Actions speak louder than words
Assalamu Alaikum Brother
May Allah give you strength...
I have been through the same experience as you- wife didn,t feel "consulted" about my conversion etc ...now nearly a year on.. its far easier
I explain bit by bit, without asking for her to change..I now don,t ask my wife to work- I point out the rights women have from the Holy Qu'ran, we now have Halal meet that all the family find much more tasty.. they enjoyed the feasts that I laid on, during the last years' Holy month of Ramadan for the family.. you will (Insha'Allah) be encouraged by my experience, that was very painful and testing at first.
I find a tremendous misunderstanding of Islam in the UK, from non-Muslims, I explain my reasons for converting:
Submission to the Almighty (praise be to Allah)
Feelings of compassion and understanding- I felt very different after my first Ramadan last year..feelings of self-centredness have evaporated away, the material chatels, I used to love, mean very little now..
I am impressed by our religion of Islam as a way of life, not something that can be done once a week- its much more than a token efforts..
The rewards- less fearfulness, seeing the hand of Allah in many events in your life, a sense of calm, a different outlook upon previous behaviours ...
I will pray for you, Insha'Allah that your example of change will convince with time..
Salam
Na'il Jamal Clarke
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