muslimlady
Junior Member
Men are Imams of society. They must lead whether they like it or not. It is not an option but an obligation set forth by Allah.
A classic illustration of this is even the wisest mother cannot lead her 13year old son in prayer, whereas he can lead her (be the imam). Which brings us to the fact that in order to lead, a man must start practising at a very young age and so the influence and guidance of parents in this aspect is critical.
*Sons must be made to do different activities in the home including cooking, washing dishes, vaccum, wash the toilets , reparing simple household problems and the likes from a young age.
Mothers and Fathers must NEVER think that these acts are too "feminine" or it is a females' job to do such activities.
*They must be given a measure of responsibility and authority at young age. For example "protect" their mother and sisters from harm and strangers, be allowed to make some "critical" decisions pertataining to the home and family such as if he is a 10 years old child, perhaps he could be allowed to decide as to which chores he would like to do on certain weeks. As he grows older, he could be given more "difficult" decisions to make.
By knowing what these activities entail will he be able to appreciate his wife, mother/father, daughters/sons and society in general. His expectations will be reasonable hence do-able. In at nustshell, practise practise practise. Even McDonalds recognises this. Anyone who wants to be a McDonalds franchisee must start at the bottom. He must mop floors and do all the things that his future employees will be doing.
Society is crumbling because we lack leaders who knows how to lead.
Islam has thought us HOW to lead but many do not read about this.
May I suggest that our brothers actually have societies to prepare boys to be men. It is unfortunate that more and more homes are lead by single mothers who are struggling as it is to just put food on the table. I am confident there are sufficient mentors out there. Come on Brothers, rise up to the challenge because this is indeed a challenge. The snowballing effect this will create is phenomenal.
Wallahu a3lam.
A classic illustration of this is even the wisest mother cannot lead her 13year old son in prayer, whereas he can lead her (be the imam). Which brings us to the fact that in order to lead, a man must start practising at a very young age and so the influence and guidance of parents in this aspect is critical.
*Sons must be made to do different activities in the home including cooking, washing dishes, vaccum, wash the toilets , reparing simple household problems and the likes from a young age.
Mothers and Fathers must NEVER think that these acts are too "feminine" or it is a females' job to do such activities.
*They must be given a measure of responsibility and authority at young age. For example "protect" their mother and sisters from harm and strangers, be allowed to make some "critical" decisions pertataining to the home and family such as if he is a 10 years old child, perhaps he could be allowed to decide as to which chores he would like to do on certain weeks. As he grows older, he could be given more "difficult" decisions to make.
By knowing what these activities entail will he be able to appreciate his wife, mother/father, daughters/sons and society in general. His expectations will be reasonable hence do-able. In at nustshell, practise practise practise. Even McDonalds recognises this. Anyone who wants to be a McDonalds franchisee must start at the bottom. He must mop floors and do all the things that his future employees will be doing.
Society is crumbling because we lack leaders who knows how to lead.
Islam has thought us HOW to lead but many do not read about this.
May I suggest that our brothers actually have societies to prepare boys to be men. It is unfortunate that more and more homes are lead by single mothers who are struggling as it is to just put food on the table. I am confident there are sufficient mentors out there. Come on Brothers, rise up to the challenge because this is indeed a challenge. The snowballing effect this will create is phenomenal.
Wallahu a3lam.