Islamic ruling on Valentine and Mother's Day

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2: bro/sis

I have a question, its not like i celebrate those but looking at many people it feels like it is becoming common, last Mother's day thou I bought my mom something but it was the pure intentions of buying her a gift, I didn't really go as to Happy mothersday ... she just showed me something she wanted which was on a cheap price during mother's day, is that allowed just to buy her something with the intention of loving her?

Valentines day, is it ok for the husband to buy her wife something nice, not for the intention of valentine but for the intention of seeing a smile on her face? or is it that we shud not buy anything for our wife on valentines?
like im not saying go celebrate the valentines just giviing somehting nice to the wife so she feels happy?
thank u very much

PS: im not married just a question LOL

 

[nyerekareem]

:salam2: bro/sis

I have a question, its not like i celebrate those but looking at many people it feels like it is becoming common, last Mother's day thou I bought my mom something but it was the pure intentions of buying her a gift, I didn't really go as to Happy mothersday ... she just showed me something she wanted which was on a cheap price during mother's day, is that allowed just to buy her something with the intention of loving her?

Valentines day, is it ok for the husband to buy her wife something nice, not for the intention of valentine but for the intention of seeing a smile on her face? or is it that we shud not buy anything for our wife on valentines?
like im not saying go celebrate the valentines just giviing somehting nice to the wife so she feels happy?
thank u very much

PS: im not married just a question LOL

:salam2:

this is a very good question, especially around this time of year ( christmas, hannukah, etc. )

the Prophet said " that whosoever imitates a people is of that people. " that's a very important and true statement. as muslims our goal is to follow tawheed to the letter, avoiding the great sin of shirk i.e. associating partners with ALLAH SWT. the origins of Valentine's Day is paganistic and loaded with shirk. the amount of shirk associated with this day would require that one write a book to tell all about it. the Prophet said that the best of muslims were the ones that were good to their wives; therefore we should be good to them all year long, but we should avoid making Valentine's day more special or making it into an EID. we muslims have two EIDS and should be content with them. i have read many rulings on the issue of Valentine's day and the concensus of the scholars is that celebrating it is haram. if we muslims begin to celebrate days like Valentine's day, what's going to keep us from celebrating XMAS, easter etc. ? the road to shirk is a downhill one.

sadly, where i work; i have witnessed many muslims purchasing XMAS trees and other XMAS items ( audhu billah!!! ). i haven't called any of them out on it, but i'm still in disbelief that muslims would blatantly go against tawheed by celebrating XMAS.

all i can say is that we muslims have two EIDS, let's be happy with them and do not desire the ways of the people that celebrate these holidays filled with kufr.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2:

this is a very good question, especially around this time of year ( christmas, hannukah, etc. )

the Prophet said " that whosoever imitates a people is of that people. " that's a very important and true statement. as muslims our goal is to follow tawheed to the letter, avoiding the great sin of shirk i.e. associating partners with ALLAH SWT. the origins of Valentine's Day is paganistic and loaded with shirk. the amount of shirk associated with this day would require that one write a book to tell all about it. the Prophet said that the best of muslims were the ones that were good to their wives; therefore we should be good to them all year long, but we should avoid making Valentine's day more special or making it into an EID. we muslims have two EIDS and should be content with them. i have read many rulings on the issue of Valentine's day and the concensus of the scholars is that celebrating it is haram. if we muslims begin to celebrate days like Valentine's day, what's going to keep us from celebrating XMAS, easter etc. ? the road to shirk is a downhill one.

sadly, where i work; i have witnessed many muslims purchasing XMAS trees and other XMAS items ( audhu billah!!! ). i haven't called any of them out on it, but i'm still in disbelief that muslims would blatantly go against tawheed by celebrating XMAS.

all i can say is that we muslims have two EIDS, let's be happy with them and do not desire the ways of the people that celebrate these holidays filled with kufr.

:salam2:
thank u brother ... so basically its ok to buy a gift but if im making it like a valentine celebration then its haram CORRECT?
thank u and can someone also answer my question on mother's day

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

In my country Malaysia, there is fatwa confirming that celebrating valentine as haram. For mother's day, it is widely celebrated here but just for one day. What for? Everyday should be parents day. We should celebrate and keep our parents happy everyday not just one day in a year. That's my view.

 

[a_muslimah86]

:salam2:

this is a very good question, especially around this time of year ( christmas, hannukah, etc. )

the Prophet said " that whosoever imitates a people is of that people. " that's a very important and true statement. as muslims our goal is to follow tawheed to the letter, avoiding the great sin of shirk i.e. associating partners with ALLAH SWT. the origins of Valentine's Day is paganistic and loaded with shirk. the amount of shirk associated with this day would require that one write a book to tell all about it. the Prophet said that the best of muslims were the ones that were good to their wives; therefore we should be good to them all year long, but we should avoid making Valentine's day more special or making it into an EID. we muslims have two EIDS and should be content with them. i have read many rulings on the issue of Valentine's day and the concensus of the scholars is that celebrating it is haram. if we muslims begin to celebrate days like Valentine's day, what's going to keep us from celebrating XMAS, easter etc. ? the road to shirk is a downhill one.

sadly, where i work; i have witnessed many muslims purchasing XMAS trees and other XMAS items ( audhu billah!!! ). i haven't called any of them out on it, but i'm still in disbelief that muslims would blatantly go against tawheed by celebrating XMAS.

all i can say is that we muslims have two EIDS, let's be happy with them and do not desire the ways of the people that celebrate these holidays filled with kufr.

The brother mashallah discussed the matter of Valentine's day wonderfully...

And for example...in Saudi Arabia..on February 14th of every year...NOTHING RED...absolutely NOTHING...gets sold...The Council of Enjoining the Good and Forbidding the Evil (it's almost like an "Islamic police" force type of thing) patrols the streets..and any store selling valentine's day items...is fined immediately...and in schools..school administrations take away any valentine's day items..or even red personal items girls and guys may display or carry..and the students are disciplined...

This was done because young Saudis went over the line with celebrating it..and it was spreading like wild fire...and after many fatwas released and shows put together warning about it...the government decided to take "the law" approach to stop the problem..because it seemed that nobody was paying attention..and mashallah it has worked great so far according to the Saudi sisters that I speak to...

So you see...these matters are grave in nature..even if you don't celebrate them...and you buy things or plan things for these days..you are indirectly lending a support for the mumbo-jumbo that goes on regarding them...so it's better to just stay away...and make your attempts for showing gratefulness and affection take place on the basis of personal availability and convenience

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o alikum brothers/sister thank u for the great answer
Alhumdulilah im clear on valentine but im still worried about Mother's day like i did buy that gift wat should be the ruling on that I love my mom its not like i never show her before that
please help
thx

 

[a_muslimah86]

aslam o alikum brothers/sister thank u for the great answer
Alhumdulilah im clear on valentine but im still worried about Mother's day like i did buy that gift wat should be the ruling on that I love my mom its not like i never show her before that
please help
thx

The matter now would rest within the hands of someone able to give a fatwa akhi...I don't want to give you an opinion...I don't think that would benefit you or me...perhaps you can ask a shaikh about it and make it clear that you bought the gift because you were able to afford it "at that specific time"..not because you even wanted to give a gift on that day?

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

aslam o alikum brothers/sister thank u for the great answer
Alhumdulilah im clear on valentine but im still worried about Mother's day like i did buy that gift wat should be the ruling on that I love my mom its not like i never show her before that
please help
thx

If I in the position to give an opinion, I don't think you have done anything wrong...just do it more frequently.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

If I in the position to give an opinion, I don't think you have done anything wrong...just do it more frequently.

:salam2:
thank u for the opinion ...
you said just dont do it more frequently, i dont think i'll ever do again