Pure are for pure ? How should we understand it ?

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Serving Him

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As salam alaykum

Lately, i did hear this verse and articles/sayings about it. Pure women are for pure men. If you want a good wife, you should be good too.

I know a girl who we wanna marry each other but somehow it does not happen -Allah knows best why it does not happen-

I know that i am not perfect and untill today Allah knows such a person i was. And this girl seems to be pure and good mashallah. I also try to be good but still my mind is not so pure i think. And still i can make mistakes.

What i think is... Do you think i should stop waiting for her because maybe i am not good enough for her, therefore if i want to get married early inshallah, i should try to find someone maybe who is more similar with me in context of religion, being pure, having hayaa, taqwa ? Maybe she is so good for me that in order to get married to her i should develop myself more and i am not sure if i can do it or when can i reach that leve.
 
islamerica

islamerica

1 Ummah under God
wa alaykum assalaam,

you two want to marry each other but it doesn't happen? perhaps you are going about it an unislamic way? there is no blessing in the haram. You should be talking to her wali not her and she should be doing the same.

Regarding the verse you mentioned, here's what i could find.

This verse enunciates a fundamental principle. Impure men are a fit match for impure women and pious men are a fit match for pious women. It never happens that a man is good in all other aspects but is addicted to a solitary vice. As a matter of fact, his very habits, manners and demeanor, all contain a number of evil traits, which sustain and nourish that single vice. It is impossible that a man develops a vice all of a sudden without having any trace of its existence in his demeanor and way of life. This is a psychological truth which everybody experiences in the daily lives of the people. How is it then possible that a man who has all along lived a pure and morally clean life, will put up and continue to live for years in love with a wife who is adulterous? Can a woman be imagined who is an adulteress, but she does not manifest her evil character through her talk, gait, manners and deportment? Is it possible for a virtuous man of high character to live happily with a woman of this type? What is being suggested here is that people in future should not credulously put their belief in any rumor that reaches them. They should carefully see as to who is being accused and on what account and whether the accusation fairly sticks on the person or not. And when there exists no trace of evidence to support the accusation, people cannot believe it just because a foolish or wicked person has uttered it.

Some commentators have interpreted this verse to mean that evil things are for the evil people and good things for the good people. The good people are free from the evil things which the wicked people utter about them. Some others have interpreted it to mean that evil deeds only go with evil people and good deeds with good people. The pious people are free from the evil deeds which the wicked people ascribe to them. Still others interpret it to mean that evil and filthy talk is indulged in only by the evil and filthy people and good and pious talk only by the good and pious people. The pious people are free from the sort of talk that these mischievous people are indulging in. The words of the verse are comprehensive and can be interpreted in any of the three ways, but the first meaning that strikes the reader is the one that we have adopted above and the same fits in more meaningfully with the context than others.

http://www.islamicstudies.info/tafheem.php?sura=24&verse=21&to=26

Some more info here: http://khilaafah.com/systems/social_relations/khilafah_8.html

any more than that, especially related you personally, needs to be spoken to your local imam or scholar for an islamic response.
 
a_stranger

a_stranger

Junior Member
Serving Him said:
As salam alaykum

Lately, i did hear this verse and articles/sayings about it. Pure women are for pure men. If you want a good wife, you should be good too.

I know a girl who we wanna marry each other but somehow it does not happen -Allah knows best why it does not
happen-
I know that i am not perfect and untill today Allah knows such a person i was. And this girl seems to be pure and
good mashallah. I also try to be good but still my mind is not so pure i think. And still i can make mistakes.

What i think is... Do you think i should stop waiting for her because maybe i am not good enough for her, therefore ifi want to get married early inshallah, i should try to find someone maybe who is more similar with me in context of
religion, being pure, having hayaa, taqwa ? Maybe she is so good for me that in order to get married to her i should
develop myself more and i am not sure if i can do it or when can i reach that leve.
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Assalamu alaikim

As muslems we should never say that we can't be better, we can't quit disobedience to Allah , we can . Islam teaches us how to repent , how to be closer to Allah subhanahu wa taaala by praying sincerely , studying Quran, doing good.........it is easy if we are willing . I think this girl can be a good wife for you , you should be good for her .Try with sincerity pray with a heart......and never talk to her now .......go to her family and ask her wali. In Islam no relation between men and women outside marriage. If you are sincere and truthful , I am sure Allah will make things easy for you ........and Allah knows best
 
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