who,s more important- mother?
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Assalammualaikum sister,
Hmmmmmm very good question ! before marriage, parents. After marriage, husband. but still parents are equally important but you are your husband's responsibility now. when it comes to wife's or mother's advice succeeds whos, that's tough. As long as the mother's advice brings the wife & husband closer together or mend their differences, that'll bring good. But really, i think mums & dads should not interfere in their married children's affair. Try to work it out as husband & wife as far as possible without having a third party in the picture. - just my opinion. Salam
Hmmmmmm very good question ! before marriage, parents. After marriage, husband. but still parents are equally important but you are your husband's responsibility now. when it comes to wife's or mother's advice succeeds whos, that's tough. As long as the mother's advice brings the wife & husband closer together or mend their differences, that'll bring good. But really, i think mums & dads should not interfere in their married children's affair. Try to work it out as husband & wife as far as possible without having a third party in the picture. - just my opinion. Salam
A
addan
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um
what do u think?
um_are u muslim becouse if u muslim u have to now it
sis u queation was scry
mother and wife our husban
it so funy uqtee
wive she come and go
husban he coming and go
so what do u think mother?
scry queation no funy
what do u think?
um_are u muslim becouse if u muslim u have to now it
sis u queation was scry
mother and wife our husban
it so funy uqtee
wive she come and go
husban he coming and go
so what do u think mother?
scry queation no funy
brother4ever
Junior Member
:salam2:
Sister
I am agree with you.
ALLAH HAFIZ
Sister
I am agree with you.
ALLAH HAFIZ
I think there has to be compromises on both sides, sometimes parents don't always do whats best by their children maybe that can be put down to culture clashes but i think you should do best by your wife/husband firstly (as long as their being reasonable) because your relationship with your partner is different to that of the one with your parents, whilst acting with respect towards your parents.
MUHAMMAD_SHAIKH
Banned
well......Every relation has its features and obligations...as an unmarried you are the responsibiltiy of your parents.You need their guidance all the way long but after marriage,your road changes,now husband is boarding in the drivers seat so you better follow him in halal things...Receive his advices first if they are on islamic agenda.
melissa123
Not Junior Anymore!!
I thought there was a hadith (or maybe a story??) that goes something like (forgive me if this isnt completely right, im new to Islam) a man went to the profit Mohammed (pbuh) and asked who should i respect most after Allah and the profit, and profit Mohammed (pbuh) replied "your mother" the man was a little confused - "and then who?" "your mother" said profit Mohammed (pbuh), the man asked again "and then who?" 'your mother" "then who?" "your father".... so i think that this is correct. Thats just me, but your parents, and especially your mother had to look after you from when you were a little baby and totally dependant on them, and when you get married you both look after each other right? But i think that everyone is important 
I thought there was a hadith (or maybe a story??) that goes something like (forgive me if this isnt completely right, im new to Islam) a man went to the profit Mohammed (pbuh) and asked who should i respect most after Allah and the profit, and profit Mohammed (pbuh) replied "your mother" the man was a little confused - "and then who?" "your mother" said profit Mohammed (pbuh), the man asked again "and then who?" 'your mother" "then who?" "your father".... so i think that this is correct. Thats just me, but your parents, and especially your mother had to look after you from when you were a little baby and totally dependant on them, and when you get married you both look after each other right? But i think that everyone is important
:salam2:
I have read this before sis,thats what i ment in my post aswell.(LOL,just couldn`t connect the whole thing.)
melissa123
Not Junior Anymore!!
i thought thats the one you were talking about! I like that one
melissa123
Not Junior Anymore!!
was it right? i read it about a year ago even before i was muslim
A
addan
Guest
salaam
hi all ummah
i will naver but my wive semaler of my mother
my mother was a queen of bast of basts
iam a crazy of mother
ilove mother
ilove mother
ilove mother
allamu akbar
hi all ummah
i will naver but my wive semaler of my mother
my mother was a queen of bast of basts
iam a crazy of mother
ilove mother
ilove mother
ilove mother
allamu akbar
I agree with above. and parents and spouse should not be disagreeing but rather communicating in a respectful manner.
A
addan
Guest
ummah wre are u
thanks sarah
what do u think mum and wive?
wan i hear islam i cry
wan i hear mum i cry 2
wan i see peaple taking shahada i cry walahe
so ummah wre are u
ilove mumeneen
i hate munaveqeen
i love ummah
thanks sarah
what do u think mum and wive?
wan i hear islam i cry
wan i hear mum i cry 2
wan i see peaple taking shahada i cry walahe
so ummah wre are u
ilove mumeneen
i hate munaveqeen
i love ummah
:salam2:
Mashalllah akhi...well i think mum and wife are two different to compare..
Mum is a mother and wife is a partner...(they have their own respect and Love.)
Happy 2BA Muslim
Islamophilic
Obeying one’s husband comes before obeying one’s parents and siblings
Question:
how important is a husband to his wife, are her sisters more important than husband, who should she listen to, how up on the importance ladder does husband comes. is husband more important than her own parents and sisters.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
The Qur’aan and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”
[al-Nisa’ 4:34]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899.
Al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, commenting on this hadeeth: Since it is obligatory for a woman to obey her husband with regard to his satisfying his desire, it is more appropriate that it be obligatory for her to obey him in that which is more important than that, namely raising their children, guiding the family, and other rights and duties.
From Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 282
Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.
Ibn Maajah (1853) narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Abi Awfa said: When Mu’aadh came from Syria, he prostrated to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said,
“What is this, O Mu'aadh?” He said, I went to Syria and saw them prostrating to their archbishops and patriarchs, and I wanted to do that for you. The Messenger of Allaah (S) said, “Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allaah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman can fulfil her duty towards Allaah until she fulfils her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah.
Ahmad (19025) and al-Haakim narrated from al-Husayn ibn Muhsin that his paternal aunt came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) for something and he dealt with her need, then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He said: “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not neglect any of his rights except those I am unable to fulfil.” He said: “Look at how you are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell” – i.e., he is the cause of you entering Paradise if you fulfil his rights and the cause of your entering Hell if you fall short in that.
Al-Mundhiri classed the isnaad of this hadeeth as jayyid in al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb; it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, no. 1933.
If there is a conflict between obedience to one’s husband and obedience to one’s parents, then obedience to one’s husband takes priority. Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) said concerning a woman who has a husband and a sick mother: Obeying her husband is more obligatory upon her than (taking care of) her mother, unless he gives her permission. (Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat, 3/47).
In al-Insaaf (8/362) it says: She does not have to obey her parents with regard to leaving her husband or visiting etc., rather obedience to the husband takes priority.
There is a hadeeth concerning this issue which was narrated by al-Haakim from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Who has the most right over a woman?” He said: “Her husband.” I said, “Who has the most right over a man?” He said, “His mother.”
But this is a weak (da’eef) hadeeth, which was classed as such by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1212, and he criticized al-Mundhiri for classing it as hasan.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A
virtualeye
Tamed Brother
AssalaamuAlaikum,
For Husanband:
1- Allah and his Prophet,
2- then his mother
3- then his father,
4- then his wife and children.
For Wife:
1- First Allah and his Prophet,
2- then her Husband. (children will be nurtured according to the lawful wish of husband)
3- then her mother and father.
Wassalaam.
For Husanband:
1- Allah and his Prophet,
2- then his mother
3- then his father,
4- then his wife and children.
For Wife:
1- First Allah and his Prophet,
2- then her Husband. (children will be nurtured according to the lawful wish of husband)
3- then her mother and father.
Wassalaam.