Nayyararsi
Kashmiri Brother
Asalaamu alaikum brothers and sisters,
A brother that I met here on TTI and was writing to to for a few years became very clingy and I told him that I was interested in a relationship but he kept writing to me telling me that he loves me and misses me.
I told him that I want to focus on myself and m education. But he kept writing dozens of emails to me.
If I waited a day or two and didn't respond as quickly as he liked,he would panic and send me dozens more emails asking me where I was and is it over (even though we're not in a relationship-creepy!) :angryblue:
I mean I used to like him because I was alone and going through so much but now that I have more freedom to live my life alhamdulilah, he just became very clingy and seemed very childish to me. He would get upset when we we're both on msn and I left because I got busy and didn't say good-bye. Then he would send me many emails asking me where I went and if I am angry at him. Sooo annoying! I told him that it's not like that! I don't have to explain myself to him or tell him where I'm going! I'm not his wife!!!!
So a day ago, he sent me an email titled "I'm Leaving Islam" and I was shocked and told him to do what he wants and that I didn't care how he lived his life. I posted it on my facebook page.
He lied about leaving Islam to get my attention and now I'm angry!
understanding of his choice to be Muslim and encouraged him to make the best of his life. He's an adult. He's not dependent on anyone. Yes, we all have struggles, that no secret.
The honest truth is that he sent that email to me titled "I'm Leaving Islam" just to get my attention. I replied because I was shocked and told him,
"Hey, if that's what you truly want to do, go ahead. You don't need my permission. It's YOUR life." Why was he telling me?
Let me make myself clear: I have no problem with anyone leaving Islam, it's not even up to me, it's in the hands of Allah (swt) alone! I was simply telling him that I didn't believe him and that if he's serious about his decision, then he should do whatever he wants.
They think that I wrote to him in a bad way.
I mean, we're not talking anymore. I couldn't be with someone who lied to me about leaving Islam just because I ignored him. I have a life of my own, you know. As to why he lied to me, I don't understand. Now I know that he's not trustworthy subhanAllah.
My friends are mad at me because they believe that I am angry at him because he said he was leaving Islam (which is an obvious lie he admitted to telling)!!!
I was just being honest with him! I didn't mean to sound so harsh, I was just very annoyed with him and I got tired of him writing to me constantly like he was so lonely and writing saying that he loves me and misses me. We've never even met in person and I just felt that it was something he needed to hear. :angryred:
Sister i would say that you too are responsible because if you had not responded to his emails on the first place then he would not have been encouraged to think of relationship and secondly you also added him on MSN which was like adding petrol to fire....I dont mean to offend you in any way but as a pious muslimah you need not to reply to the email of any man from this site or anyone else unless there is some dire necessity...I pray to Allah to save all of us from these Fitnas....
