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Please allow me to put my 2 cents here, I would say the following:
I would start with this question: Do you think our body, this flesh and bones which we can touch and feel is really us?
I don't think so... The real person is actually our souls, in Arabic the "Rooh", which is actually who we are. Allah has provided very little information about the "Rooh", so we don't know if our Rooh can be a male/female or not. But I believe that Rooh is independent of being a male/female sexes. Allah created us in male/female sexes on this earth, so that He could test us one after another (in generations) and using one another. There are a few ayahs in Quran which suggest that we i.e. our Rooh existed much earlier, and we actually volenteered to participate in this test, so that we could live closer to Allah after successfully completing the test.
Here is one:
AL-AHZAB (033.072)
We did indeed offer the Trust to the Heavens and the Earth and the Mountains; but they refused to undertake it, being afraid thereof: but human (Insaan) undertook it; indeed human are unjust (to themselves) and ignorant;
Here is another:
AL-GHAFIR or AL-MOMIN (040.010)
The Unbelievers will be addressed: "Greater was the anger of Allah on you when you were called upon to the faith and you rejected, than your anger on yourselves (after seeing the Hell fire)"
(040.011)
They will say: "Our Lord!
twice hast Thou made us die, and twice hast Thou given us Life! Now we have recognised our sins: Is there any way out (of this)?"
Twice You made us die means-- first time after accepting the Trust and then second time when we died on earth.
And twice You gave us life means-- once when we were born on earth and then again on the Day of Judgement.
Now... when we (Rooh) were born on this earth did we choose where we will be born? No. Otherwise everyone would want to be born in Bill Gates house... LOL. OK, if we did not choose where we will born, then I doubt that we have chosen our sex. It is all Allah's decision where and which sex He wants His slaves to be born and tested. And some are born in-between or both... you know what I mean, according to the Qadr of Allah (SWT).
My point: Things are much more bigger and grander than what we are capeable to thinking and experiancing on earth.
Now about Jannah:
I have read that before we will enter Jannah we will go thru two stations or stages. On first station we will drink the water of a special spring which will clean us spritually. All the capabilities to have feelings like ego, jelousy and anger etc will be removed and we will be spritually cleansed. If we hated somebody on earth then we will love that person with all our heart in Jannah.
On the second station we will drink water of an another special spring which will make us physically a different being. Our height will increase and we will become so much beautiful and handsome that it is hard to even imagine right now. There will be no traces of any physical imperfection we have on earth. We will no longer have any need to go to the bathroom. Whatever we will eat will exit our body in the form of burps and sweats. So you see... our bodies will totally change into something wonderful and magical by earth's standard. In Jannah our wishes will be the command, and things will happen according to our wishes.
Also in Jannah the women will not be wearing any hijab, they will not have any children, their relationship with men will be totally different than what they have on earth, and a women in Jannah will not be a property of any man. Women will be the owner of Paradise themselves. They will be atleast 70 times more beautiful than Hoor-al Ayen. Their feelings and sentiments and emotions in Jannah will be so different from earth that it is hard to even imagine living here on earth.
The main purpose of becoming husband and wife on earth is to have children so that we could have the continuation of our species. That will not be the case in Jannah. Men and women will get "married" just to have pleasure of one another. I believe that if men will get Hoor-ul Ayens, then the women will get something equal or better, I doubt that Allah will favor the men over the women, because we both have been tested equally here on earth.
The BEST part of being in Jannah is: Occsionally we (both men and women) will be invided to the Arsh (the Throne of Allah) to meet Allah (SWT) upclose, and to see His wonders.
So rest asure sister that we will see no discrimination between men and women there in Jannah.
Here is an interesting article on this very topic:
http://www.hallagulla.com/urdu/disc...r-aleen-jannah-but-what-do-we-get-235687.html
Thanks for reading.
