~~The pRoPeR wAy tO PrOpOsE to a SiStEr~~

[IHearIslam]

:salam2: beloved brothers and sisters
Hope this reaches you in the best of health/imaaan!

Passing on something I recieved
hhhmm some nice stuff eeehD
InshaAllah, you benefit from it (you means BROHERS):lol::lol::lol:
JOKE, JOKE, JOKE :lol::lol::lol:
anywho, here it goess:

~~BiSmIAlLaH~~
~*The Proper Way to Propose to a Sister*~


What is the proper way to ask for a sister's hand in marriage? In Islam, what is permissible and what is not when it comes to this issue? Can we talk to the sister first, maybe chat with her? Call her? Email? Or even go out for a few dates? Let's find out below in a fatwa from Sheikh Salih al-Munnajid (May Allaah protect and preserve him). A young man asks what is the proper way to propose to a sister who his heart is inclined to marry.

Let's take benefit from this insha'Allah!

Question: How should he tell her that he wants to marry her?

What is the correct way to approach a sister whom you intend to marry ? I've known this sister my entire life, in the same regard as my own blood sister and recently it was brought to my attention that she would be a perfect candidate for marriage. I believe she respects me, but I am unsure if she can accept me as her spouse. How can I know ? And what is the correct, halal way to approach ? I have nothing but the best intentions, yet my entire life I always felt I would marry her, yet out of respect I have never approached. My father and aunt (my mother has passed, allah yarham ha) are very fond of her and encourage me to pursue her, since they know her and her family extremly well.

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

If a man feels that his heart is inclined towards a particular woman, he should follow the way that is permitted in Islam, which is marriage. If a person intends to marry a woman, he has to propose marriage to her through her wali (guardian), who is her father if he is alive, or one of her other close relatives. It is not permissible for a man to propose marriage to a woman who is not his mahram through ways that are not permissible according to sharee’ah, such as getting to know her or meeting her frequently or getting in touch with her often and speaking on the phone; these are means through which Iblees causes people to sin and which lead to regrettable consequences. It is not permissible for a person to justify his relationship with a girl by saying that she is like his sister and other silly excuses. You have to follow the proper channels as prescribed in Islam to marry this woman. When you propose marriage, it is o.k. if you try to win her over by giving her a gift through her wali. We ask Allaah to give us and you strength and to keep us away from haraam things. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Allah hafiz now and alwayss

 

[BinKhadija]

Thanks sis, but...



Sister, if I may say, there has already been many many discussions about how to and how not to approach that girl etc.. If someone needs to ask they can make use of Search facility. Many threads on the topic, Alhamdulillah. Please share material that gives us brothers (and sisters) opportunity to concentrate on other important matters. Thank you.

I'm sorry for being blunt here. Nevertheless, Jazak Allah khayr ukhti.

 

[IHearIslam]

Sister, if I may say, there has already been many many discussions about how to and how not to approach that girl etc.. If someone needs to ask they can make use of Search facility. Many threads on the topic, Alhamdulillah. Please share material that gives us brothers (and sisters) opportunity to concentrate on other important matters. Thank you.

I'm sorry for being blunt here. Nevertheless, Jazak Allah khayr ukhti.

aaaww, no dont be sorry inshaAllah, I just thought this might help in away, inshaAllah no hard feelings LOL
thanks for reminding inshaAllah next time I will have other important matters(If I get some)LOL
you take care now and thanks for taking the time to remind me!
truely appreciated!
may Allah reward you !ameen

 

[BinKhadija]

No problems. We're here to remind each other. At first I was going to leave without commenting but then thought of something and finally said what I was thinking.

Thanks for taking it the way it was meant! Jazak Allah khayran.
I'm waiting for your other threads, OK!

Wa'salaaam.

 

[hussain.mahammed]

Jazakallahu khair for the reminder sister. Now a days many muslims indulge in activities which are not lawful according to Sharee'ah. Your message has reminded us that even if our intentions are good, we should always take the path which our beloved Prophet (p.b.u.h) has shown and not something based on our own judgement and conclusion. Man made idelogies are fragile and the shaytan is always present to whisper us the path of destruction.