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Here are 11 pieces of advice to help you in winning others
hearts
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:salam2:
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1. Smile:
It is the first arrow and the fastest of them all. It is like the
salt for food. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and
alms-giving as mentioned in Hadith "Smiling at your brother's
face is as charity (Sadaqa)". Sahaabah reported about the Prophet
(Peace be up on him) saying that they had never seen someone
smile at the other's face more then as the Prophet Muhammad
(Peace be up on him) used to do.
2. Be always the one, who initiates greetings:
This arrow is the one that lets you to be in the inner most
depths of the others hearts. This arrow needs a skilful shooter.
The needed skills are the hearty smile, the warm shaking of hands
and the friendly welcoming to the other. Being successfully
achieved, such kinds of skills are going to be rewarded,
referring to the Hadith: "In greetings, the better is one, who
initiates greeting the other".
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) said: "Do not ever
waste your good deeds, even by meeting your brother with a
frowning face." He said also: "Shaking hands removes hatred and
exchanging presents enhances love and ends enmity."
3. The Presents:
It has a strange charming affection that captivates all senses.
Hence, exchanging presents and gifts in different occasions is a
pleasant habit however gifts should be within one's tolerable
expenses. Prophet (Peace be up on him) told us that giving
presents increases love among Muslims.
4. Be silent….Just speak in what benefits:
Loud voice and chattering are bad merits. You have to be
sweet-worded, tender in expressing yourself. Concerning this
merit, The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said "The good word is a
charity (is a Sadaqa)." If the good word has its own magic in
winning the hearts of your enemies how powerfully it would work
then with your brothers' hearts!!
Prophet's (Peace be up on him) said: "Nobility of manners and
taciturnity are the best of manners that people are ever
characterized by."
5. Be a good listener:
It is to listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the
Prophet (Peace be up on him) never interrupted a speaker till he
ended his speech. And he who fights for this merit gains others
love and admiration, whilst on the contrary is the one who
chatters and interrupts the other. :blackhijab:
6. Appearance and dressing well:
You have to be careful with your appearance so as to be neat,
well-dressed. The Prophet (Peace be up on him) says that Allah
(Saw) loves beauty to be in every thing.
7. Being in others favour and helping them:
Good treatment you classifies you as an obedient, beloved slave
of Allah (Saw) as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) says:
"The more you are in (real) favour of others, the more you are
beloved by Allah (Saw) " as Allah (Saw) says in the Quran: "
And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah (Saw) and make
not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good;
for Allah (Saw) love those, who do good" (2:195)
8. Being Generous:
Offering money is the key for most of the closed doors that
hinder you from reaching others hearts, especially in these days.
Some people behave stingily as if they see the ghost of poverty
waiting to attack them once they think about being generous in
offering money i.e. not the behaviour of the Muslim.
9. To have a good opinion of others and to give them an excuse:
Keeping an eye on others behaviour is a bad merit that blocks
your way to their hearts. On the contrary is to have a good
opinion of them. So, try hard to give your brothers the excuse as
much as you can. Allah (Saw) told us that if some one hurt others
then he or she would have to ask for forgiveness from the person
as well as from Allah (Saw) in order to compensate the mistake.
10. Express your feelings…instantly:
If you loved someone or felt good feelings about them, don't
wait, just tell them at once. Regarding this, the Prophet (Peace
be up on him) said: "If you felt the brotherly love of Islam
towards any, you should immediately go and tell him about your
feelings." He added "It is the way relations are to be strongly
indicated". Such love is to be blessed by Allah (Saw) , if it is
purely for Allah (Saw) 's sake, not for any other personal
affairs such as seeking high position, money, fame etc. Unless
this love is for Allah's (Saw) sake, it is a fruitless kind of
brotherhood then.
Moreover, Allah (Saw) says: "Friends on that Day will be enemies
one to another, except Al Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have strong
faith and deeds)." (43:67)
11. Sociability:
It is the art of being social. Here, a kind of misconception
could exist between sociability and hypocrisy. Could you
differentiate between the two meanings?
The difference between hypocrisy and sociability is that
sociability is a desirable legal behaviour in order to improve
either life on earth or religion or so as to improve both by
sacrificing the worldly affairs, while hypocrisy aims at
sacrificing religion for the sake of the worldly affairs.
The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said: "Being sociable is as
alms-giving. "
hearts
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:salam2:
.
1. Smile:
It is the first arrow and the fastest of them all. It is like the
salt for food. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and
alms-giving as mentioned in Hadith "Smiling at your brother's
face is as charity (Sadaqa)". Sahaabah reported about the Prophet
(Peace be up on him) saying that they had never seen someone
smile at the other's face more then as the Prophet Muhammad
(Peace be up on him) used to do.
2. Be always the one, who initiates greetings:
This arrow is the one that lets you to be in the inner most
depths of the others hearts. This arrow needs a skilful shooter.
The needed skills are the hearty smile, the warm shaking of hands
and the friendly welcoming to the other. Being successfully
achieved, such kinds of skills are going to be rewarded,
referring to the Hadith: "In greetings, the better is one, who
initiates greeting the other".
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) said: "Do not ever
waste your good deeds, even by meeting your brother with a
frowning face." He said also: "Shaking hands removes hatred and
exchanging presents enhances love and ends enmity."
3. The Presents:
It has a strange charming affection that captivates all senses.
Hence, exchanging presents and gifts in different occasions is a
pleasant habit however gifts should be within one's tolerable
expenses. Prophet (Peace be up on him) told us that giving
presents increases love among Muslims.
4. Be silent….Just speak in what benefits:
Loud voice and chattering are bad merits. You have to be
sweet-worded, tender in expressing yourself. Concerning this
merit, The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said "The good word is a
charity (is a Sadaqa)." If the good word has its own magic in
winning the hearts of your enemies how powerfully it would work
then with your brothers' hearts!!
Prophet's (Peace be up on him) said: "Nobility of manners and
taciturnity are the best of manners that people are ever
characterized by."
5. Be a good listener:
It is to listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the
Prophet (Peace be up on him) never interrupted a speaker till he
ended his speech. And he who fights for this merit gains others
love and admiration, whilst on the contrary is the one who
chatters and interrupts the other. :blackhijab:
6. Appearance and dressing well:
You have to be careful with your appearance so as to be neat,
well-dressed. The Prophet (Peace be up on him) says that Allah
(Saw) loves beauty to be in every thing.
7. Being in others favour and helping them:
Good treatment you classifies you as an obedient, beloved slave
of Allah (Saw) as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) says:
"The more you are in (real) favour of others, the more you are
beloved by Allah (Saw) " as Allah (Saw) says in the Quran: "
And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah (Saw) and make
not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good;
for Allah (Saw) love those, who do good" (2:195)
8. Being Generous:
Offering money is the key for most of the closed doors that
hinder you from reaching others hearts, especially in these days.
Some people behave stingily as if they see the ghost of poverty
waiting to attack them once they think about being generous in
offering money i.e. not the behaviour of the Muslim.
9. To have a good opinion of others and to give them an excuse:
Keeping an eye on others behaviour is a bad merit that blocks
your way to their hearts. On the contrary is to have a good
opinion of them. So, try hard to give your brothers the excuse as
much as you can. Allah (Saw) told us that if some one hurt others
then he or she would have to ask for forgiveness from the person
as well as from Allah (Saw) in order to compensate the mistake.
10. Express your feelings…instantly:
If you loved someone or felt good feelings about them, don't
wait, just tell them at once. Regarding this, the Prophet (Peace
be up on him) said: "If you felt the brotherly love of Islam
towards any, you should immediately go and tell him about your
feelings." He added "It is the way relations are to be strongly
indicated". Such love is to be blessed by Allah (Saw) , if it is
purely for Allah (Saw) 's sake, not for any other personal
affairs such as seeking high position, money, fame etc. Unless
this love is for Allah's (Saw) sake, it is a fruitless kind of
brotherhood then.
Moreover, Allah (Saw) says: "Friends on that Day will be enemies
one to another, except Al Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have strong
faith and deeds)." (43:67)
11. Sociability:
It is the art of being social. Here, a kind of misconception
could exist between sociability and hypocrisy. Could you
differentiate between the two meanings?
The difference between hypocrisy and sociability is that
sociability is a desirable legal behaviour in order to improve
either life on earth or religion or so as to improve both by
sacrificing the worldly affairs, while hypocrisy aims at
sacrificing religion for the sake of the worldly affairs.
The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said: "Being sociable is as
alms-giving. "
