"go to websites like islamqa.com, it gives the answers from scholars who really know about islam, don't ask difficult question to 'your local muslim' because you got a big chance that they don't know the answer and just give you their opinion,"
yes i look at internet stuff as well, but i find sometimes it is helpful to talk to real people so that i can actually know what they are truly thinking. sometimes organizations are better at hiding their true motives.
"If your intent was not to offend, it is upto you to relay that to us."
I probably did, but how can we know since it was deleted?
"The word 'Sex' is offensive as that is a personal practice which unfortunately western civilization has made into such an open & disgustingly marketable affair. Please respect other people/religions (not just Islam) views, thats the first step you can take."
if you want me not to use the word "sex" in the future on this site i can do that, but i will not apologize for using it in the past, nor accept it as justification for the moderator deleting my post. the name of this site is "turntoislam.COM" .com is an American suffix, and NO ONE in America above the age of five finds this word offensive (actually the word semen which is mentioned in the Quran is more likely to offend, and is thought of as more descriptive). Given this is a .com (i.e. American) site in English how was I supposed to predict your extreme sensitivities? in summation it wouldn't give anyone the right to delete my post.
"As always, we are here to help & answer your questions. I have not replied to your original question as I feel the top referred to already answers it in detail & much better than I ever could."
Yes, i understand completely and i'm sorry i haven't checked that out yet. I'm almost afraid to because I know it will probably raise dozens more questions, which will mean i have to do more time consuming studying on the matter, and i'm already doing poorly in my classes in trying to study this stuff.
"My friend what you are doing is attacking history with a modern approach.you are judging history and culture based on the standerds of today. It is wrong and foolish to do so."
no, i specifically was NOT doing that. i did not call muhammad a child molester, i was merely pointing out the bias in the culture i am from, and therefor the restraint i must use to properly analyze this objectively. This is pretty shocking news, so it takes a little bit of time for the shock to wear off that i may objectively consider the perspective that nine year olds are old enough to--how shall i say this?--consumate ones marraige with. But I repeat I am attempting to not judge this with by my cultural values. I know that a lot of the things you mentioned are true (although that wikipedia link about 12 years being the age of consent in America is actually a link to Canada), but the difference for me is that these aren't my prophets, and certainly not my greatest, most highly revered prophet, whose actions i see as being ordained by God as being right for all to follow for all time as I think most Muslims view most (if not all) of Mohammad's actions.
"Now i hope that dosent make Their god a child molester."
no Christian believes that God had sex with Mary, so he wouldn't be a molester. also, there is a big difference between age 9 and age 15 when she probably would have been actually married to Joseph. (i do not tell you this last opinion to engage in debate, i am just saying it to give you what the average Western Christian perspective would be.)
"After all, how can they say this marriage was wrong, when in the Arab culture it is normal for a girl at a young age to marry?."
was it normal for men as old as Mohammad to consumate with 9 year old wives? i think i heard that Mohammad was 51 at the time. I could be wrong about that, though. again, not trying to debate the significance of Mohammad's age, i am just curious.
Also, your written english is fine.
salam.
objected to his marriage to Aisha. Her hand in marriage was given to the Prophet by her own father, she willingly accepted. This was the norm of that time. No polytheist, no Jew and no Christian objected, ridiculed or even mentioned anything with regard to Prophet Muhammad's marriage to Aisha. It was accepted that a marriage was seen lawful when a person had attained puberty. This was the norm for not just the Prophet's time, but for 1000s of years.