I am dividing the sections so that they do not become too long and 'boring' for some.
One of the blessings, which Allah bestows upon His slaves, is the love of His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) because loving the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) is a condition of faith.
Once, Umar Ibn Khattab (radhi allahu anhu), made a statement to Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam): "O Messenger of Allah! You are more beloved to me than anything except my own self." Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) remarked saying: "No, by the One in Whose Hand is my soul, not until I am more beloved to you than your own soul." Umar (radhi allahu anhu) then declared his love for the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) saying: "By Allah, now you are more beloved to me than my own soul." Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) then affirmed for him true and complete faith. [Saheeh al-Bukharee]
Thus, Eemaan is incomplete without the love of Allah's Messenger. Not only loving him is important, but the love of Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) should be victorious above the love of everything else. Allah says:
"Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwelling in which you delight are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and striving hard and fighting in His cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). And Allah guides not the people who are disobedient." [Soorah at-Tawbah (9): 24]
Loving the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) is also one of the reasons of achieving 'the sweetness of Eemaan. Scholars explain 'sweetness of Eemaan' to mean the pleasure in obeying Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), enduring hardship in the religion and preferring it to the world. It is reported in Bukharee (1/60) that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Whoever possesses the following three qualities will taste the sweetness of Eemaan. One of whom Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) become dearer than anything else; Whoever loves his brother solely for Allah's sake; and whoever hates to revert to disbelief just as he hates to be thrown into the Fire."
To comprehend and achieve the love of Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), it becomes necessary to answer two important questions, what is love? Or what is the criterion of love? and how to love Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) above everything else? To answer these questions, carefully read the following few paragraphs:
What is Love?
Imaam at-Tabaranee (rahimahullah) relates the story of a Sahabee (radhi allahu anhu) in Majma az-Zawaid (7/7), who came to Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, you are more beloved to me than myself, more beloved to me than my children. When I am in my house, I think of you, and then I cannot wait until I see you. When I think of my death and your death. I know that when you enter Paradise, you will be raised with the Prophets u. I fear that if I enter Paradise, I will not be able to see you.' The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) did not answer until Jibreel (alaihi as-salaam) descended with this verse: "And whoever obeys Allah and the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) then they will be in the company of those on whom Allah bestowed His grace (among them are), the Prophets (alaihimus as-salaam), those who believed in them first, the martyrs and the righteous. How excellent these companions are." [(4): 69]
Revelation of this verse provides a comprehensive answers to our first question, "what is love?" Upon the declaration of the man's love towards the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), Allah revealed a verse encouraging obedience to Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), thus explaining the meaning of love to be 'Obedience.'
This calls for complete submission to the commands and orders of Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam). Allah says: "The only saying of the faithful believers, when they are called to Allah (His Words: the Qur'aan) and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) to judge between them, is that they say: 'We hear and we obey'. It is such as these who will attain success." [Soorah an-Noor (24): 51] And: "By your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) the judge in all disputes between them and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission." [(4): 65]
In other words, Eemaan and obedience to Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) are inseparable, and simultaneous efforts to establish them will lead to everlasting bliss. This is the basis of success; any fault in its foundation will end up in eternal chastisement (punishment) of Hell-Fire. Because the Qur'aan describes hypocrites as disobedient to Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam): "They (hypocrites) say: "We have believed in Allah and in the Messenger and we obey', then a party of them turn away thereafter, such are not believers...Let those who oppose the Messenger's commandments beware, lest some fitnah befall them or a painful torment be inflicted on them." [(24): 47 and 63]
Every one of us claims to love the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) more than our fathers, sons and all the people. But how truthful are we in this claim? Does this claim carry any value in the Sight of Allah?
Scholars have pointed out some criterion and signs to judge one's claim of love, those signs which were observed in the character of the best generation, the Sahabah, those who loved the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) to the highest degree. Some of these signs, their explanation and justification are mentioned below.
? If you find these signs in yourself, then praise and thank Allah that you posses in your heart the true love of Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam).
? If you lack some or all these signs, then hold yourself to account, before you are accounted on the Day of Judgment!! On the Day, when nothing will be hidden from Allah, and no servant of His can even attempt to deceive Him, because as Allah said: "They (think to) deceive Allah and those who believe, while they only deceive themselves, and perceive (it) not." [Soorah al-Baqarah (2): 9]