Ghareebah
Bint Abdulkadir
:salam2:
i want to ask how i can help a friend especially in ramadan. this freind of mine mashallah is a good sister and i love her. the problem she has is that she is constantly unhappy with her self, she has really low self esteem. many times she has told me that she hates what she is ..her confidence is low in almost everything ..and that whenever she asks allah for help she feels he will not answer her..because part of her is saying to her why should he listen to her? and the other half she says disagrees. she is in constant battle with her self and she said i am the only one she trusts out of her freinds and has asked me for advice. i keep reassuring her that if he puts her trust in allah that will suffice her. i feel no matter how much i say it is not helping, i would do any thing to lift this burden of her but i tried and i am not getting through!!! it is ramadan and i want her to feel that allah is listening and will eventually answer...it is realy sad and disapointing..i guese it is because she is so used to thinking this way that it is stuck with her. she says she wants to get married because she wants someone who will help her with her deen and love her and guide her...she has no hope that will happen..and her family arent much of a big help..she comes from a culture where many islamic belief are frowned upon like the hijab which she has adopted a few years ago..she feels lonely and depressed...and i need something that will lift her spirit for sure!! sonmeone pls advice me...
i want to ask how i can help a friend especially in ramadan. this freind of mine mashallah is a good sister and i love her. the problem she has is that she is constantly unhappy with her self, she has really low self esteem. many times she has told me that she hates what she is ..her confidence is low in almost everything ..and that whenever she asks allah for help she feels he will not answer her..because part of her is saying to her why should he listen to her? and the other half she says disagrees. she is in constant battle with her self and she said i am the only one she trusts out of her freinds and has asked me for advice. i keep reassuring her that if he puts her trust in allah that will suffice her. i feel no matter how much i say it is not helping, i would do any thing to lift this burden of her but i tried and i am not getting through!!! it is ramadan and i want her to feel that allah is listening and will eventually answer...it is realy sad and disapointing..i guese it is because she is so used to thinking this way that it is stuck with her. she says she wants to get married because she wants someone who will help her with her deen and love her and guide her...she has no hope that will happen..and her family arent much of a big help..she comes from a culture where many islamic belief are frowned upon like the hijab which she has adopted a few years ago..she feels lonely and depressed...and i need something that will lift her spirit for sure!! sonmeone pls advice me...