whose is the preference...

[muslimshabs]

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let me first say something before my question begins.
no doubt the priority after obeying ALLAH and his Messenger (SAW)is given to the mother...and the wife is always the responsibility of the husband...
so the QUESTION is: If the rights of mother and wife coincide, i mean to say if a man is capable of supporting only one of them, may it be providing them accomodation, treatment,etc...and if they both need it to the same extent... whom he should prefer??????????

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may Allah show us the right way... aameen...!!!

 

[muslimshabs]

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I want to know what is wrong with this question...is it so stupid question that its not worth to be answered or nobody wants to say anything...

let me know if it is either of these...
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[sachin4islam]

Assalam Alaikum:

Mother who nourishes you in her womb for nine months than bears pain to expose you to this world than until you mature does each and every activity no one else can substitute. You have been a part of her body for nine months,indeed its is the most emotional and powerful relation in the world. A time was when you were completely dependent on her to the extent that your meal was released from her body. Time changes and a time comes when you need to pay debts that you owe to your mother as now she gets dependent on you. Now if you pull back yourself away from her for any other relation than you are worst of creature.

But your wife is also other side of the above coin. The coin can't exist with one face. Try to set equilibrium between these two aspects of a coin. Loss of none can be endured.

 

[muslimshabs]

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Assalam Alaikum:

Mother who nourishes you in her womb for nine months than bears pain to expose you to this world than until you mature does each and every activity no one else can substitute. You have been a part of her body for nine months,indeed its is the most emotional and powerful relation in the world. A time was when you were completely dependent on her to the extent that your meal was released from her body. Time changes and a time comes when you need to pay debts that you owe to your mother as now she gets dependent on you. Now if you pull back yourself away from her for any other relation than you are worst of creature.

But your wife is also other side of the above coin. The coin can't exist with one face. Try to set equilibrium between these two aspects of a coin. Loss of none can be endured.

Thank you brother for your opinion, if u look at my question again you will find the situation like we will talk about the treatment of some disease, and if they both need it equally. tell me whom we should prefer t..???????.
probably i can search for the answer and post it here as i see nobody intrested in this or dont know anything, wat to say...


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[sachin4islam]

Salam Br.

I think I have answered the question,If you don't find it conducive read it many many times.

 

[muslimshabs]

Salam Br.

I think I have answered the question,If you don't find it conducive read it many many times.

you mean to say preference is given to the mother but i need some kind of fatwa or something like evidence to prove your point, as these conditions are judged by knowledge only and not by your thinking. what you think may not be right and balanced sometimes. so we are dependent on Islam...hope you got it now...

I am sorry if my words turn to be sarcastic... I got something in reply to this , and i need to read it first before putting it here... so hope i can post it tomoro inshallah...
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[muslimshabs]

:salam2:

hope u will get the answer from this......

The most important rights after the rights of Allaah are the rights of the parents; their rights come in priority over any other human being, be it a wife or else, and the mother in particular is greater than any other human’s rights. Of course, putting in priority the right of the parents over the right of the wife is in general, because the jurists may Allaah have mercy upon them stated that spending on the wife comes in priority over spending on one’s parents. That is because a husband spending on her is like him giving her something in return for enjoying her, that's why spending on her comes in priority over spending on someone else. However, there is a difference of opinion among the scholars may Allaah have mercy upon them about whether or not the husband is obliged to provide the wife precisely with medical treatment. The four Schools of jurisprudence are of the view that the husband is not obliged to do so. Nonetheless, it is recommended for the husband to do so if he is able to, as this is part of treating the wife honourably. Nevertheless, if providing medical treatment for the mother and for the wife coincides, and the husband is unable to fulfill both, then the mother comes in priority. As regards accommodation, then the wife has the right for a separate accommodation where she is not harmed by the existence of anyone else, be it the mother in-law or else. Of course, what we mentioned in regard to putting the right of the mother in priority over the right of the wife is in case one is not able to satisfy both of them, otherwise a husband is obliged to fulfil his obligation towards his mother and his wife, and give each one her right. Allaah Knows best.


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