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As the title suggests, I am fed up of silly women/girls playing immature social games. The situation is this: I am acquainted with a girl who is a mirza/ummaydth (i.e. someone who believes that the Final Prophet (PBUH) is not, er, the final prophet). We talk, but it’s uncomfortable and we don't really gel together as friends through no fault of either of us.
A few weeks ago, we were sitting with another friend. The girl in question commented that she was hungry. Then a few minutes later, she stated 'I don't mean to be mean but will you go get me a sandwich?' I replied 'I'm sorry, I’m feeling tired today, otherwise I would have gone for you’. The truth is, I was not tired. I thought she was on a power trip and I certainly was not going to roll over and do what she said for the sake of it. The caff was ten minutes away, it was raining, and she had not mentioned for what reason she wanted me, in particular, to get her sandwich for her – the other girl was her best friend whilst I am a near stranger!
She has now taken offence and is gossiping/backbiting about me. Should I apologise? My friends say that I should have just gotten it for her. I tried not to offend her by saying I was tired, bit she seemed to ask me to go simply because she thought I was the ‘weak link’.
What should I do? I’ve tried to be patient.
P.S. Just realized the girl’s sect is irrelevant. Please ignore. *!*!*!
P.P.S. Men – I am particularly interested in what you have to say, us girls tend to ‘feel’ things too much, i.e. we may be extra-sensitive
P.P.P.S. If anyone has similar experiences, please feel free to post
As the title suggests, I am fed up of silly women/girls playing immature social games. The situation is this: I am acquainted with a girl who is a mirza/ummaydth (i.e. someone who believes that the Final Prophet (PBUH) is not, er, the final prophet). We talk, but it’s uncomfortable and we don't really gel together as friends through no fault of either of us.
A few weeks ago, we were sitting with another friend. The girl in question commented that she was hungry. Then a few minutes later, she stated 'I don't mean to be mean but will you go get me a sandwich?' I replied 'I'm sorry, I’m feeling tired today, otherwise I would have gone for you’. The truth is, I was not tired. I thought she was on a power trip and I certainly was not going to roll over and do what she said for the sake of it. The caff was ten minutes away, it was raining, and she had not mentioned for what reason she wanted me, in particular, to get her sandwich for her – the other girl was her best friend whilst I am a near stranger!
She has now taken offence and is gossiping/backbiting about me. Should I apologise? My friends say that I should have just gotten it for her. I tried not to offend her by saying I was tired, bit she seemed to ask me to go simply because she thought I was the ‘weak link’.
What should I do? I’ve tried to be patient.
P.S. Just realized the girl’s sect is irrelevant. Please ignore. *!*!*!
P.P.S. Men – I am particularly interested in what you have to say, us girls tend to ‘feel’ things too much, i.e. we may be extra-sensitive
P.P.P.S. If anyone has similar experiences, please feel free to post