Asalamu alikom i am recent convet and i have a bf he is muslim and wen we met he told me about a tempoary marrige (this was b4 i converted) this was almost 2 years ago im wanting to know is it valid and if so for how long and is it still ok noow that ive converted, please if anyone could send some sura and sunnah of this and give some advice about it would appreciate alot thank u:shymuslima1:
Temporay marraige...
- Thread starter kaise
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Well it seems to me (wa Allahu A'alam) ukhti..that your boyfriend is a *Shiite man*..and he's trying to talk you into having an *invalid marriage* practiced only by that deviated group!..that marriage is nothing but (and pardon my bluntness here) *documented fornication!*..which I don't know *who* is being fooled through..that's one..
two..and this is coming from the heart..ukhti..there's no such thing as a *boyfriend* in Islam...if your "boyfriend" was a good man to begin with..he would have not let you commit that which displeases Allah (swt)..his heart would shatter at *the possibility* of having that happen to you!!!..ukhti..the only time a man may come into a woman's life in Islam is when they're to be married *for life* (not for a couple of weeks or a few hours like your boyfriend is suggesting you do by marrying in *muta'ah*!)..a woman is not a *pleasure tool*..she's a *creature*..a *human-being*..with needs..wants..sentiments..and rights to be observed and catered to!!!..and when that time for a Muslim woman comes..know for a fact that there are guidelines..and rights to be learned and fulfilled for her by the man marrying her!..which you would never get from a "marriage" with an *expiration date!*
There are a lot of things which come from dating that Allah (swt) Looks upon with *detestment*..it starts from *speech* and goes all the way to physicalities (you know what I mean when I say this)..you should leave your boyfriend..nothing is worth the displeasure of Allah (swt)..I am not lecturing you here ukhti..but I am entitled to tell you of that which is haram in the deen..having Allah as a Witness to the intention and the act of doing so..and surely He Knows Best!
Below are links about Muta'ah Marriage:
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/1373
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/2377
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/6595
http://english.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=82221&Option=FatwaId
http://english.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=85999&Option=FatwaId
P.S. if you wish to have links about the forbidding of dating in Islam..I would be pleased to assist you with that..through this thread or through PM whichever is more convenient for you!
May Allah protect you from harm and fitan!...Ameen!
two..and this is coming from the heart..ukhti..there's no such thing as a *boyfriend* in Islam...if your "boyfriend" was a good man to begin with..he would have not let you commit that which displeases Allah (swt)..his heart would shatter at *the possibility* of having that happen to you!!!..ukhti..the only time a man may come into a woman's life in Islam is when they're to be married *for life* (not for a couple of weeks or a few hours like your boyfriend is suggesting you do by marrying in *muta'ah*!)..a woman is not a *pleasure tool*..she's a *creature*..a *human-being*..with needs..wants..sentiments..and rights to be observed and catered to!!!..and when that time for a Muslim woman comes..know for a fact that there are guidelines..and rights to be learned and fulfilled for her by the man marrying her!..which you would never get from a "marriage" with an *expiration date!*
There are a lot of things which come from dating that Allah (swt) Looks upon with *detestment*..it starts from *speech* and goes all the way to physicalities (you know what I mean when I say this)..you should leave your boyfriend..nothing is worth the displeasure of Allah (swt)..I am not lecturing you here ukhti..but I am entitled to tell you of that which is haram in the deen..having Allah as a Witness to the intention and the act of doing so..and surely He Knows Best!
Below are links about Muta'ah Marriage:
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/1373
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/2377
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/6595
http://english.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=82221&Option=FatwaId
http://english.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=85999&Option=FatwaId
P.S. if you wish to have links about the forbidding of dating in Islam..I would be pleased to assist you with that..through this thread or through PM whichever is more convenient for you!
May Allah protect you from harm and fitan!...Ameen!
palestine
Servant of Allah
sister welcome to islam and tti
sister you have said it well
please sister be careful, if this boy really cared for you he would like to spend a life time with you, not a short time. I'll keep you in my prayers.
asalamu alaykum, a_muslimah86 is a sister not a bro.
jazakAllah.
palestine
Servant of Allah
Asalamu alaykum Kaise...well sister Muslimah86 put it well together. let this relationship go....for the sake of Allah inshaAllah. Be careful of whom you chose as your future partner or spouse inshaAllah, and you did a great thing asking for help now. take care wasalamu alaykum
IbnAdam77
Travelling towards my grave.
assalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Sister a_muslimah86 has said it all.
Further, my advice is to study Islam from authentic sources dear sister. Never let a "boy" to act like that. Yeah I know some people who keeps Islam aside when they want to fulfill a temporary desire. This can never be done.
Women are so precious in Islam. Allah (subuhaanahu wata'aala) describes them as "Qwaariyy" (Precious Stones), while describing men as "Qawwaamoon" (Protectors over them). So brothers (yeah I know I am one of them) can never force you into such a thing. Be careful sister.
Confused after reading it.
wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Sister a_muslimah86 has said it all.
Further, my advice is to study Islam from authentic sources dear sister. Never let a "boy" to act like that. Yeah I know some people who keeps Islam aside when they want to fulfill a temporary desire. This can never be done.
Women are so precious in Islam. Allah (subuhaanahu wata'aala) describes them as "Qwaariyy" (Precious Stones), while describing men as "Qawwaamoon" (Protectors over them). So brothers (yeah I know I am one of them) can never force you into such a thing. Be careful sister.
a_muslimah86 is a sister not a bro.
Confused after reading it.
wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
ahmed_indian
to Allah we belong
temporary marriage is called "mutah" in arabic.
it was present in prophet
time. he banned in for some time, then permitted it and then abolished it forever.
Prophet said, (O people! I allowed you the Mut`ah marriage with women before. Now, Allah has prohibited it until the Day of Resurrection. Therefore, anyone who has any women in Mut`ah, let him let them go, and do not take anything from what you have given them.) [Sahih Muslim]
so sister, be careful. enjoy the honour Allah has given to women. do not fall into misguided men's trap.
it was present in prophet
time. he banned in for some time, then permitted it and then abolished it forever.Prophet said, (O people! I allowed you the Mut`ah marriage with women before. Now, Allah has prohibited it until the Day of Resurrection. Therefore, anyone who has any women in Mut`ah, let him let them go, and do not take anything from what you have given them.) [Sahih Muslim]
so sister, be careful. enjoy the honour Allah has given to women. do not fall into misguided men's trap.
rightpath_357
Junior Member
sister, reject it! i love my sisters around the world a lot (and bro s) and i really dont want u to accept him. first, there is, as another sister has said before, no boyfriend in Islam. if he really cared about u, he would have told u this. and i'm not sure he's a proper muslim at all. and elsewise- what? r u gonna become a "tempoary" tatoo that he'll just wash off when he dosen't want it anymore! no way! sister, PLEASE do not accept him!