Unfinished problems

[booya]

:salam2:
As the winter holidays are getting closer my family are going to come over here for vacation. Now I've been involved in numerous debates and arguments because of Islam. Last year I told them about my interest...then a while later they found out and took my Quran and other Islamic books. Then for a while they thought I've "returned", only to find out that I fasted during Ramadan, which only brought us into another "fight". So between that last debate and now there hasn't been any religious discussion at all.

I still can't tell them that I'm muslim..although we are keeping it down we know that we still have these things in mind, we just dont want to talk about it. To be honest these things made me confused at times..sometimes I would try to pray regularly but other times I just don't feel like doing it. It's gonna be hard praying in secret when they are here, and it's gonna hard trying to avoid pork. I am sure that both my family and I are tired of all the debates and fights..but the situation is very complicated and it's been going for over a year.

I guess I'm just gonna see what happens next and show my best character when they are here.

 

[Bawar]

Assalamu alaikum!

May Allah s.w.t make it easy for you.

I just don't understand why it is so important to them that you should eat pork and should not pray?

It is a personal choice and if that is what you want, they should accept it without a fight and argument.

Please don't forget your prayers and stay away from what Allah s.w.t has made haram (disallowed). If you give in to their demands, you will never get out of this situation.

But stay respectful and caring to them.

Wasslam

 

[nyerekareem]

:salam2:

i remember a hearing a hadith, i can't remember the the exact wording, so please forgive me. it went something like this: the person that loves me more than he loves his family is a true believer.

sometimes we have to sacrifice the people or things that we love, in order to continue on the right path to islam. many of us here on this site have lost friends, family, work, and spouses so that we would be able to practice islam. don't give up or put islam off because of your family not liking islam. aren't they coming to your home? they need to respect your wishes to. they can't force you to eat pork or not praying? continue to be a muslim, eventually they will see that you are serious with your deen, and that islam is the way of life that you choose to live. it will be up to them as to whether or not they are going to deal with it. for they love you, and they may not like islam but it's something that they are just going to have to accept.

 

[MTYKK]

wa alaykum as-salaam,

booya, may Allah (swt) be with you and make your affiars easier for you.

I'm sure your situation is difficult and it maybe hard for me to fully understand this difficulty even though I'm married to a non-muslim with a non-muslim family living in US, my own family (whom aren't in US) are Muslims.

I would suggest Don't "argue" with your family. Be kind, loving and accepting as I'm sure you always have been, but even more so now. It's best if you don't "hide" your religion as long as it doesn't threaten your life, which if it does, you should seek help from authorities to make sure. I'm sure you'll know the best time to break the "good news" that they won't neccesarily like to hear.

I don't know, if they're Christians, maybe you could say, I found the teachings of the beloved Mesiah ... in Islam or something like that. (That may actually tick them off, just an idea)

It's hard for all of us in US to avoid pork related products, it's a constant struggle due to all the things they seem to mix it in, i.e. Gelatin, Lard etc. May Allah (swt) accept our struggle and make us successful.

 

[meer suhail]

:salam2:

hmmmmmmmmmmmm
doesnt the bible prohibits consumption of pork ??
the Bible too in Leviticus chapter 11, verse 8, regarding swine it says, "Of their flesh (of the swine another name for pig) shall you not eat, and of their carcass you shall not touch; they are unclean to you."

and this might be helpful as well ,,,,,
http://www.geocities.com/thetruebook/Pork.htm

 

[ditta]

Asalaamu'Alykum,

May Allah (S.W.T) make it easy for you.

You may have made this clear already so forgive me if you have. Is it not possible to try and Insh'Allah go to the Mosque to pray Jamaat for the prayers you can. It would avoid a lot of problems although other issues may arise but it will Insh'Allah make it more easier. Plus the extra reward, the unity of praying in a Jamaat would raise anyone's faith.

Alhamdulilah

Wasalam

 

[booya]

I may have mentioned this in the previous posts, but it was a long time ago.
It's not so much as my life, but it's my dad's. He's the only person who doesnt know the clear picture of the situation. He's been sick before and in the midst of everything he's dealing, this news would be very unpleasant. At one point I was asked to either drop this thing or "take a break" from my studies and go home so they can put an eye on me.