Me and my other two sisters are studying overseas. My eldest sister has married for one year and live with my parents.

Last year when I came back to my country, my father has made a problem so all the family members had involved in recovering him.

But later there are misunderstandings among us. Until now.

My mother started to disagree with my sisters. And so on.

My brother has stopped talking to my father a long time ago. My father has nothing special involvement within our family except providing money and a house and cars. Not more than that. Even a minimum conversation with us.

We love our mother. But when she has done something that is wrong with Islamic way of thinking, we feel bad and thus we have problems in conversation with her. And our mother doesn't like this. She thinks that we sisters are in enmity with her. But of course we love her.

Instead of my father, my mother is the one who has struggled to give us education and true support.

But when we has grown up we try to tell her our opinion and she started to make disagreements with us.


I only want to resuest any opinion about what cause all of these?

Most of us memorize Quran. We studied in religious school. We have good understanding of Islam. But when the problem comes into this family, we lose our ideas.

Many thanks

 

[FreedomFighter]

:salam2:

sry about your family problem. maybe because your family relation wasnt so bad from the beginning, it could get better. maybe everyone's having problems, and being distance. maybe there will be an event that'll bring you all togethere again. inshaAllah. dont worry, if you pray to Allah to make it all okay. sis almanar, your name sounds arabic sry couldnt help much in your problem.. maybe there are some misunderstandings, and it can get better inshaAllah.

 

[ahmed_indian]

may Allah help you.

i know it could be hard for both of you. u explain to ur mother, the Islamic viewpoint and she might think that you are being ungrateful to her.

i'll advice you to explain her Islam thru a person whom she trusts and feels easy.

maybe any of ur relative or her friend?

that could help inshallah.

 

[justice101]

:salam2:
It must be hard, but u have to be optimistic, the Prophet (PBUH) said there is a cure to every disease, anger, hatred are also diseases that doctors can.t giv u medication for, but ALLAH (SWT) can, u remember how much aba sufyan(RA) hated the Prophet(PBUH) but the moment he accepted islam, i can assure u he would have risked his life 4 him, and there is this famous story about a man and his father, i 4got da name, the father hated the son so much, but the son stayed by his side, the father was crippled i think am not sure and he used to degrade the son even after the son sacrificed everythin 4 him, ny way its a story full of tears but in the end they started gettin along its a true story by the way,

ALLAH(SWT) mentioned in surat fusilat that if u b the better person and continue the good deed then with ALLAH(SWT) u n that person will be evr friends
blve in His promise n u will succede till we meet nxt time ill be prayin:tti_sister:

 

[almanar]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh

Thank you so much for your replies.

The biggest problem is the conversation among us becomes so difficult.

Sometimes me myself when I know something bad about this particular person it will be very hard for me to start talking with her about anything. I don't know why.

We dare not to talk about anything much with our mother because of being afraid of debate. Debate is good but sometimes it could lead to enmity (it's shaytan behind all of these).


I know Allah is seeing us. Sometimes yeah I feel we didn't act according to what Allah wants, that causes all these problems.

Brothers and Sisters, please pray for us.