100 premarital questions

hayat_yahya

Junior Member
1. What is your concept of marriage?
2. Have you been married before?
3. Are you married now?
4. What are you expectations of marriage?
5. What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
6. Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near
future.
7. Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
8. Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?
9. What is the role of religion in your life now?
10. Are you a spiritual person?
11. What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
12. What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
13. What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims
community in your area?
14. Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?
15. What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
16. What is the role of the husband?
17. What is the role of the wife?
18. Do you want to practice polygamy?
19. What is your relationship with your family?
20. What do you expect your relationship with the family of your
spouse to be?
21. What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to
be?
22. Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
23. Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in
the future?
24. If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour,
what should be done?
25. Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
26. How did you get to know them?
27. Why are they your friends?
28. What do you like most about them?
29. What will your relationship with them after marriage be?
30. Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
31. What is the level of your relationship with them now?
32. What will be the level of your relationship with them after
marriage?
33. What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with
your friends?
34. What are the things that you do in your free time?
35. Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
36. What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to
the house?
37. What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do
not understand? (with friends or family)
38. Do you travel?
39. How do you spend your holidays?
40. How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
41. Do you read?
42. What do you read?
43. After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic
feelings verbally?
44. After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in
public?
45. How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
46. How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor
for you?
47. Do you like to write your feelings?
48. If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
49. If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to
you?
50. How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
51. How do you make important and less important decisions in your
life?
52. Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
53. Do your friends use foul language?
54. Does your family use foul language?
55. How do you express anger?
56. How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
57. What do you do when you are angry?
58. When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in
marriage?
59. When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise,
how should the conflict get resolved?
60. Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
61. What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
62. Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
63. Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
64. Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before
marriage?
65. What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
66. How do you support your own health and nutrition?
67. What is you definition of wealth?
68. How do you spend money?
69. How do you save money?
70. How do you think that your use of money will change after
marriage?
71. Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to
eliminate them?
72. Do you use credit cards?
73. Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
74. What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
75. What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
76. Do you support the idea of a working wife?
77. If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
78. Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
79. Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
80. Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
81. Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
82. To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
83. Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage?
If not, when?
84. Do you believe in abortion?
85. Do you have children now?
86. What is your relationship with your children now?
87. What is your relationship with their other parent?
88. What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your
children and their parent?
89. What is the best method(s) of raising children?
90. What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
91. How were you raised?
92. How were you disciplined?
93. Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
94. Do you believe in public school for your children?
95. Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
96. Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
97. What type of relationship should your children have with
non-Muslim classmates/friends?
98. Would you send your children to visit their extended family if
they lived in another state or country?
99. What type of relationship do you want your children to have with
all their grandparents?
100. If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are
of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you
want to have with them?
 

amina88

I live & die 4 Allah
Wow, imagin sitting down with your potential partner with this list in your hand and ticking them off as you ask them...once you reach the 100th question, the potential partner will say, now my turn, are you crazy.
Jks, some very good questions there
 

Libinette

Umm Zubayr
Bismillah

Right, let me print this off right now..this is a must have sistas, seriously :D
Barakallahu Feek a Hayet :hearts:

ps: please someone try this out and tell us the result yeh?
 

hayat_yahya

Junior Member
Wow, imagin sitting down with your potential partner with this list in your hand and ticking them off as you ask them...once you reach the 100th question, the potential partner will say, now my turn, are you crazy.
Jks, some very good questions there

Bismillah

Right, let me print this off right now..this is a must have sistas, seriously :D
Barakallahu Feek a Hayet :hearts:

ps: please someone try this out and tell us the result yeh?

Mashsallah some of these are very good... always good to know

sisters this is a guideline as ppl facing a proposal r in trouble thinking wht to ask...also may be some things important 4 u tht u wud identify frm the list and wud be good to clarify them in order to not appear missunderstandings or problems in the future...:hearts:
 
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