Asalamu alaikum :
I believe the question was valid ,it my have lacked a bit more of a solid direction ,but inshallah I think I understand what she is asking ....Sis I also live in the west (Canada) and I find it very easy to intergrate and live my life fully as a muslim,Alhamdulilah .What problem I have encounterd and so have many other reverts is this tug of war muslims have with reverts ,depending on the comunity one is told they must eat dress and live either asian or arab cultures and this is soo wrong .Show me where it is 100% that my country's culture is all harram ? Canadians dont eat just pork dishes nor do Germans ,nor do they all drink alcohol . Islam teaches ,that there is no culture in Islam ecept what a person brings with them and as long as it does not violate any of Allahs laws and rules then its ok. So Apple pie is halal as long as the crust is made with shortening and not lard ,and yes lemonade is as well ..as for how I wear my cloths ,and what I sleep on ,again these as long as they are in congunction with the rules and laws are very permissable ......Why is it Muslims need to make and bring hardship upon themselfs and upon others...As is said islam is easy ,the hardship muslims bring upon themselfs.... I live and work and play with in this comunity ,and I have never had to give up my faith or my belief at any point and I have not had to sit in my home feeing isolated from any one ...I swim ,I skate , and I even bowl and mashallah life could not be easier AlahUAkbar...but then I do not waste my time trying to come up with reasons to hate the land I live on or the people I live in it with ,for Allah made man to be gardianship over all things and how can one do this if one can only find wrongs and errors in everything..seek out the good and the correct and then Inshallah you will find the beaut of his creation
Masalaam