how to avoid back biting people around us

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allah rakkah lav

i love allah alone
in my class most r back biting even i know thy did some gossip abt me i never ask them anythng since to maintain patience wat allah expects us in this situation

in some critical situation wat can i do please advice me
 
Amina 1

Amina 1

Junior Member
Assalam Alaikum :hearts:



I am sorry that you are having a bad time It is best to ignore those who would back bite you. They are not worth wasting your time on.
 
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muslimda3ee

brother
:salam2:

[pickthall]
Deem not that Allah is unaware of what the wicked do. He but giveth them a respite till a day when eyes will stare (in terror), (surat Ibrahim(14) ayah 42)

:wasalam:
 
ahmed_indian

ahmed_indian

to Allah we belong
its good u did not ask them.....bcoz it will not give u any goodness. just tension and sorrow.

also if they tell to join in their gossip-party, smile @ them and tell that u dont want to eat dead brother's flesh.

then tell them that Allah says this for backbiting in Quran.
 
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allah rakkah lav

i love allah alone
ahmed_indian said:
its good u did not ask them.....bcoz it will not give u any goodness. just tension and sorrow.

also if they tell to join in their gossip-party, smile @ them and tell that u dont want to eat dead brother's flesh.

then tell them that Allah says this for backbiting in Quran.
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thats correct :muslima:
:tti_sister::tti_sister:
nothing i get by asking them r fighting with them
but i can do a healthy competition by achieving more marks this sem by allahs grace n 4 allah's sake ...before those khafirs

even its a play of allah to test my patience(i've taken it in tat way)
so as of xam i hope i passed in it :hijabi::biggrin:
 
allah is with me

allah is with me

Rabana Wa laqal Hamd
when they back bite behind you, and when you hear them...try to stop them from doing that..for allah really does not like that, and as its a sin...
but if they still do it, then ignore them ....
allah will reward you..inshallah
 
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Janulka

New Member
Hi,
I will tell you sth that happened to me. It was a school trip in a nature, I was in a room with three others girls. One day my friend and roommate had a headache, so she went to bed.
I came to room later. I went to a balcony, and under a balcon was a ground and benches. Some other girls from our class were chatting there. I said: Hi! I smiled, but they became silent, seemed to be surprised and went away. I didn´t understand what they had.
Then Natka (sick roommate) sit in the bed and she told me: You know, I couldn´t sleep, I heart everything they said. They back bited you and Terezia(thirth roomate) so much all the time...I am sorry...
I started to laught, I said: Well, but it isn´t me who is feeling embarrasing, stupid and bad now... :p

I hope you understand what I want to say. People backbited you hurt themselves, not you, becouse the others who know you, yours really friends know how great person you are. Good luck!
 
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allah rakkah lav

i love allah alone
Janulka said:
Hi,
I will tell you sth that happened to me. It was a school trip in a nature, I was in a room with three others girls. One day my friend and roommate had a headache, so she went to bed.
I came to room later. I went to a balcony, and under a balcon was a ground and benches. Some other girls from our class were chatting there. I said: Hi! I smiled, but they became silent, seemed to be surprised and went away. I didn´t understand what they had.
Then Natka (sick roommate) sit in the bed and she told me: You know, I couldn´t sleep, I heart everything they said. They back bited you and Terezia(thirth roomate) so much all the time...I am sorry...
I started to laught, I said: Well, but it isn´t me who is feeling embarrasing, stupid and bad now... :p

I hope you understand what I want to say. People backbited you hurt themselves, not you, becouse the others who know you, yours really friends know how great person you are. Good luck!
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hello janulka
asalam alaikom sis
i really thank allah 4 ur post
im so happy to see this reply which gav me gud idea 2 b silent
insha allah
may allah bless u
ameen
 
rightpath_357

rightpath_357

Junior Member
Hey sis- Salam- lots of love- ......... OMA- i know what u're going through! happened to me soooooo much times! "shhhhhh- huda's coming"! "why does she work out? she's threatning enough!" there's a simple solution- ignore it. they're cheating themselves u know. Actually- let them keep on doing it. Do you know that on judgement day all their good deeds will go to you? if someone else trys to tell you what they're saying- laugh- and say ' i really dont care about what things they have to say about me' when u pass them- act regularly around them- it'll show them that u dont care- and maybe make them feel guilty and stop. if one of them- or anyone comes and try's to gossip with you, say- 'sorry, but i really hate gossiping. im not interested." if they laugh at u to ur face, say- it's amazing that u can concentrate on everybody elses issues- when u have so much of ur own!" or just- wow, do SOME people need to get a life or wat?"
 
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allah rakkah lav

i love allah alone
rightpath_357 said:
Hey sis- Salam- lots of love- ......... OMA- i know what u're going through! happened to me soooooo much times! "shhhhhh- huda's coming"! "why does she work out? she's threatning enough!" there's a simple solution- ignore it. they're cheating themselves u know. Actually- let them keep on doing it. Do you know that on judgement day all their good deeds will go to you? if someone else trys to tell you what they're saying- laugh- and say ' i really dont care about what things they have to say about me' when u pass them- act regularly around them- it'll show them that u dont care- and maybe make them feel guilty and stop. if one of them- or anyone comes and try's to gossip with you, say- 'sorry, but i really hate gossiping. im not interested." if they laugh at u to ur face, say- it's amazing that u can concentrate on everybody elses issues- when u have so much of ur own!" or just- wow, do SOME people need to get a life or wat?"
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thanx a lot dear sister
 
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