tashu
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Assalamu Alaikum,
Here is my tale and a question what am doing is right or not..
I have been married to a guy from past 5 years, when i got married he was not so religiously where in i was . After few months there was sudden change in him and Masha allah he followed every sunat. But there was an constant nagging from him that i do not perform a wife duties and used to verbally abuse me and my parents for it. I had a baby boy until than so i quietly took all his abuses and tried my best to fulfill all his wishes.
His parents than started interfering into our personal lives, the more was from my father-in law which annoyed me a lot. On complaining this to my husband i got lame excuses stating we need to obey them specially i take orders of my Father in -law of trivial things like visiting my parents place i had to ask permission to my father in law rather than my Husband. Since we stayed in a joint family, i requested my husband to make a separate house since the interference of their parents was creating trouble in our marriage. In all this while i was unaware that my Husband had liked another girl before marriage and wanted to marry her, but due to his parents denial he married me. After a huge fight when i was away from him for few days, he conveyed he wants to marry the same girl whom he loved before our marriage bringing out the truth/ shock of my life that he was in constant touch with her all through this years over call and meeting her occasionally.
Recently we moved out of my In laws house and as soon as we shifted into our new home withing 2 months My husband married that lady without my knowledge, he started avoiding both me and my 4 year old kid, on asking always said of work pressure. After almost 2 months we found out that he has entered into second marriage, betrayed me by lying me all 5 years about his illicit relationship. This has put me into a lot depression and i felt i have been cheated by his lies all these years. I was hurt a lot so i felt i should not continue to stay with him and decided to divorce him by way of Khula , thinking let he be happy with the lady he has married.
its been 7 months am staying with my parents and my khula is pending.
My question is am doing it correct?
i did contact many imams with this regard, and may said i should not divorce him since its halal and according to Sharia he having second wife is lawful.
Am confused please guide me.
Here is my tale and a question what am doing is right or not..
I have been married to a guy from past 5 years, when i got married he was not so religiously where in i was . After few months there was sudden change in him and Masha allah he followed every sunat. But there was an constant nagging from him that i do not perform a wife duties and used to verbally abuse me and my parents for it. I had a baby boy until than so i quietly took all his abuses and tried my best to fulfill all his wishes.
His parents than started interfering into our personal lives, the more was from my father-in law which annoyed me a lot. On complaining this to my husband i got lame excuses stating we need to obey them specially i take orders of my Father in -law of trivial things like visiting my parents place i had to ask permission to my father in law rather than my Husband. Since we stayed in a joint family, i requested my husband to make a separate house since the interference of their parents was creating trouble in our marriage. In all this while i was unaware that my Husband had liked another girl before marriage and wanted to marry her, but due to his parents denial he married me. After a huge fight when i was away from him for few days, he conveyed he wants to marry the same girl whom he loved before our marriage bringing out the truth/ shock of my life that he was in constant touch with her all through this years over call and meeting her occasionally.
Recently we moved out of my In laws house and as soon as we shifted into our new home withing 2 months My husband married that lady without my knowledge, he started avoiding both me and my 4 year old kid, on asking always said of work pressure. After almost 2 months we found out that he has entered into second marriage, betrayed me by lying me all 5 years about his illicit relationship. This has put me into a lot depression and i felt i have been cheated by his lies all these years. I was hurt a lot so i felt i should not continue to stay with him and decided to divorce him by way of Khula , thinking let he be happy with the lady he has married.
its been 7 months am staying with my parents and my khula is pending.
My question is am doing it correct?
i did contact many imams with this regard, and may said i should not divorce him since its halal and according to Sharia he having second wife is lawful.
Am confused please guide me.