The family who was torn apart - Buffalo, New York

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Servant of Allah
Buffalo News
By Jay Tokasz
NEWS STAFF REPORTER

Malaika Sabtow, 28, holds photos of her six children, taken from her by Social Services.
Somalian immigrant Malaika Sabtow raised five children in African refugee camps, surviving for 14 years without electricity, amid persistent drought and regular outbreaks of malaria and tuberculosis.

But none of those 14 years, she said, was as bad as the past five months in Buffalo.

That’s how long it has been since the Erie County Department of Social Services took all of her children —she now has six, including a nursing 2-month-old daughter — and placed them in a foster home for reasons Sabtow doesn’t understand.

Sabtow, 28, wishes she were back in Africa.

“At least I had the kids there,” she said through a translator, Imam Yahye Omar. “Here everything is good, but if they are taking the kids from you, Africa is better.”

Supporters of Sabtow claim the county was overzealous in taking away her children and are concerned she and her husband, Madhey


A. Khamis, are being treated unfairly because they are new to the country and don’t speak English.

Social Services Commissioner Carol Dankert said she could not comment on why the children were removed or whether they would be returned.

“We do want kids to be with their families whenever possible,” she said.

The case is tied up in Erie County Family Court, where Sabtow is being represented by Buffalo attorney Oscar Smukler.

“I think the kids have suffered immeasurably,” said Smukler. “We’re making a concerted effort to get the children back to their parents.”

Khamis received a letter in September from a county caseworker explaining that a report of suspected child abuse or maltreatment had been “indicated” — meaning credible evidence had been found to support “the determination that you maltreated or abused the child(ren) named in the report.”

Child Protective Services became involved following a July 30 incident in the rented family home on Chenango Street, in which Khamis allegedly beat his 8-year-old son, Abdi Abdi, with a belt and tied the boy’s hands and legs with rope after he misbehaved at school, according to friends of the family.

Corporal punishment is acceptable in Somalia, according to friends, who said Khamis didn’t intend to hurt his son.

“They already understand that what the man did is a no-no here,” said Osman Dualeh Abdullah, a longtime Buffalo resident who is from Somalia.

Abdullah and others, including Omar, imam of the Islamic Cultural Association of Western New York, which runs a mosque on Connecticut Street, have tried to intervene on behalf of the family.

“Child Protective Services, they don’t know the culture. They need to be educated,” said Omar. “There is a lot of abuse going on in America, but not with these people. Kids are the most valuable thing they have in the world.”

Dawoud S. Adeyola, vice president of the Connecticut Street mosque, wrote a letter to Dankert saying the family has been subjected to “brutal punishment” by the department and urging the placement of the children either with their mother or with a family that understands their language and culture.

Muslim community leaders can assist with having the children returned to their mother and keeping the father away, if Child Protective Services still has concerns about him, said Abdullah.

At the very least, the kids should be placed in homes more sensitive to their cultural needs, friends of the family said.

The parents have told friends and others that the children appeared ill in their few supervised visits with them.

The baby girl, Shamia, who is now 6 months old, has rashes on her body and constantly cries during the visits, according to Sabtow. Shamia was being breast-fed at the time she was taken from Sabtow.

Shamia and her brother, Hassan, 5, were recently hospitalized in Women & Children’s Hospital — and their parents were told by county staff not to visit.

“We’re afraid of the psychological damage to the children. Every time they go see them, the kids are crying, sick or suffering,” said Abdullah.

The children have been split among three foster homes — none of which is a Muslim family, said Omar, the imam.

One of the boys, Mustaffa, 12, was pulled out of an Islamic boarding school and placed in School 19, even though his parents paid $3,600 in advance for the boy to attend the private school.

According to Omar, Mustaffa told his mother that the people he was living with would not allow him to practice Islam.

A daughter, Fatuma, 11, also has not been allowed to wear the traditional Muslim head scarf, Omar said.

And none of the children was able to participate in Ramadan, the Muslim holy month, he said.

Child Protective Services works closely with the area’s four refugee resettlement agencies to make sure staff members understand cultural differences, said Dankert.

“Certainly there are different beliefs held by different cultures, and we have to work to navigate those,” she said.

But the aim of the department is child welfare, and “if there [are] grounds for removing the children we always have to have our work scrutinized by the courts,” she said.

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This family is the family i had talked about in another post. my sister actually talks to the mother and we are currently collecting donations for her to be able to pay the lawyers. I would like my tti brothers and sisters to pitch in if that's possible. If we collected $20 from many people that would work to pay these lawyers. If you want to pitch in and help out, please contact me through pm so that i can give you the account number or the address to send your money to.
jazakAllahu khayran. wasalamu alaikum.
 

canab1973

Junior Member
This is sad and unacceptable situation. I don’t see any reason why they separate these children from their parents. I ask Allah S.W help these parents and all of us from this.
I am ready to help our sister and brother to get their children back ASAP, Insha Allah
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
JazakAllahu khayran sisters for your kind donations. hope that others will join you in doing the same. wasalamu aliakum .
 
:salam2:

these type of cases are on a rise in the USA. Some of the children are taken and then adopted to kafir families and you never see them again.

there is a solution though.

as you know muslims are not allowed to adopt meaning they can't say the child is son of anybody other than the biological father. So muslims erraneously assume that it is not permissible to even care. Muslims can care for children of another family and there is great honor and reward for doing so.

the foster child program in the USA is a game for many to make money. Most do it for that reason. They usually are very bad people whos intent is to make the money that the government gives them.

there is a rise in cases throughout the USA where muslims are stripped of their children forcefully.

There is a temporary solution: The foster child caring program is very easy to participate in. there just needs to be a good muslim family with adequate living space and rooms and clean living environment, It only takes about 15 minutes for a muslim family to register and the children will be moved in the care of a muslim household. This would suffice for the time being until legal issues are resolved with the family.

in buffalo there is a few muslim communities with a lot of muslims there. the community needs to educate people on the process and they need to get involved before children are completely stripped from their identity.

To accept a foster child, you would receive a large amount of money to care for the child, insurance is included. If I am not mistaken, you could be awarded anywhere from 300 to 700 dollars a month per child.

in Buffalo, find families with a good home and adequate living. have them contact social services to register and have an evaluation. Once they approve, they will forward the child to that home. Maybe the lawyer can help showing them what to do and request the transfer.

may Allah protect the muslimeen.

:wasalam:
 
:salam2: People just talk say oh how sad. I havent seen a muslim man saying to his wife honey lets be foster parents or lets adopt. You give charity but this is a greater deed than charity. You give it to your local masjid or whatever. But giving a muslim child a home which has agood muslim environment is the greatest gift. We talk so much about non muslim family adopting muslim kids. Who is to be blamed it is not them but us. They are doing there duty. Why we muslim cant do our duty. We are all talk and no action. I love my religion but i see the christian people really do a lot for orphan and foster kids. And the amazing part is our religion talks so much about kids and orphans. Or is it just words in the Quran and nothing more than that.
 
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