cmelbouzaidi
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I live in Florida and my family lives in Europe. After an astounding 17 years of being "Muslim", I finally started trying to fulfill all my obligations, and for me, personally, this included wearing hijab.
I was really scared about breaking the news to some members of my family but I had to do it. It is only a matter of time before I see them again as I will be returning to Europe shortly.
My mother was raised in England and is basically not a spiritual person by any stretch of the imagination. As she is really an atheist, I approached the subject on the phone today, with a firm but non-threatening way.
I knew if I started talking about Qur'an and my obligations in the eyes of Allah, etc., that this would be written of as some crazy ranting. Therefore, the conversation went something line this:
"I wanted to tell you Mum that I have started wearing the Islamic scarf..."
"But why?" came the response.
"It is something I had wanted to do for some time but didn't have the nerve to while I was working. I had been covering myself more as I was going to Sunday school at the mosque and I liked wearing it so I decided to wear it full time...."
"But you don't have to wear it in the house, do you?" was the next question.
"No, when I am with family in the house I don't have to wear it but I wear it every time I go out. Basically I am wearing long tunic shirts over a long skirt or trousers and a scarf on my head. I have had a positive reaction here in Florida, more doors held open, more smiles, etc. I don't know what it will be like when I move to Paris but I am sure it is not a big deal as there are so many women wearing hijab there."
"Okay"... end of conversation
I had been so nervous about it and Alhamdulillah it went better than I had expected although my mother may be somewhat shellshocked
My point is, if you are a revert woman to Islam who is wearing hijab and afraid of telling your family, if your family is basically atheist, the above casual approach may be best.
If you come from a spiritual non-Muslim family, maybe you should get into the small sacrifice we make for Allah and the obligation for all Muslim women to cover themselves.
Whatever your parents are like, be firm in that the decision is already made and it's a done deal. However, always speak kindly to your parents whether they are Muslim or not. I am 38 and was soooooo afraid of my family's reaction that I didn't do this for way too long.... Now I feel a burden lifted, Alhamdulillah.
Hopefully my post may help someone else, Insha Allah.
:tti_sister:
I live in Florida and my family lives in Europe. After an astounding 17 years of being "Muslim", I finally started trying to fulfill all my obligations, and for me, personally, this included wearing hijab.
I was really scared about breaking the news to some members of my family but I had to do it. It is only a matter of time before I see them again as I will be returning to Europe shortly.
My mother was raised in England and is basically not a spiritual person by any stretch of the imagination. As she is really an atheist, I approached the subject on the phone today, with a firm but non-threatening way.
I knew if I started talking about Qur'an and my obligations in the eyes of Allah, etc., that this would be written of as some crazy ranting. Therefore, the conversation went something line this:
"I wanted to tell you Mum that I have started wearing the Islamic scarf..."
"But why?" came the response.
"It is something I had wanted to do for some time but didn't have the nerve to while I was working. I had been covering myself more as I was going to Sunday school at the mosque and I liked wearing it so I decided to wear it full time...."
"But you don't have to wear it in the house, do you?" was the next question.
"No, when I am with family in the house I don't have to wear it but I wear it every time I go out. Basically I am wearing long tunic shirts over a long skirt or trousers and a scarf on my head. I have had a positive reaction here in Florida, more doors held open, more smiles, etc. I don't know what it will be like when I move to Paris but I am sure it is not a big deal as there are so many women wearing hijab there."
"Okay"... end of conversation
I had been so nervous about it and Alhamdulillah it went better than I had expected although my mother may be somewhat shellshocked
My point is, if you are a revert woman to Islam who is wearing hijab and afraid of telling your family, if your family is basically atheist, the above casual approach may be best.
If you come from a spiritual non-Muslim family, maybe you should get into the small sacrifice we make for Allah and the obligation for all Muslim women to cover themselves.
Whatever your parents are like, be firm in that the decision is already made and it's a done deal. However, always speak kindly to your parents whether they are Muslim or not. I am 38 and was soooooo afraid of my family's reaction that I didn't do this for way too long.... Now I feel a burden lifted, Alhamdulillah.
Hopefully my post may help someone else, Insha Allah.
:tti_sister:
