I find that people who have been muslims since birth (im not talking about our fitra) have little or no understanding of why they are tested. A vast majority of them don't make all five prayers, they may even have had girlfriends or boyfriends, listening to music. The women don't observe hijab according to the shari'a and when I try to advise them they say I have been muslim all my life and I can't judge them only Allah can judge them. When has advice ever been judgement? I'll say, maybe if you leave off acts of disobedience then maybe Allah will rectify your condition. I don't see this as being harsh if it is the truth. I am being too difficult on them? I know the difference between right and wrong. And I try to refer my affairs back to Book and the Sunnah.