wa alaikum asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
I could take this thread completely off topic, but I think I read today threads that demonstrate what you speak of.
One of the first things that perked my interest in Islam was that we are required to think, not just follow. Someone said something about peace too (that was tongue in cheek)
Jazakallah khairan for your intention.
I gave you my take on absolute and extreme, from they way I use the language, not based on a dictionary definition. Is the way you use those words similar, or is there a significant difference?