Do I lie?

[islamisthesolution]

i am not gonna lie to you and i will be honest and i will say yes i do lie but i or we call it (white lies) . the question is (is it haram?) but plz before you reply let me tell you some points not justifications of course.
*you have just heard that your friend failed in the exam but you dont feel like talking about it .So if someone asks you about his result are you gonna say about it or that you dont know the result.
*your friend just asked you how she looks in her new dress and you dont actually like it are you gonna say so and tell her the truth or you are going to say that she looks pretty while she does not.
*when your mother asks you about your opinion about her food which taste terrible are you gonna say so or you will say that it is tasty.
*can you say complements are lies ?
*can i tell my dear ppl the truth when it really hurts instead of a white lie?
*can i tell an ill person that he\she is going to die in two months instead of giving him\her some hope?
*dear brothers and sisters tell me what is wrong and what is right cuz i am at this point dont know exactly what i should do .
*my last thing is aquestion to you . Do you lie ?when?and who you tell lies?


:astag::salam2:

 

[Ashima33]

Salaam,

As a recent convert, I'm not for sure how to handle each of these situations from an islamic stand point... I'm still learning myself. But, I know that just simply by being HUMAN there are ways you can deal with some of these while still keeping your honesty and your friends/relatives remaining their dignity.
If someone asks you about the test your friend failed and you don't feel like talking about it. Then just say so. You don't have to lie in that situation or even tell the truth. Just state that you don't really feel like talking about it.
If your friend asks you if you like her dress and you don't... if it's one that she's trying on and thinking about buying, then try thinking about two things you DO like about it and then maybe the one thing you don't. For example, "The color really brings out your eyes and I like the way it looks in the front... but the way it gathers in the back looks alittle funny." But if she's already bought it then maybe just stick with the two positive things and leave out the negative... because obviously she's happy with it if she bought it and that's really all that matters.
Same thing with the food, "Mom, I really like that you put carrots in this soup and it's nice and thick... but it might have alittle too much salt for me."

The other situations are a bit tough... so I'll let someone else handle those.

I hope this helps a bit. =)

 

[islamisthesolution]

jazaka Allahu khyran okhti

Salaam,

As a recent convert, I'm not for sure how to handle each of these situations from an islamic stand point... I'm still learning myself. But, I know that just simply by being HUMAN there are ways you can deal with some of these while still keeping your honesty and your friends/relatives remaining their dignity.
If someone asks you about the test your friend failed and you don't feel like talking about it. Then just say so. You don't have to lie in that situation or even tell the truth. Just state that you don't really feel like talking about it.
If your friend asks you if you like her dress and you don't... if it's one that she's trying on and thinking about buying, then try thinking about two things you DO like about it and then maybe the one thing you don't. For example, "The color really brings out your eyes and I like the way it looks in the front... but the way it gathers in the back looks alittle funny." But if she's already bought it then maybe just stick with the two positive things and leave out the negative... because obviously she's happy with it if she bought it and that's really all that matters.
Same thing with the food, "Mom, I really like that you put carrots in this soup and it's nice and thick... but it might have alittle too much salt for me."

The other situations are a bit tough... so I'll let someone else handle those.

I hope this helps a bit. =)

you have been really helpful but i guess i need more help about the rest of the questions.
wa 3lykum alsalaam.

 

[islamisthesolution]

thanks brothers

i am relieved you have been helpful to me
Jazakum Allahu khyran
:shymuslima1:

 

[slave_of_Allah]

Assalamu alikum

... i hope your well .... i will insha'Allah try to answer ALL your questions. In the first situation you should remain silent, rather than say anything at all, and if another person asks you about your friends result, the you should say ' it is not for you to know'. The person shouldn't be asking you in the first place.

Secondly,if a friend asked me how she looked in a dress, i would tell her the truth, even if it sounds mean, because if she is a true friend she will understand, and appreciate it. If you want the best for any friend, then you will tell them the truth, no matter how bitter it is.

umm ..... well i would say to my mum her food is nice, even if it isn't, because i wouldn't want to hurt her feelings. And you should always keep your mother happy, because Jannah is underneath her feet. But also don't overpraise the food, it is o.k to say, i liked the food. But depending on what your mother is like you can tell her how to make it differently next time, but in a nice way. But if you know if she minds, then don't say anything.

You shouldn't praise someone for no reason, it is better to stay quiet. If you see a fault in them, you should tell them alone, and say that you only care about them, and you don't want them to go astray. Also, you shouldn't overpraise someone, because only Allah knows what's in their heart.

You should definitely tell someone the truth no matter how bitter it is. If you truly care about someone you will tell them the truth. And remember Allah loves those who speak the truth.

In regards to an ill person ... you should give them hope, and remember that only Allah knows when a person is going to die, we as humans don't know, not even doctors. As humans we can never tell a person when they are going to die, only Allah knows this.

do i lie ... don't we all lie? we lie, and don't realize sometimes, but the most important thing is that we intentionally don't lie, if we do then we should ask Allah to forgive us, and do a good deed straight away to wipe away the sin.

I hope this answers your question, and i pray Allah blesses you. Aameen.

Wa'alikum aslaam.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o alikum
sister wat you can also do is instead of saying the lie you can tell ur mom ... Mom the food was good but you could have used more salt or mom you cooked this food nicely but sorry i dont like this vege that much u know dont lie and dont hurt them

about the marks you can simply tell them yea my friend did ok or be like sorry i cant tell

ABout how someone looks ... to stop from lying i usually say you know this dress is ok but I think you would look better in something else

About the dieing you can say inshallah things will be ok ..... cuz with the will of God anything can be Ok I would say so
hope it helped
take care

 

[islamisthesolution]

jazakum Allahu khyran

dear brothers and sisters thanks for giving me this relieving answer but i just want to say something about the food i dont mean my mom here but i just want to know what should muslim do in these situations and to be fair my moms food is extremely tasty alhmdulillah but as a muslim i need to know more about this and i dont have the ability to tell someone that he is going die i am asking for my brothers and sisters in islam .and of cours it helped me as well.
after all i learned from you dear brothers and sisters that i shouldnt lie about anything in this world and to be honest with the people i love means that i respect them and love them and they will apprciate my truth i guess.
jazaakum Allahu khyran my good brothers and sisters.
salaam 3lykum
:shymuslima1:

 

[islamisthesolution]

:salam2:
when our user names are not our real names is this cosider a lie?
thats something i keep thinking of
and i really want to know when i registered here i didnt intend to lie about my name i wrote somethng that expresses me so i really dont know
:salam2:

 

[Selmaleila]

:salam2:
when our user names are not our real names is this cosider a lie?
thats something i keep thinking of
and i really want to know when i registered here i didnt intend to lie about my name i wrote somethng that expresses me so i really dont know
:salam2:

Salam,

I really don't know too. but, I think it's not considered as a lie. For me, it's ok if I use my real name.

My Allah bless you

 

[sal12]

Dear sister, Assalaamu Alaykum.

Someone asked the prophet peace be upon him, "Does a believer ever steal?" The prophet replied, "It can happen." The man asked, "Does a believer ever fornicate?" The prophet answered, "It can happen." The man asked, "Does a believer ever lie?" The prophet answered, "Never!"

I've never heard this hadith before. What's the source of this hadith? I'm not putting you on the spot I'm just curious. Jazakallahu khayr.

 

[islamisthesolution]

thank you guys for your kind help
:salam2:

 

[Muslimah16]

:salam2: sister.
if my friend doesnt look good in a dress and she asks for my opinion i tell her the TRUTH!!
Because personally when i ask someone for their opinion i want a honest answer!!
Even if it does make me feel sad.