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As salam alaykum
Lately i do wonder about something...
When we are supposed to choose a partner i do know that we should try to choose the one who is good in her/his deen.
But another thing i do wonder is;
Are we also supposed to be attracted to that person physically ? Of course i dont mean doing anything haram before marriage or looking at that partner without hijab. But i mean Is it important to be attracted ?
Because i have something in my mind:
Normally we should love Allah and His Messenger, most, right ?
So sometimes we may love other humans too much that we are really into a human. Like we see in relationships before marriage. When a guy and a girl is together and they are attracted to each other, they always wanna spend time together, they love each other too much and many other things.
Therefore i do want to ask you my Muslim brothers and sisters:
If there were 2-3 choices in front of you and ALLAH knows best but according to your ability you made this observation:
1 - 3.5 out of 5 for being religious and 3/5 for being attracting to you, you can get married maybe with in months inshAllah
2- 4 out of 5 for being religious and 4/5 for being attracting to you, but you have to wait for this person maybe a few years more for getting marriage
Considering you are not someone with a lot patience and you don't wanna fall into haram... Which one would you choose ?
Lately i do wonder about something...
When we are supposed to choose a partner i do know that we should try to choose the one who is good in her/his deen.
But another thing i do wonder is;
Are we also supposed to be attracted to that person physically ? Of course i dont mean doing anything haram before marriage or looking at that partner without hijab. But i mean Is it important to be attracted ?
Because i have something in my mind:
Normally we should love Allah and His Messenger, most, right ?
So sometimes we may love other humans too much that we are really into a human. Like we see in relationships before marriage. When a guy and a girl is together and they are attracted to each other, they always wanna spend time together, they love each other too much and many other things.
Therefore i do want to ask you my Muslim brothers and sisters:
If there were 2-3 choices in front of you and ALLAH knows best but according to your ability you made this observation:
1 - 3.5 out of 5 for being religious and 3/5 for being attracting to you, you can get married maybe with in months inshAllah
2- 4 out of 5 for being religious and 4/5 for being attracting to you, but you have to wait for this person maybe a few years more for getting marriage
Considering you are not someone with a lot patience and you don't wanna fall into haram... Which one would you choose ?