Assalaam walaikum,
Here is a lighter thread.
Ok...so I decide to become a matchmaker. How difficult can that be. There are boys who want to marry girls. And there are girls who want to marry boys. The big factor is they are all Believers. Ok..this should be a no-brainer.
Wrong. The biggest block turns out to be the expectations of the parents. The easiest way I can explain it is this: I have a slew of girls and a batch of males. They all want to marry. They are almost easy-going and then I hit the wall. The parents.
I have tried to explain to parents that it is difficult to pull out a boy from the village that they were raised in. I have also tried to explain to the parents that there are many righteous brothers right here in front of them. Oh no..they want a copy of the boy from the village. Hello.
This goes against the grain of Islam. It is wrong. But, alas what can I say. They want a boy from home. How do I explain to the parents that " home" for them is long gone and home for their daughters is right here. How do I know..I ask the girls a simple question..what do you call home and they give me their address. It ain't 20,000 miles away. The same applies to the young men.
Back to my headache...I have a list of good candidates..and everyone is waiting...and there are good matches...I see the smiles on the faces of the young women I have approached and the young men who have contacted me...
I did not know that the completion of deen means it has to be next door.
Here is a lighter thread.
Ok...so I decide to become a matchmaker. How difficult can that be. There are boys who want to marry girls. And there are girls who want to marry boys. The big factor is they are all Believers. Ok..this should be a no-brainer.
Wrong. The biggest block turns out to be the expectations of the parents. The easiest way I can explain it is this: I have a slew of girls and a batch of males. They all want to marry. They are almost easy-going and then I hit the wall. The parents.
I have tried to explain to parents that it is difficult to pull out a boy from the village that they were raised in. I have also tried to explain to the parents that there are many righteous brothers right here in front of them. Oh no..they want a copy of the boy from the village. Hello.
This goes against the grain of Islam. It is wrong. But, alas what can I say. They want a boy from home. How do I explain to the parents that " home" for them is long gone and home for their daughters is right here. How do I know..I ask the girls a simple question..what do you call home and they give me their address. It ain't 20,000 miles away. The same applies to the young men.
Back to my headache...I have a list of good candidates..and everyone is waiting...and there are good matches...I see the smiles on the faces of the young women I have approached and the young men who have contacted me...
I did not know that the completion of deen means it has to be next door.