Assalaam walaikum,
But hijab gives you that protection.
Walaikumassalaam,
I would like my sisters to let me know, how important the role of hijab plays? And explain me various things about the same. Sharing of experiences is also welcomed. Especially looking for different view points on benefits of hijab and how it gives freedom to women.
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
With men, you make it straight to the point, no beating around the bush, in details, clear in your words and strict. Yes, strict. Meaning that if it concerns about completing a certain task, you give a clear overview on when to submit: day, date, time [yes, as far as mentioning the time like submit before 12am]. If the men are loyal and hardworking, the type that submits in time and have great team-working, then you keep the pace. But if he's the type that will certainly submit tasks late/difficult to be cooperative/just simply being a lazy person by giving his tasks to others, that's when you be stricter in your tone. You give the same task to him but in a strict manner like if this task isn't submitted by this specific time, then you'll have to do extra work etc.
This is to let them know that you are professional in your work: I am a gentle woman but when it comes to work, work is work. Also to let them know that you are a considerate person [you'll be understanding if he has other burden to fulfill so that you'll reduce the amount of work] but in the same time telling him that you are not a person whom he can "mess up with"
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Walaikumassalaam wa rehamatullahi wa barakatuhu,
Very well said sister. Path of Moderation to be applied in this as well. A mixture of strictness & leniency does the job. Alhamdulilah.
Assalaam alaikum,
I am still trying to figure that one out. I still blame it on many years living embedded in the Hindu caste system. It rubbed off big time. They do not cover.
I do not wish to generalize but it seems as if they reach a certain level of knowledge and it stops. I am at a loss; I see the revert sisters are the ones who make the big strides. They want to learn everything and do it right from the get-go.
In India, personally. I don't find many women wearing hijab/abaya/burqa. Only thing they do is, cover their head with a dupatta, which also slips down most times & gets totally displaced when the wind blows & they are least bothered about it. They wear transparent and also tight clothes & I end up blabbering to myself hitting my head "Wonder why they even wear clothes, shameless!!"
I don't know what the reason could be. But it is very bad to see them that way. Many of them hardly care about it & Islam is not really their priority. Work, ambitions, dance, music & movies, gossip & chit-chat seem of more importance[Its just not with the women, but men too]. Pleasing friends has become more important than pleasing Allah(SWT).
At my work place, I find it very difficult because I have to talk to women. But I make sure I set my limits. Touching is big no no. By chance, without my knowledge if I do touch them, then the very next moment, I go about asking for forgiveness from Allah(SWT). And guess what, my boss is a women. So I guess I cant be without talking to women. When I walk down to food court for lunch. I find it soo difficult to look in the front. Either I have to look down or at the sky or at the buildings. But I make sure either am engrossed in talking with my friends (or) if am alone, I go ahead saying the Tasbeeh. Alhamdulilah. At least that way am in constant reminder to keep my eye sight down. Working hard for it. InshaAllah I will perfect it someday.
ASAK,
Correct. We do need to understand the complex nonverbal cues; sometimes that is difficult for youngsters.
:salam2:
I have never understood the cryptic symbols of Muslim women.
Its very difficult to understand women. They are a mystery. Its better to just respect them the way they are.
But non-verbal cues. Most common -> One full smile is enough.
My friend once told me[ofcourse in a comical way about women] -
" Jitna hasegi utna fasegi " means something like - " the more you smile the more you get caught/trapped "
Peace