I gave the example of the 15 year old girl and said that I could see where in Tunisia in her situation, marriage is a viable alternative in THAT situation.....
very interesting and informative article,but it raises one question that though aisha was a women(according to that time after puberty )at the time of consummation and was responsible as any other adult , however the marriage itself happened when she was still a six year old child.
was she capable of making a choice ? is it right to marry a child, when she does not know what she is commiting to and holding her to it when she grows up? . wouldnt it have been better to have waited till she reached puberty and then got married .
I can understand where Diane is coming from ... it is something you grew up with and therefore you will find it difficult ... this however does not make it logical.
I have asked a fairly educated group of Westerners, why is it that marrying at 16 (For UK) is considered OK, but not earlier provided the girl is physically mature ? I had no answers ... not even weak ones. Can you asnwer this question, Diane ?
Mental maturity is a poorly defined limit. What is mental maturity any way ? What do you really need to know to be married ? It is a well recognised fact that children mature quicker when are taught to handle responsibilities earlier. Men at the age of 16 were leading armies at the time of the prophet (may peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) and women at even younger age were teaching nations (i.e. Aisha may Allah be pleased with her). Are you telling me that those people were not qualified mentally ? Well, if they were not qualified then I don't know who is.
I think that the 16 years old Western limit stems from the current social structure where people cannot be economically active until that age due to requirement of schooling ... etc. Marriage at an earlier stage would be detrimental to the progress of the individual due to clash with career/education (or presumed to be so). This situation is a fairly recent one. When did this schooling system start to exist ? With the increased materialisation of the society, this limit seems to be going up. It is now common for people not to get married until even later stages and for women to have their first child in their 30's. The irony of seeing this as "natural" and demonising early marriage (which is truely natural) is all too obvious. This is not to mention the hypocrisy of banning early marriage and tolerating (or rather glorifying) underage sex (fornication), or are you going to tell me that it does not happen ?
Just try and answer these questions for yourself. I had to go through a similar phase. Ask yourself, WHY is it so & so ? I'm sure you'll come to understand.
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There is consensus that Hazrat Aisha was 10 years younger than her elder sister Asma, whose age at the time of the hijrah, or migration to Madina, was about 28. It can be concluded that Hazrat Aisha was about 18 years old at migration. On her moving to the Prophet’s house, she was a young woman at 21. Hisham is the single narrator of the hadith whose authenticity is challenged, for it does not correlate with the many historical facts of the time.