salam everybody
i havent postes before but i have a serious question and i want to know the islamic point of view i guess i can say.
i am not muslim but my mom is and so is my stepdad.
a couple months ago my aunt was here visiting and she was on the computer and saw something and tried to tell my mom about it. i remember my mom getting upset and telling her don't tell me i don't want to know. i had know idea what they were talking about because i was just hanging around and not really listening. plus it was not my business. i remember my mom being very sad the next day when my nanny(my aunt) left. she was crying alot. i didn't ask her what happened.
i just found out something by accident and it has something to do with that day. i figured it out. i feel bad because it is none of my business and i should not listen to other peoples convrsations but i could not help it because they were talking in front of me kind of.
i heard my nanny asked my mom if she ever confronted my stepdad about that email. my mom said no and my aunt said a whole bunch of things. my mom started to cry again.
basically, i found out they were talking about my stepdad and some emails he had with somebody. a girl. i heard my nanny say that she is from singapore and that made me think of some things he said one time about a friend of his, he wasnt talking to me but my mom about that friend. i just remember he said it. i was thinking is this was that friend? if it is, she is pakistani like him too.
from what i heard about his friend from his mouth in the past is he had a friend who was very pious and studying in islam and all kinds of things. a very good person. i didn't knwo it was a girl though.
and the emails that my nanny was talking about must have been from that friend. and that girl wrote to my stepdad that she misses him so much
like this
I MISSSSSSSSSSSSSSS YOUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!!!!!
and she wrote some other things about him. giving him complimemts.
he wrote her back saying I MISSSS YOU TOOOOO!!! and also gave her nice compliments.
from what i have learned about islam from watching and listening to my mom is that this is not allowed. i am mad now and i have lost some repsect for my stepdad because my mom has been through too much sad in her life. too many bad things and for the first time i saw her happy in years and now she is sad a lot. she cries a lot. i hear her say things to my stepdad about him leaving her or talking to people and all that. i think my stepdad is a good muslim but i think he is not a good enough muslim for my mom. if he was than my mom would not be sad and not worry about those things. if he was than he would not tell another girl he misses her. right?
i don't know what to do. i am thinking to say something to him but i don't know where to start and i don't want to get my mom mad at me. she doesn t know i know. i feel guilty for that but i feel like i need to protect her
she doesn't pray anymore or at least i don't see her. she has changed a lot in the past two months. something happened and i think it is because of my stepdad but i am not sure. i know she loves him and he makes her happy but he also makes her very sad and always worried.
i want to know what a good muslim should be like so that maybe i can tell him something. i am not muslim yet but maybe one day. i want to remind him that how he needs to be. do you think this is a good idea?
i am sorry for so much. i never wrote so much in my whole life. not even on my essays for school lol
i am really worried about my mom and really sad for her and i am kind of a little mad at my stepdad for talking to another girl. and also that if that girl is such a pious girl then why is she writing a guy and telling him she misses him? maybe she needs to listen when she is taking her islam lessons cuz she must have missed the part about girls and boys talking to each other.
i havent postes before but i have a serious question and i want to know the islamic point of view i guess i can say.
i am not muslim but my mom is and so is my stepdad.
a couple months ago my aunt was here visiting and she was on the computer and saw something and tried to tell my mom about it. i remember my mom getting upset and telling her don't tell me i don't want to know. i had know idea what they were talking about because i was just hanging around and not really listening. plus it was not my business. i remember my mom being very sad the next day when my nanny(my aunt) left. she was crying alot. i didn't ask her what happened.
i just found out something by accident and it has something to do with that day. i figured it out. i feel bad because it is none of my business and i should not listen to other peoples convrsations but i could not help it because they were talking in front of me kind of.
i heard my nanny asked my mom if she ever confronted my stepdad about that email. my mom said no and my aunt said a whole bunch of things. my mom started to cry again.
basically, i found out they were talking about my stepdad and some emails he had with somebody. a girl. i heard my nanny say that she is from singapore and that made me think of some things he said one time about a friend of his, he wasnt talking to me but my mom about that friend. i just remember he said it. i was thinking is this was that friend? if it is, she is pakistani like him too.
from what i heard about his friend from his mouth in the past is he had a friend who was very pious and studying in islam and all kinds of things. a very good person. i didn't knwo it was a girl though.
and the emails that my nanny was talking about must have been from that friend. and that girl wrote to my stepdad that she misses him so much
like this
I MISSSSSSSSSSSSSSS YOUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!!!!!
and she wrote some other things about him. giving him complimemts.
he wrote her back saying I MISSSS YOU TOOOOO!!! and also gave her nice compliments.
from what i have learned about islam from watching and listening to my mom is that this is not allowed. i am mad now and i have lost some repsect for my stepdad because my mom has been through too much sad in her life. too many bad things and for the first time i saw her happy in years and now she is sad a lot. she cries a lot. i hear her say things to my stepdad about him leaving her or talking to people and all that. i think my stepdad is a good muslim but i think he is not a good enough muslim for my mom. if he was than my mom would not be sad and not worry about those things. if he was than he would not tell another girl he misses her. right?
i don't know what to do. i am thinking to say something to him but i don't know where to start and i don't want to get my mom mad at me. she doesn t know i know. i feel guilty for that but i feel like i need to protect her
she doesn't pray anymore or at least i don't see her. she has changed a lot in the past two months. something happened and i think it is because of my stepdad but i am not sure. i know she loves him and he makes her happy but he also makes her very sad and always worried.
i want to know what a good muslim should be like so that maybe i can tell him something. i am not muslim yet but maybe one day. i want to remind him that how he needs to be. do you think this is a good idea?
i am sorry for so much. i never wrote so much in my whole life. not even on my essays for school lol
i am really worried about my mom and really sad for her and i am kind of a little mad at my stepdad for talking to another girl. and also that if that girl is such a pious girl then why is she writing a guy and telling him she misses him? maybe she needs to listen when she is taking her islam lessons cuz she must have missed the part about girls and boys talking to each other.