Aida1
Junior Member
Assalamu 'aleikum wa rachmatullahi wa barakatahu,
My friends and family have know for quite a while that I am muslim. My mum and my best friends for about 3,5 years, other family for about 2. They accepted it without arguement hamdulillah. My mother wasn't even surprised, saying that she had expected it for a while that I would become a muslim, due to my character. The only obstacle to her was hijab. She didn't understand it then and she doesn't now. Hamdulillah my other relatives are more open to it, perhaps because they are religious themselves (though catholic), and my mother isn't. The first thing they asked when I finally had the courage to tell them I had become a muslim, was why I wasn't wearing hijab. They asked this in curiosity and out of interest in my choice to become muslim.
The fysical part (practice as well as appearance) of subjugating to the will of Allah (swt), is what my mother and some of my friends cannot understand and find difficult to accept. The first time my mother saw me in hijab (when I came back from the mosque), tears came to her eyes. She said she couldn't believe I was giving up my freedom to wear what I want, to the problems she forsees in wearing a headscarf in public. She is most afraid that people will treat me differently, and not in a good way, especially when it comes to the professional environment. I told her not to worry.
Even though I told her from the start I wanted to wear hijab 'fulltime' one day (I didn't start wearing hijab right away), and she has had quite some time to get used to it, she still opposes the idea, though she vocalizes it less often now. I moved out some 9 months ago and since then I went through a lot of personal changes. Since a couple of weeks I wear hijab fulltime alhamdulillah. I had long longed for it but didn't have the courage. Finally I felt it was time and I could wait no longer. However... I haven't seen my mom since and I didn't tell her. I didn't tell anyone else either for that matter. Just one friend knows I was getting really serious about it recently.. Now I've posted a picture of me on my facebook page with me wearing hijab. It is the first time people, friends and family, see me with hijab on, except for my mother and two friend who had seen it once or twice before. I expected some backlash, seeing how most are opposed to wearing a headscarf, but until now, people have been nothing but positive about it hamdulillah!
Summary and motto of my little story: Even though I expected more negative responses and was SO afraid of showing people the real me that I had been for longer than I fysically dared show, my family and friends are proving me wrong hamdulillah.
- I learned that sometimes you just have to have the strength and courage to show people who you really are, because they just might accept it -
Just wanted to share this happy moment and positive experience , maybe in the hope of inspiring other reverts
- wa salaam
My friends and family have know for quite a while that I am muslim. My mum and my best friends for about 3,5 years, other family for about 2. They accepted it without arguement hamdulillah. My mother wasn't even surprised, saying that she had expected it for a while that I would become a muslim, due to my character. The only obstacle to her was hijab. She didn't understand it then and she doesn't now. Hamdulillah my other relatives are more open to it, perhaps because they are religious themselves (though catholic), and my mother isn't. The first thing they asked when I finally had the courage to tell them I had become a muslim, was why I wasn't wearing hijab. They asked this in curiosity and out of interest in my choice to become muslim.
The fysical part (practice as well as appearance) of subjugating to the will of Allah (swt), is what my mother and some of my friends cannot understand and find difficult to accept. The first time my mother saw me in hijab (when I came back from the mosque), tears came to her eyes. She said she couldn't believe I was giving up my freedom to wear what I want, to the problems she forsees in wearing a headscarf in public. She is most afraid that people will treat me differently, and not in a good way, especially when it comes to the professional environment. I told her not to worry.
Even though I told her from the start I wanted to wear hijab 'fulltime' one day (I didn't start wearing hijab right away), and she has had quite some time to get used to it, she still opposes the idea, though she vocalizes it less often now. I moved out some 9 months ago and since then I went through a lot of personal changes. Since a couple of weeks I wear hijab fulltime alhamdulillah. I had long longed for it but didn't have the courage. Finally I felt it was time and I could wait no longer. However... I haven't seen my mom since and I didn't tell her. I didn't tell anyone else either for that matter. Just one friend knows I was getting really serious about it recently.. Now I've posted a picture of me on my facebook page with me wearing hijab. It is the first time people, friends and family, see me with hijab on, except for my mother and two friend who had seen it once or twice before. I expected some backlash, seeing how most are opposed to wearing a headscarf, but until now, people have been nothing but positive about it hamdulillah!
Summary and motto of my little story: Even though I expected more negative responses and was SO afraid of showing people the real me that I had been for longer than I fysically dared show, my family and friends are proving me wrong hamdulillah.
- I learned that sometimes you just have to have the strength and courage to show people who you really are, because they just might accept it -
Just wanted to share this happy moment and positive experience , maybe in the hope of inspiring other reverts
- wa salaam