Why i feel like this??

[white-rose]

Salam aleikum to all!

I appligise my bad language, and hope u can understand anyway...

I have a big problem, mostly with my feelings..
I love islam with all of my heart, but im so afraid...
I´m afraid what will be left of me after some time, i dont know if anyone understand what i mean. I said my shahada about 2 years ago, i pray i did keep ramadan, i´m not using the scarf yet, but i dress modest, i try to read the coran.
Im feeling that i will loose something that i was before and because of this feeling i´m not giving all i can to islam and my husbend.
I have a good husbend, he´s a good muslim and husbend and father to ouer son, i just feel he want too much (stop smoking, loose weight, learm nore about islam,more intimate time), and he have right in all i know that.
I just dont understand myself, why i have to resist, i try to change, to take it slow and then i feel bad...
Now i have one year time to loose my weight ,stop smoking and learning enough arabic. We will visit hes parents next summer. Im feeling so stressed allready...

Sorry about confusing and long text, i will stop before its getting too confusing

 

[revert2007]

Salam aleikum to all!

I appligise my bad language, and hope u can understand anyway...

I have a big problem, mostly with my feelings..
I love islam with all of my heart, but im so afraid...
I´m afraid what will be left of me after some time, i dont know if anyone understand what i mean. I said my shahada about 2 years ago, i pray i did keep ramadan, i´m not using the scarf yet, but i dress modest, i try to read the coran.
Im feeling that i will loose something that i was before and because of this feeling i´m not giving all i can to islam and my husbend.
I have a good husbend, he´s a good muslim and husbend and father to ouer son, i just feel he want too much (stop smoking, loose weight, learm nore about islam,more intimate time), and he have right in all i know that.
I just dont understand myself, why i have to resist, i try to change, to take it slow and then i feel bad...
Now i have one year time to loose my weight ,stop smoking and learning enough arabic. We will visit hes parents next summer. Im feeling so stressed allready...

Sorry about confusing and long text, i will stop before its getting too confusing

intro of myself:revert sister converted 2 years a go married and hv a 10 months old son

I´m afraid what will be left of me after some time,

well what will u take once ur in the graveyard?
there is nothing u could take sis....well sis first of all u hv to learn to stop loving this world...u hv such a good husband ,a son and a great family mashaAllah which other women are dreaming of..so why would u wnat Allah to take it from u?

appreciate what Allah has given u.....He gave u islam,He gave u a family where u can feel safe and comfortable...what can a woman ask for more?

there is nothing else u could ask..i know ,leaving ur past life isnat an easy job and it always hunt us...but do not allow this feeling or thoughts to overtake u or control u..thats is syaitan....

Iman Is With Those Seek It

life is not a bed of roses....there is always good and bad but it is all about how u handle ur problem...perhaps u could say that it is easier for me to say...but aren't we on the same boat?i did go through all these...

and i have ben taught to appreciate this life...even if i were to be in the street without shelter..i should thank Allah for it coz i still could breath to say Alhamdulilahi Robbil Alamain...

 

[revert2007]

Assalamualikum to all my beloved sisters and respected brothers. Today I would like to share my thoughts that came to my mind after yesterday’s subh prayer and I written it down in a note book so that I won’t forget it once I wake up from sleep

Life is like a bus. You travel in this bus to your destination. During the process of traveling, you drop some passengers and you take new passengers at certain bus stops. Yet you do not be sad on those that have got down at their bust stops and you still continue your journey to your destination.

In our lives we meet new people and we lose some people even if we love them. Yet we can’t give up our lives and be disappointed. We still need to continue our journey of lives because this journey hasn’t come to an end yet.

In this life we can loose anything, just name it

• Job
• Wealth
• Heath
• Education
• Beauty
• Fame
• Power
• Mind
• Silaturahim(any kind of relationship)
• Etc…………

But we can never loose one thing which is the knowledge that we gain since born. So why don’t you concentrate in increasing your knowledge in Islam and help those need your knowledge.



Life is synonym with

• Pain
• Suffering
• Test
• Disappointment

But with good knowledge of Islam and correct guidance from Quran and Sunnah, InshaAllah will secure you the best in Allah’s path.

Why do we need to be tested by Allah s.w.t ?

Even if you study in school,college or university,almost every week,month or year you will have test and examination. We need to be tested to know the level we belong to. Without test we can never know who we are and where we stand. That’s the reason Allah always test those He loves so that these people can know the level of their iman(faith) and at what level their faith is and how can they increase their iman(faith).

Please please please remember one thing. Allah tests you according to what you can handle.

Do not question “why this test does not happen to others but happen to me. Doesn’t Allah love me?”

The answer is , this test can only be handle by you and not others. Allah test you this way because He loves you so much and He is helping strengthening your iman.

At this weak situation, do not give in to syaitan. Turn to Allah and beg for His help because Allah loves those beg Him.

Once you have solved your problem and you have passed Allah’s test, do not forget to say Alhamdulilahi Robbil Alamin

Please be a grateful person and that is the basic courtesy of life-To thank those have helped you.

Some of us might really go through a very very tough time and you might thought of giving up Islam and your faith in Allah. Do you think by giving up Islam, you are going to solve your problem? Actually literally you are committing suicide by giving up Islam.

Who can solve your problem if it is not Allah? Allah s.w.t is the One who tested you and gave you the problem and only He can help you to solve it.

The more test you face, the closer you should get to Allah and that is what a wise Muslim should do.

This dunya(world) is not forever and your pain and suffering is not forever. You must go through all these difficulties in order to gain Jannah.

Jannah is not an easy task yet it is not a difficult one.

We do not live our lives our way. We live our lives according to Allah’s way. If you act smart and do everything your way, you will never win in dunya and hereafter.

Lets be winners who win in dunya and hereafter and that is the goal/objective of every Muslim.

First of all these is my own personal advice and it is not a fatwa. I might be wrong and only Allah forgives me.

• Strengthen your iman by praying the 5 obligatory prayers on time. Those do not pray is equal to disbelievers because the difference between a Muslim and a kaffir is the salah(prayers).
• Do sunnah fasting(Monday and Thursday). Those fast can learn to be patience and can control yourselves over evil things.
• Recite Quran. If can’t recite, at least listen to Quran recitation. It is ok if you do not understand the Quran in the beginning but the recitation of Quran is the key to a calm soul.
• Perform extra prayer (sunnah,nawafil) especially night prayers if possible and make strong dua at this moment. It is ok to cry in front of Allah and just let go all your pain through your tears.
• Do dzikir as much as possible because dzikir is one way to clean your sins even if it is as much as foam of a sea.
• You also can have Islamic discussion through mic or chat and talk about Allah, Islam and the prophet pbuh. Glorify Allah and see and share the beauty of Islam. When you have Islamic discussion and Glorifying Allah, Angels will be there listening to your discussion (pardon me if am wrong at this point).
• Brothers should go to mosque as frequently as possible and interact with other soleh brothers.

InshaAllah after reading this thread, all of us know what we should do.

Life is too short to be given up your faith. Make full use of this short life and earn more hassanat(rewards) to secure your place in Jannah.

source

 

[white-rose]

I thank god every day for my family.
I dont have hard time to leave my old behavior behind me (going to disco or talking to men), my trouble is with thinking and trusting.. Yes i trust god, he will give me all i need, and i did get so much allready. I thank Him every day

 

[revert2007]

I thank god every day for my family.
I dont have hard time to leave my old behavior behind me (going to disco or talking to men), my trouble is with thinking and trusting.. Yes i trust god, he will give me all i need, and i did get so much allready. I thank Him every day

do not reveal any of ur sin...let Allah alone know it...do not ever doubt ur faith in Allah coz that will make ur shahadah invalid.

no matter what u face in life...go strong and remember ,Allah will never let u down..He test u because He wants u to ask His help...and test will increase ur iman inshaAllah...u need to talk with some sisters about islam...by talking about islam,it will make u feel better and at least it will reduce ur burden...

each and everyone of us have problem..but we should be strong to face the problem...if u could face the pain in dunya,inshaAllah in hereafter u dont have to feel the pain..

i hope u will be fine soon and just pm me or msn me whenerevr u wanna talk on private.take care sis.assalamualikum

 

[ovomer]

I thank god every day for my family.
I dont have hard time to leave my old behavior behind me (going to disco or talking to men), my trouble is with thinking and trusting.. Yes i trust god, he will give me all i need, and i did get so much allready. I thank Him every day

:salam2:
i am sure revert 2007 told you the right thing to do. just make dua from Allah swt. He will listen to you and solve your problem, inshaallah. remember dont forget to beg from Him. we love Allah swt so mush and Allah loves us a lot.
wasalam

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:sister

Allah swt said in Quran
7:16 (Asad) [Whereupon Iblis] said: "Now that Thou hast thwarted me," shall most certainly lie in ambush for them all along Thy straight way,
7:17 (Asad) and shall most certainly fall upon them openly as well as in a manner beyond their ken, and from their right and from their left: and most of them Thou wilt find ungrateful."
7:18 (Asad) [And God] said: "Go forth from here, disgraced and disowned! [And] as for such of them as follow thee - I will most certainly fill hell with you all!


Translation of the meanings of Quran


If we read the verses we understand that their is an unseen power which try to make us ungrateful towards our Lord .....we should be carefull and thank our Lord ......first for let us knowing him through Islam , second for giving us great pure families.We have to treat ourselves with faith.