Assalamualakum
Hi i have a question
Well i am in school and i know a girl that i just talk to you know joke around always nothing more.
The issue came when i heard you cant be friends with girls? Correct me if im wrong
I only do one thing with the girl and that is talk and joke around as i would never go beyond that im not like other guy's that are totally obsessed with women. Wustaqfirullah i would never put myself in a situation where it goes beyond talking etc...
So my question is the typical girlfriend image is
*Kissing
*hanging out
*love without intention to marriage
*Going to place together holding hands
(Wustaqfirullah)
I do not do any of those with her nor do i have the intention. So my question is, Is this still Haram i cant talk to them at all? Whats the limit.
Jazakallah Khairan
P.S- The only time i heard you are aloud to have a girlfriend etc..is when you have the intention to marry and cant be for intercourse etc... By the way this doesnt apply to this girl im just wondering this is what i heard my brother say
Is this true?
And Allah Knows best
Asaalamu alaikum wr wb, brother the reason why it is haraam to talk to befriend the opposite sex is for the very reason that it usually starts with an innocent friendship and then usually leads onto to more. Men and women are created to be attracted to each other and if your friends with the opposite sex then its inevitable that you will start liking them for who they are and then eventually things will happen.
A hadith says that when a man and a women are alone together then shaythan is always htere with them as the third person.
Shaythan will eventually lead you to do haraam with her as he has done with countless others in the same way.
Its always the same story. People think its harmless and ok to socialise and be friends with the opposite sex and before they know it they have fallen for that person and then commit so many haraams with them and surely regret it later.
Nowadays my brother it is very sad to see the state of our Muslim youth who even by the age of 16 have had several relationships including sexual ones. Don't ever think its normal to hang around with and befriend girls for that is what shaythan wants to re-assure you on but it is a deception.
Don't let the peer pressure and the fact that other people around you have friends who are girls and have girlfriends themselves pressure you into conforming with what they do.
If they disobey Allah then will you do the same? If they want to fall into destruction then will you do the same?
My brother this is the month where we should be trying to get the closest to Allah because it is easier to pray and do good acts.
Get the habit of Salaah and other good actions now and it will be easier to continue doing them throughout the year and that way you would want to stay clear of doing haraam like befriending girls and going out with them. Salaah is the most important action that we need to undertake as Muslims in our daily lives everyday and it is like meeting with Allah 5 times daily.
Get the habit of it now that your young because you do not know when you will die and it is harder to get into the habit of it later on in life thats if you live that long. Many don't live that long so brother the time to change and go towards Allah is now for we may not live to see tomorrow.
Get close to Allah my brother not a girl. Be friends with Allah and not a girl for the girl will lead you to destruction and will waste SO much of your precious time because the youth is such a precious time when we are rewarded the most for our good deeds and good actions and if we stay away from haraam then we will set ourselves up for a life of doing good inshallah. So this is the time we should be trying to build up our imaan (Faith) and strive to get close to Allah then he will help us and bless us in every single aspect of our lives.
If you have any other questions then please don't hesitate to ask.
I have pasted a some very benificial links for you to gain more knowledge about the issue of boyfriend and girlfriend in Islam and also a link which will try to help you and build your imaan (Faith).
10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=47335
Having a Girlfriend: Permissible?
http://www.islamawareness.net/Marriage/fatwa_02.html
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503545452
Talking with Members of the Opposite Sex
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503546580
Mixing Between Men and Women
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...nglish-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaEAskTheScholar
How Should a Muslim Woman Conduct Herself?
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...nglish-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaEAskTheScholar