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Baraka ALLaah fik my sister about this good question :
Limits and conditions within which a man may speak to a non-mahram woman
Question:
My question is about the adab or the manner between a brother and sister?
I need clarifcation, are we allowed to give salam to sister who is not your muhram or talk to her as you talk to a brother, and how much you allowed to talk?
and what about the non-muhram who are cousine, for example the uncles daughter Am I allowed to give salam and talk to her, and how is her life?please provide for me daleel(proof) and what about marriage?
what allowed talk and salam, ( what is allowed and not) all these things!
because today people mixed between culture and deen, when you tell them about that they say you are bringing new religon!, even alot brothers who relgious don't know this, you may see salafy brother talking weetlgy to sister who were nikab and not his muhram,
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
In brief, what the fuqaha’ have said about women’s voices is that they are not ‘awrah in and of themselves, and there is nothing wrong with listening to them when there is a need to do so, so they do not forbid listening to them, but certain conditions apply, as follows:
The woman should speak without elongating the words, making her voice soft, or raising her voice. It is haraam for a man to listen with enjoyment, for fear of fitnah (temptation).
The decisive factor for knowing what is haraam in the matter of women’s speaking is what is included in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):
“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.” [al-Ahzaab 33:32]
What is forbidden is being too soft in speech. It is obligatory for women to speak in an honourable manner, which means, as the mufassireen explained, that they should not make their voices soft when addressing men. In conclusion, what is required of the Muslim woman when she speaks to a non-mahram man is that she should adhere to what is mentioned in this aayah. She should refrain from what is forbidden and should fulfil her duties. She should speak only when necessary, and only about matters that are permissible and honourable, not evil. Between a woman and a non-mahram man there should be no intonation, gestures, chat, joking, flirting or playful talk, so that there will be no room for provocation of desires and doubts. Women are not prevented from talking to non-mahram men when it is necessary to do so, such as dealing directly with them when buying things or conducting any other financial transaction, because in such cases it is necessary for both parties to speak. A woman may also ask a scholar about some legal Islamic matter, or a man may ask a woman such questions, as is proven in various texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah. Within the guidelines described above, there is nothing wrong with a woman speaking to a non-mahram man. It is also permissible for men to greet women with salaam and vice versa, according to the most correct opinion, but this greeting must be free of anything that may provoke desire in the person in whose heart is a disease, so as to be safe from fitnah and pay attention to the regulations outlined above.
If there is fear of fitnah being provoked by this greeting, then the woman should refrain from either initiating or returning the greeting, because warding off fitnah by neglecting the greeting is warding off mischief, and warding off mischief takes precedence over doing something useful. (See al-Mufassal fi Ahkaam al-Mar’ah by ‘Abd al-Kareem Zaydaan, vol 3/276). And Allaah knows best.
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asalamualaikum. Pray all r ok. May allah reward you for showin your concern whether its permissable or not to talk to a ghair(non) mahram(direct family).
My dear sister, allah (S.W.T) has naturally put the desire of a human towards the opposite gender. Its something which is present in human instinct and a desire which is natural. Thats why, rasulullah (saw) encouraged those who are young and capable of providing for a wife and family to get married quickly once a good match is found. The reason is, to avoid the whispers and temptations of our open enemy shaitaan. It is said when a non mahram man and women speak, there is a shaitaan there whisperin into both parties. I admit its more serious when one to one in person, but even on the phone its the same shaitaan. The risk is slightly lower, but still dominant. One scholar says that he deals with cases where girls and boys started by only talkin online, and ended up in sin. How do these unfortunate incidents take place? its shaitaan. If you refer to the article sent by my friend massi, which is mashallah written by a scholar, it says in the third paragraph 'She should speak only when necessary, and only about matters that are permissible and honourable'. If obviously its a necessity to talk, then its not a problem. Its to protect us from sin. plz refer to the answer given by a scholar to a question similar to yours.
Question
How can just talking to someone of the opposite sex be regarded as adultery? How can this be regarded as adultery if you dont see them, talk about haram things or are tempted to meet them and do haram?
Answer
If there is no need to talk to the opposite gender who are non-Mahrams (not prohibited in marriage), then that is a sin.
Shariah strongly advocates separation and segregation of sexes. The evils of intermingling of sexes and free communication between them are well known. In brief, it is death to a pure and clean heart and mind. It is death to spirituality.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
As we know, islam only forbids those actions which are harmful to us wth respect to both religious and wordly matters. If inshallah you intend to get married to the brother, then plz reply and inshallah i will send you a question and answer which was put forward to a scholar regarding this.
If however you dont have this intention at the moment(or it isnt possible), then the best way isnt that you dont answer his calls. Have a conversation with him and explain the whole situation to him. Then tell him, its best if we stop talking for the benefit of both of us. Also, make dua Allah makes it easy for you. I pray that Allah makes all easy for you and may Allah give you the ability to fight our enemy shaitaan. So if you do have the intention to further the relationship with the brother, please send a reply. Jazallah
And Allah knows best
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My dear sister, allah (S.W.T) has naturally put the desire of a human towards the opposite gender. Its something which is present in human instinct and a desire which is natural. Thats why, rasulullah (saw) encouraged those who are young and capable of providing for a wife and family to get married quickly once a good match is found. The reason is, to avoid the whispers and temptations of our open enemy shaitaan. It is said when a non mahram man and women speak, there is a shaitaan there whisperin into both parties. I admit its more serious when one to one in person, but even on the phone its the same shaitaan. The risk is slightly lower, but still dominant. One scholar says that he deals with cases where girls and boys started by only talkin online, and ended up in sin. How do these unfortunate incidents take place? its shaitaan. If you refer to the article sent by my friend massi, which is mashallah written by a scholar, it says in the third paragraph 'She should speak only when necessary, and only about matters that are permissible and honourable'. If obviously its a necessity to talk, then its not a problem. Its to protect us from sin. plz refer to the answer given by a scholar to a question similar to yours.
Question
How can just talking to someone of the opposite sex be regarded as adultery? How can this be regarded as adultery if you dont see them, talk about haram things or are tempted to meet them and do haram?
Answer
If there is no need to talk to the opposite gender who are non-Mahrams (not prohibited in marriage), then that is a sin.
Shariah strongly advocates separation and segregation of sexes. The evils of intermingling of sexes and free communication between them are well known. In brief, it is death to a pure and clean heart and mind. It is death to spirituality.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
As we know, islam only forbids those actions which are harmful to us wth respect to both religious and wordly matters. If inshallah you intend to get married to the brother, then plz reply and inshallah i will send you a question and answer which was put forward to a scholar regarding this.
If however you dont have this intention at the moment(or it isnt possible), then the best way isnt that you dont answer his calls. Have a conversation with him and explain the whole situation to him. Then tell him, its best if we stop talking for the benefit of both of us. Also, make dua Allah makes it easy for you. I pray that Allah makes all easy for you and may Allah give you the ability to fight our enemy shaitaan. So if you do have the intention to further the relationship with the brother, please send a reply. Jazallah
And Allah knows best
request your duas