Assalamu Alaikom
What are the steps you can take to trust a person?
Btw Zinirah is a beautiful name is that your real name or a made up internet name?
Where i come from, we live by the motto of Trust No1.
But to answer the question, I think its all about time and their sincereness. How sincere they can be for a long time or how loyal or honest or whatever for sufficient time.
If your looking for steps you can take so that you can trust someone then i don't think you should take any steps but just wait and test them.
As'alaamu Alaikkum
Faith my dear.
Now after having trusted him/her there is always the chance that he/she will break that trust either by betraying you or being dishonest. Nobody can predict the future except Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala the Omnipotent. One has to take a chance and take a leap f faith in trusting someone, but what are the consequences of not trusting somebody? Say you don't trust your husband/wife and in that situation you will live a life full of misery and pain, always thinking the worst. The question is if somebody has betrayed your trust, can you forgive him/her that is the real question.
I try to be a person who can easily forgive and forget. I can do the forgiving part, but forgetting is not an easy process to me, because i dwell on the fact that i was betrayed.
:salam2:I try to be a person who can easily forgive and forget. I can do the forgiving part, but forgetting is not an easy process to me, because i dwell on the fact that i was betrayed.
What if every single stumble, every challenge, every experience in our life was only intended for one purpose: to bring us back to our origin? What if every win, every loss, every beauty, every fall, every cruelty, and every smile was only intended to unveil another barrier between us and God? Between us and where we began, and where we are desperately seeking to return? What if everything was only about seeing Him?
When something happens that you dislike, or that hurts you, be careful not to get lost in the illusion created by pain. Look through it. Find the message in the bottle. Find the purpose. And let it lead you to glimpse just a little more of Him
When something hurts so much, it's usually because of something that you're holding onto, that you need to let go.
If you find that you are making a great effort and it is not being appreciated or you do not see results, know that He may be doing this to purify your acts from the attachment to anything other than His pleasure. That He may purify your heart to extract ikhlas (complete sincerity of intention) and sidq (truthfulness for Him).
God gives and forgives. People get and forget.
Empowerment comes when we stop being a victim of our life, and become a student of our life--studying every experience and how to use it to learn, grow and overcome.
Thank those people whom you have encountered in life.
Thank those who have made you angry because they teaches you the meaning of Sabr.
Thank those who have caused you pain because they teaches you what real strengths are.
Thank those who have always disappointed you because they teaches you not to depend or put too much hope on them.
Because the truth is, you depend, you pray, you seek for strengths, you ask for help only from the Source of everything: Allaah.
السلام عليكم من تكلم كثيرا استوعب قليلا ومن تكلم قليلا استوعب كثيرا والصمت حكمة:astag::astag::astag:Assalamu Alaikom What are the steps you can take to trust a person?
Assalamu Alaikom
What are the steps you can take to trust a person?
:salam2:
Its said, men forget easily, women forgive easily.
But, if you were betrayed, and that act of betrayal is a sinful act, then you should examine it seriously, give advice to person. And review how you see that relationship...
Assalamu Alaikom
What are the steps you can take to trust a person?
Quran 4:58 Chapter: The Women
إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تُؤَدُّوا الْأَمَانَاتِ إِلَىٰ أَهْلِهَا وَإِذَا حَكَمْتُم بَيْنَ النَّاسِ أَن تَحْكُمُوا بِالْعَدْلِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ نِعِمَّا يَعِظُكُم بِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ سَمِيعًا بَصِيرًا
“Verily! Allah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due; and that when you judge between men, you judge with justice. Verily, how excellent is the teaching which He (Allah) gives you! Truly, Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Seer.”
[Muhsin Khan Translated ]