family relations
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Frank_H_Smith
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As Salamu 'Alaykum,
“When you hear God’s revelations disbelieved in and mocked at, do not sit with them until they enter into some other discourse; surely then you would be like them.” (4:140)
The main way to deal with a violent person is to stay calm. Although many people recommend assuming passive and submissive body language: eye looking down, hands unclenched, jaw relaxed. However, I personally think it is important to make clear that you will not tolerate abuse or violence. Should the person become violent with you, file a police report and follow through. No one has the right to threaten or harm you. (OR, you could do like someone I know did in the case of a violent husband who broke her foot in five places, tore her lip off her mouth, and removed the cast when she returned home. Leave the person, file for a restraining order, start dating your friends brother/sister who is a martial arts instructor and have him/her handle it and buy a gun. ( But I wouldn't recommend this. It is best to let the professionals hand it. ) If the police won't take action than go to an organization that deals with victims of violence and get their help.
Was Salam
“When you hear God’s revelations disbelieved in and mocked at, do not sit with them until they enter into some other discourse; surely then you would be like them.” (4:140)
The main way to deal with a violent person is to stay calm. Although many people recommend assuming passive and submissive body language: eye looking down, hands unclenched, jaw relaxed. However, I personally think it is important to make clear that you will not tolerate abuse or violence. Should the person become violent with you, file a police report and follow through. No one has the right to threaten or harm you. (OR, you could do like someone I know did in the case of a violent husband who broke her foot in five places, tore her lip off her mouth, and removed the cast when she returned home. Leave the person, file for a restraining order, start dating your friends brother/sister who is a martial arts instructor and have him/her handle it and buy a gun. ( But I wouldn't recommend this. It is best to let the professionals hand it. ) If the police won't take action than go to an organization that deals with victims of violence and get their help.
Was Salam
Assalaam walaikum,
The Prophet of Allah told us how to curb our anger. However, when anger and abuse is directed at you it is a safety issue.
Family relations become very complex. The victim often does not wish to betray the family system. The family plays the same song. There are circumstances that are in play. There are triggers that set ofo the person with the anger. You have to be patient and observe what those triggers are. Once you have identified the triggers..what are the events that set this person crazy..you can change your set of responses. It is just a simple suggestion.
The Prophet of Allah told us how to curb our anger. However, when anger and abuse is directed at you it is a safety issue.
Family relations become very complex. The victim often does not wish to betray the family system. The family plays the same song. There are circumstances that are in play. There are triggers that set ofo the person with the anger. You have to be patient and observe what those triggers are. Once you have identified the triggers..what are the events that set this person crazy..you can change your set of responses. It is just a simple suggestion.