salaam alikom
Islamic rules should be followed no matter where we are, Kuwait of Saudi Arabia.
sister first of All ('Azam Allah Ajrak), or "May God make better your bereavement may Allah have mercy on your mother in law and grant her the Firdous inshaAllah,
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajeoon (To Allah we belong and to Him we return)
some info about Janazzah (Funeral)
Question :
Could you please back this up with the hadeeth to make things clearer and also please try to give full reference of the hadeeth to everything you state ?
(But with regard to the prayer (women praying the funeral prayer), there is nothing wrong with that. Women may join the funeral prayer. The prohibition applies only to visiting the graves. Women should not visit graves according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions, because of the ahaadeeth which indicate that that is forbidden. She does not have to offer any kafaarah, all she has to do is repent.)
Can you tell me if women prayed Funeral Prayers in the times of our prophet(P.B.U.H)?
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
Praying the janaazah (funeral) prayer is prescribed for both men and women, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever attends the janaazah until he offers the prayer will have one qeeraat (of reward), and whoever attends until (the deceased) is buried will have two qeeraats.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what are the two qeeraats?” He said, “Like two great mountains,” meaning, of reward. (Saheeh – agreed upon). But women should not follow the funeral procession to the graveyard, because they are not allowed to do that, as it was reported in al-Saheehayn that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “We were forbidden to follow the funeral procession but it was not made absolute on us.” (narrated by Muslim). But women are not forbidden to offer the janaazah prayer, whether it is offered in the mosque, in a house or in a prayer-place. Women used to offer the janaazah prayer with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in his mosque and after his lifetime. Visiting graves, however, is something which is only for men, as is following the funeral procession, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who visit graves. The reason for that – and Allaah knows best – is that there is the fear that if women were to follow funeral processions to the graveyard or visit graves, that would cause fitnah (temptation) to others or to themselves. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I have not left behind any fitnah more harmful to men than women.” (Saheeh – agreed upon). And Allaah is the Source of strength.
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Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah li Samaahat al-Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), vol. 13, p. 133 (
www.islam-qa.com)
There are five main points for the preparation of a Muslim's body for burial; we present briefly the procedure involved in each of them:
I. Body-Washing or "Ghusl"
Washing the deceased's body is obligatory on Muslims; it is a Fard Kifaya, i.e., if some members take the responsibility of doing it the need is fulfilled, but if no one fulfills it then all Muslims will be accountable.
Washing can be carried out in the following way:
A man's body should be washed by men and a women's by women, but a child's body may be washed by either sex. A husband can wash his wife's body and vice-versa if the need arises.
Only one person is needed for washing with someone to help and preferably those people who know the deceased.
Place the body on a high place, e.g., a table or something similar.
Remove the deceased's clothes (garments) leaving the private parts covered.
Press the stomach gently and clean whatever comes out.
For washing, use a piece of cloth or your hands.
Only clean water may be used; add some scented oils (nonalcoholic) in the final wash. It is preferable to use warm water.
Perform ablution (wudu) for the body, cleaning the teeth and nose from outside only.
Wash three times, but if the body needs more cleaning, continue washing five or seven times, but in it must be odd numbers.
Turn the body on its left side and begin washing the right side. Then turn it on its right side to wash the left side. This is done in each wash. The first and the second washes are done with water and soap, while the last one with water and scent.
Hair should be un-braided, washed and combed, For women it may again be braided in three braids.
Dry the body with a clean cloth or towel.
Add some perfume on the head, forehead, nose, hands, knees, eyes, armpits, and place perfumed cotton on the front and rear openings.
II. Wrapping (Kafan)
The cloth used for wrapping the body must be a clean (preferably white) and should cover the whole body.
Add some perfume to the kafan (non-alcoholic).
Do not use silk cloth for men.
Use three pieces of cloth for men and five for women, (each piece of cloth must cover the entire body.)
Tie the open cloth at the head and feet, with a piece of cloth (from the same kafan) in such a way that one can differentiate the head from the legs.
III. Prayers (Salat)
It is better that those praying divide themselves into three rows facing the qibla (Shortest distance to Makkah, Saudi Arabia) with the Imam in front.
Put the body (or bodies) in front of the Imam.
The Imam should stand by the middle of the body if the deceased is a man and by the shoulder if she is a woman.
If there is more than one body, then they should be put one in front of the other, those of the men nearest to the Imam and those of the women furthest from him.
Having the appropriate neeyat (intention to perform Burial Prayers) in your heart, raise your hands in the usual manner and say, Allahu Akbar.
Then fold and hold your hands on your breast in the usual manner, the right hand on the left.
Read al Fatiha quietly.
Say Allah Akbar without raising the hands.
Pray for the Prophet in the same way as you do in tashahud.
Say Allahu Akbar (do not raise your hands).
Make du'a for the deceased.
Say Allabu Akbar (do not raise your hands).
Make du'a for the Muslims.
Say Assalaamu 'Alaikum, thus finishing the prayer.
The entire burial prayer is done while one is standing, there are no raks or sujud in it.
Du'a for the deceased may be chosen from any of the prophetic du'as:
IV. Funeral
In the procession mourners should walk in front or beside the bier. Those who are riding or driving should follow it.
Silence is recommended.
It is absolutely forbidden to accompany the body with music or crying.
V. Burial
The grave should be deep, wide and well made. It is recommended that it consist of two excavations, one inside the other. It is recommended that the smaller one called lahd be dug on the side of the larger one facing the qibla
It is in this one that the body is put.
The deceased's body should be laid on the ground with the face toward the qibla, the direction of the Ka'aba.
While laying it say: Bismillah Wa A'la Milla Rasulallah
It is not recommended to use a casket unless there is a need for it, e.g., if the soil is very loose or wet. A stone, or bricks or some soil should be put under the deceased's head to raise it up.
Do not use a pillow or put anything with the deceased inside the grave.
Cover the lahd with bricks so that they become like a roof for it. Pour three handfuls of soil.
Fill the larger pit with soil. It is preferable that each one of those present share in this by pouring three handfuls of soil. Raise the level of the grave a little less than one foot in a sloping way.
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Janazzah
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