marriage;inter racial nd cousin dealings
SalaamuAlikumweRahmetAllahebarakatuh. I honestli cant seem to understand wat is so 'incestful' tht 2 cousins marry. I do not realli no any of my cousins nd they live in differnt countries but nevertheles i dun c y my anser wud change. If i wer to thnk bout it, if i actualil new a person realli well, like a cousin, tht they wer like a brother to me or whatever the case, then ok, obviosuli ther wud b a problem marrying THT cousin. if i felt ALL my cousins wer like my brothers, then its my personal choice to choose not to marry ne of em. If jus one cousin felt like a brother or tht it wud b too werid, then ok, they wudnt b considered. But if ther is nuthin like tht, how can it b deemed incestful? how can it jsu b catogrized tht ne cousin marrying nother cousin is RONG or negaitve? THt in itself doesnt make sense.It DOES depend on the ppl involved nd the relationship tht exisits, its not a general rule thte shud appli for all. In reagrds to arranged mariages nd inter racial mariages, in a snse i can understand y sum ppl lean towards them, in teh sense tht both partners undrestnad teh same language, the famili can as well, certain thigns r held to the same value as others nd etc. but i dun c y neone shud force ther children to marry within ther cuture or race, etc. As long as we r all muslims(InshALlah), it shudnt matter tht we r of a diff coulor or race or culture. What matters is each individuals emaan.End of story. Again, marraiges in teh same race or culture can b of an asset, but nthin of hte like shud b forced on neone. many parents dun ralize this, nd look for partners for the cihldren based on culutre etc, rather than emaan, without realizin its eapersons emaan tht will assist in the overall succes of ea membr inthe marraige, u r out to protect nd giv ure children the best tht u can to ehlp em succed in life, by the will of Allah SWT InshAllah, not jus 'protect teh culutre' . Again, its understandbale y it may be considered and may seem appealin for sum in a sense, btu then it whud b a personal choice we should all hav the rite to make. SalaamuAlikumwRahmetAllaheabrkatuh