Afthab
Junior Member
As-salamu `alaykum.
What’s the ruling on having a relationship by the name of love between a boy and a girl? Which will not be for the sake of Allah but for the individual human feelings done secretly before their marriage takes place?
(Also please consider the following Arguments).
Most commonly we Muslims know that this kind of illicit relationship is thoroughly not allowed in Islam before nikah (legal marriage). But yet some male and female claim that they do have a rein if they continue the love relationship by the intention of getting married in the future without failing.
(But still no one cannot predict or be sure of the future besides this kind of relationships takes place secretly to the home commonly)
So the question, if people who have this kind of trust and assurance being sure between them self of marriage and then is it allowed to go further continue in loving?
(We have heard that whatever the relationship with a non mehram girl or boy whether it could be for friendship or social move except for certain need is Haram and falls under fitnah (temptation).
But very badly in some society so many males and females are connected in hearts together in love and they share feelings and chatting hours together via the phone as well as many times they meet outside secretly to their homes.
Personally I have tried myself telling to few of my friends (who are involved in this) that this kind of thing is a huge sin and not to be done before marriage irrespectively without the knowledge of their parents, kith kin specially not within the preview of shariah, but they give various reasons to justify this synario as some mentioned below……
1. They will DEFINITLY get married in the future so no problem in doing so….
2. Further some say we are not dating, touching nor public meetings except once in a BLUE MOON.
3. Few say we are only communicating over the phone so it WON’T be a BIGGER sin etc….
Yet I feel these are not acceptable reasons at all, so what’s the ruling on this? So is there truly a liberty according to those facts mentioned above?
Another group of people claim that even if its haram, Allah (SWT) is so merciful and oft forgiving. then they would repent to Allah later after marriage for they have no option left and they are already in love, due to that not in a situation to quit the relationship as I previously said they in a relationship deeply.
In general as to scholars if anyone commits a sin without their knowledge or even purposely then by Allah willingly he or she may be forgiven. But if anyone does the sin purposely by knowing over and over again then will it be forgiven by Allah?
Ex: Relationship with a girl (Non Mehram) is haram and they know this by knowledge, but still turned on means, is a sin done purposely.
Scholars should throw light on this, I truly believe that this will Insha Allah help many young people mouth watering to taste this and to those who are finding illogical answers to justify this.
Jazakum Allahu khayran.
What’s the ruling on having a relationship by the name of love between a boy and a girl? Which will not be for the sake of Allah but for the individual human feelings done secretly before their marriage takes place?
(Also please consider the following Arguments).
Most commonly we Muslims know that this kind of illicit relationship is thoroughly not allowed in Islam before nikah (legal marriage). But yet some male and female claim that they do have a rein if they continue the love relationship by the intention of getting married in the future without failing.
(But still no one cannot predict or be sure of the future besides this kind of relationships takes place secretly to the home commonly)
So the question, if people who have this kind of trust and assurance being sure between them self of marriage and then is it allowed to go further continue in loving?
(We have heard that whatever the relationship with a non mehram girl or boy whether it could be for friendship or social move except for certain need is Haram and falls under fitnah (temptation).
But very badly in some society so many males and females are connected in hearts together in love and they share feelings and chatting hours together via the phone as well as many times they meet outside secretly to their homes.
Personally I have tried myself telling to few of my friends (who are involved in this) that this kind of thing is a huge sin and not to be done before marriage irrespectively without the knowledge of their parents, kith kin specially not within the preview of shariah, but they give various reasons to justify this synario as some mentioned below……
1. They will DEFINITLY get married in the future so no problem in doing so….
2. Further some say we are not dating, touching nor public meetings except once in a BLUE MOON.
3. Few say we are only communicating over the phone so it WON’T be a BIGGER sin etc….
Yet I feel these are not acceptable reasons at all, so what’s the ruling on this? So is there truly a liberty according to those facts mentioned above?
Another group of people claim that even if its haram, Allah (SWT) is so merciful and oft forgiving. then they would repent to Allah later after marriage for they have no option left and they are already in love, due to that not in a situation to quit the relationship as I previously said they in a relationship deeply.
In general as to scholars if anyone commits a sin without their knowledge or even purposely then by Allah willingly he or she may be forgiven. But if anyone does the sin purposely by knowing over and over again then will it be forgiven by Allah?
Ex: Relationship with a girl (Non Mehram) is haram and they know this by knowledge, but still turned on means, is a sin done purposely.
Scholars should throw light on this, I truly believe that this will Insha Allah help many young people mouth watering to taste this and to those who are finding illogical answers to justify this.
Jazakum Allahu khayran.
