I hate Facebook Should I stay on it?

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

I just need to vent feel free to read!!!

I hate facebook all the muslims there act fake, the ones on my list do, its annoying they claim they are muslims and they have pictures in clubs, out without hijab in places i wont say having males looking and commenting on their pictures--again without hijab, BUT when you see them in the street they are wearing hijab and they salam you but on Facebook they are totally different thats why i hate it i come here more often because our community here alhamdulilah is not based on how many friends you have or how pretty you are...

Well i will get to the point of this rant, should i leave because some close people i know and family keep in contact with me and i share haiths and speak about how you need a hijab even on the internet and they comment aww thats true mashallah but they dont take heed should i give up on them and leave again because i leave and come back and now i have come back everyones ignoring me because i am telling them the truth....

It hurts me to see muslims behaving like this, come ramadan the quran pictures come up and ramadan greetings :astag:
Hope i didnt offend anyone....

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

if u really hate facebook, then why think to stay on it? just say 'good-bye- to it forever.

internet is quite a dangerous place. we dont feel shy showing ourselves on the net.

and due to weak faith, many are leading two-lives. good muslim for good society and modern guy/gal for the other.

but yes, be in touch with Islamic forums, its like a good muslim family.

 

[allah is with me]

sister say face book 'good bye, allah haffiz' ... you know making id's in face book, or , orkut, etc, etc... are not good for us (Muslims)... its something disgusting ' as i can say'..you know we share pics, and if i say you this , i think you might say this 'sister , no one can see my picture , in fact i have not put any, and if i have , then i have put a lock(password) so that no one enters' ...
sister if you put password so that no one sees, but , then also some guys over will come to know, or they can hack you face book and can see pics, as it is normal in this generation.. and sister if you have not put any pics, then also people will still have a boom in their heart.. so allah haffiz face book from you side .. i guess!

 

[ruki4eva]

:salam2: sister if you hate it then just leave it inshaAllah
its really up to you
the truth hurts init?? thats the thing people don't listen man
it gets kinda annoying but don't give up inshaAllah
keep them in your dua's
i used to have hi5, bebo, multiply, tagged so many i had invitations and joined and i was forced to join orkut lol but i didn't.. erm can't remember if i had face book
then i end up seeing people just adding me in their profile and commenting so i thought its not benefiting me in any way i just deleted it all Alhamdulillah i just need this TTI
you said you share hadiths i think thats what you meant MashaAllah sis
Hope Allah rewards you for you efforts

 

[Robab]

ohohoooo

Aslam o alicom.
plz one minutes i want to ask one question that sister said (facebook)still i know a website this is the name of www.facebook.com.r u say about this site or tti????

 

[shasha]

I guess it depends on what your intentions are why you joined facebook. I do have pictures there, but, they are all decent pictures of me with my friends and family. I honestly joined it just to get in touch with my friends and keep updated with their lives. In my opinion, I think you can keep it and just keep your friends to a minimum and just add friends that are really close to you. But, that's just my opinion. If you really hate it, then hasta la vista facebook.

 

[Asja]

Assalamu Allaicum

Dear sister Mashallah for your efforts and may Allah reword you, but if you feel for facebook that what you feel than you should leave it Inshallah.

Personally I am not member on facebook or any simular site becouse they are unislamic and there is a loot of fitnah:astag:

May Allah help you dear sister. Ameen

 

[a_muslimah86]

Leave it ukhti!

The amount of fitnah and vileness on their surpasses that of benefit..do not let your nafs put *excuses* such as I need to be in contact with family..like a sister who told me once *I can't leave FB because I found my childhood friend from back home on it*..believe me these are all excuses of *the nafs*..nothing more

What upsets me is the people who say *we are making da'awa on FB*..and then you log on their accounts and all you see are silly messages and an array of activities they have CAPTURED ON CAMERA for THE WORLD to see!..I do not see where the da'awa lays in THAT! (this is not directed at you dear sister..I am just saying because I am VERY anti-facebook!)

So leave it sister and do not go back to it..alhamduliallah there are replacements for it..you have messenger..emails..and cell-phones you can surely contact your family through them..without all the other hoo-has that come from FB

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

Jaza kallahu khair for the replies i hate the hypocrisy my long leave from it i felt my imaan increase now i went back i feel its going down i agree sis a_muslima86 its just my nafs making excuses and i guess i also had that whisper of dawah :astag: may Allah forgive me its just my sister is there and now my two younger sisters have joined and iam trying to stop all this fitnah but its overwhelming i better just leave and speak to them seperate inshallah

I was also anti-facebook untill these whispers of you can help and guide them all came i guess i forgot about my self??? but i will make dua that Allah guides all the "muslims" on facebook....its frustrating when you can just look on at them subhanallah Thanks for the advice anyway i better close my account :shymuslima1:

 

[shasha]

Wow... How about me? I'm on facebook to keep in touch with family and friends. I'm here in the US and most of my friends and family are in Philippines. They get online on yahoo obviously at a different time of the day. Calling is expensive. If they wanna share pictures of them during a family gathering, they just post it on their profile to share it with me. Do you guys think it's wrong to still keep my facebook if that's what I use it for?

 

[Muslim18]

Wow... How about me? I'm on facebook to keep in touch with family and friends. I'm here in the US and most of my friends and family are in Philippines. They get online on yahoo obviously at a different time of the day. Calling is expensive. If they wanna share pictures of them during a family gathering, they just post it on their profile to share it with me. Do you guys think it's wrong to still keep my facebook if that's what I use it for?

sister i dont know but my sisters live under the same roof as me alhamduliah so its easy for me but you can email its same right? because i know the shaytan whispers and then you add friends and friend of friends and then males you dont know want to see you profile and before you know it you will get addicted to it and people commenting on you pictures that you dont want them to, then the popularity starts from there and the fitnah builds up i know people who have hundreds of friends that they dont even know so its like advertising you personal life online thats why i hate it..

But Allah knows that place could be the place Allah intends for your misguidance because there is soo much fitnah just 2 minutes there gets me angry.......

Hope i didnt offend you sis its your choice you know yourself and i know myself that this is a trail for me it may be same for you?

 

[AyeshaL]

Not so black and white?

Assalaamu Alaikum,

I know I'm going to be the odd one out here but I think that, provided you use it properly, Facebook can be okay! I've got a profile but my pictures are only with me in hijab or they are only available to close girlfriends, my family and my husband to see. You can also choose if your profile is private and can reject anyone you don't want to access your profile.

You say that using facebook for dawah is just an excuse but Islam does need to use modern mediums of technology if we are going to reach people! We can advertise Islamic events / talks on there, we can have Islamic groups to discuss topics, we can build friendships with other Muslims and keep in touch with everyone we know. I have a lot of non-Muslim friends (I'm a revert) and I hope, inshallah, that when I post things on FB about Islam that they may just look at it out of curiosity and maybe this will plant a seed in their mind that, inshallah, will grow.

I think that its an issue of self control - if you can use it and not look at pictures of non-Muslims in clubs / close to naked in holiday snaps - and focus on the good it can bring, then inshallah it's okay. I think its a matter of intention - it doesnt have to be so black and white. If you know it affects your iman or you are tempted to look at stuff you shouldnt then stay away. If you are worried about family members using it - then maybe you should invite them to join Islamic Groups on there - there is one in particular I would encourage them to view - 'the deen show' - brilliant, allahamdulilla, talks on there which are very accessible to Muslims and Non-Muslims.

 

[shasha]

Thanks, Ayeshal. That's exactly what I was thinking. It can be used for a good purpose. It will depend on the person's intention. I put my profile on private and only add people I know - close friends I went to school with or worked with and family. That's it.

But, I also understand what you mean, Muslim18. I can't seem to fathom how some people virtually expose everything about their life on facebook and add friends they don't even know. It can get out of hand. I guess, it will depend on the user's self-control like what Ayeshal said.

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

Jaza kallahu khair sisters well my friend list is pretty much distracted by the glitter of facebook and socializing but i am not in to gender mixing and flirting and posing in pictures just for comments i just dont want to be sucked into their wrong, so i think for me the best thing is to just leave them quietly they hardly notice iam there anyway.....and i agree what you say its your intention and how you use it, there are many good bro/sis there :ma: but for me i dont have contact with them so no friends is better than bad friends for me but if i had a choice of good friends in my choice i would pick them....

Thank you both sisters for the advice i made this thread to weigh the good and bad in my case your case may be different, for me the bad over weighs the good and i dont want to put my imaan on a plate so they can pick at it iam shy and they have bold characteristics so i dont mesh with them anyway

Hope i didnt offend but this issue annoys me because they use it for bad reasons and those who use it for good thats good for them i just dont need to socialise with people i cant speak to about islam. (their own religion)

P.s sister shasha WELCOME TO ISLAM I DIDNT GET TO WELCOME YOU SIS AND AYESHAL May Allah protect you both and Bless you with Jannah al firdows AMEEN

I LOVE YOU BOTH FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH

 

[shasha]

Don't worry, sister. None taken. It is good that you started this thread. It will serve as a reminder for those who have social websites what their intention is why they have one.

Thank you for your warm welcome, sister. I love you, too, for the sake of Allah (swt).

Salam.

 

[sirajstc]

:salam2:,

if u really hate facebook, then why think to stay on it? just say 'good-bye- to it forever.

internet is quite a dangerous place. we dont feel shy showing ourselves on the net.

and due to weak faith, many are leading two-lives. good muslim for good society and modern guy/gal for the other.

but yes, be in touch with Islamic forums, its like a good muslim family.

yes well said i agree with you

 

[BinKhadija]

Facebook deserves to be disliked, and unpopular as a social networking site, for a variety of reasons.

The site is all about making money; your Privacy isn’t only given second preference but is not respected AT ALL. After what sister a_muslimah86 has correctly explained you still think you don't fall into that category; danger to one's own Iman-level, still one needs to be very careful on Facebook regarding how your social life is being played by your “Friends”.

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

I agree i am just worried even more now i am of it and my younger sister has joined its all innocent now with all her friends being girls but what if a boy or man adds her i feel like blocking the site all together........i have the resources to do that some blocking website protection program but should i block it some other people use it when they come and when i spoke to my sister about blocking it she went real angry......

 

[yassine1003]

well, I have exactly the same issue ...

 

[um muhammad al-mahdi]

:salam2:

just delete or lock the account insh'Allah!