slaveofAllah88
Slave of Allah (swt)
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brothers and sisters, i have this delicate issue at hand hope you can provide me with some opinion using islamic point of view
My FRIEND ... mother belonged to a poor Pakistani family who was married to a guy from a high social family, ever since he was born, he saw that everyone treated her mom like dirt, while her mom served her husband, and rest of his family in a very patient and polite manner. But his father emotionally abused her in every way possible, wont let her talk to her family, not see her family, treat her worse than a servant at home, his father's parents/family mistreated her as well, and they also hated him, their 1st child cuz it was from her.
His dad many times physically abused her and his son, and many times would take his son away and torture him in harsh manner like put his in hot room without any fan (in Pak temp as easily go up to 45 C) and lock him there while his mom cried and shouted to stop doing to her son, his son was scared to death cuz many times his dad wud hit him, even treathened him with knives and many times wud start hitting himself against the wall and run after him shouting to kill him.
Years passed nothing changed, he had 2 more brothers (who were loved by my dad and family unlike the 1st one), people tried talking to the father, but he was a angel infront of others, always so kind and helping, buying presents, be there for them in need, respecting. And some ppl that knew the truth He never listened and in anger wud do many wrong thing, his dad was always backed up by his family who used him as a toy.
But no matter how much his dad tried, Allah (swt) had put love between his mom and her family, no matter how hard he tried to separate them they loved each other very much and his 3 sons love their mom side of the family more than anything.
His dad saw only solution to take them all out of the country so they can separate and wont let them speak to them. Years passed, their eldest son, who grew in very tough condition was always more like a brother or friend for her mom never a son, he never really got to be like others, and starting at age 16 he worked hard (some labor job which greatly effected his health) so he cud separately financially support himself and his mother so they had money so she can talk to her family in Pakistan.
Althought, his eldest son tried very hard, he could be find love for his dad, but he always respected him fully cuz their mom always taught kids to respect his dad and his family no matter wat; he is their father and Islam tells them to, they never spoke to him in loud voice but he wud still emotionally and physically abuse them, physical abuse stopped on his mother thou but emotionally she was always abused and degraded as someone who had no sense of anything
.
His mom was so scared of the world, she never had courage to ask for divorce and she cudn't go with it cuz it would be considered a big shame in her society, and had no place to live, she only has one brother, Who was arranged married with her sister in law, and her sister in law is even worse than her brother so she cudn't stay there.
After 8 years of her begging to see her family, and her mom (who was very old and on her dead bed) and his dad not letting her talk with them, his son after alot of hard work send her to Pakistan, while his dad was already there for work, he received her, she saw her mom after 8 years, bed, but his dad only let her stay there for couple of days then forcefully took her to another city, while she cried and beg to let her be with her mom but he abused her so much, swearing screaming, hitting his 2 young sons.
His mom was cryng so much when his eldest son called from abroad, but she didn't tell him, he found out about it eventually from his brother, but she was patient. but he continue to do so for many days and eventually last night, She told his eldest son while she was really mad that she cant take this anymore she is fed up with this man and send her the tickets to come back, if she cant see her family she doesn't want to be with anyone else and she will live on her own or with his sons.
here is the complication, his son doesn't mind spending the money but all the passports and everything are with his dad he wont let her have it So buying ticket would have no use, and ALso if he allows her he will forcefully keep the kids with him (like he used to do before) , and that will be like torture for his siblings. Or if he gets too mad he might try to kill them as he tried to do in the past.
ALso, if they take a big step, the whole family will just fall apart
There are alot more worse things which he din't want me to say but he really needs to know....
what should he do, its been 23 years he cant see her mom like that but wats a way out, he is still really scared of his dad n he tried talking but his dad always forcing his opinion and he doesn't want to disrepect his father just for the sake of Allah otherwise he has no respect for a man who doesn't respect a women.?
JazakAllah khair for listenning
brothers and sisters, i have this delicate issue at hand hope you can provide me with some opinion using islamic point of view
My FRIEND ... mother belonged to a poor Pakistani family who was married to a guy from a high social family, ever since he was born, he saw that everyone treated her mom like dirt, while her mom served her husband, and rest of his family in a very patient and polite manner. But his father emotionally abused her in every way possible, wont let her talk to her family, not see her family, treat her worse than a servant at home, his father's parents/family mistreated her as well, and they also hated him, their 1st child cuz it was from her.
His dad many times physically abused her and his son, and many times would take his son away and torture him in harsh manner like put his in hot room without any fan (in Pak temp as easily go up to 45 C) and lock him there while his mom cried and shouted to stop doing to her son, his son was scared to death cuz many times his dad wud hit him, even treathened him with knives and many times wud start hitting himself against the wall and run after him shouting to kill him.
Years passed nothing changed, he had 2 more brothers (who were loved by my dad and family unlike the 1st one), people tried talking to the father, but he was a angel infront of others, always so kind and helping, buying presents, be there for them in need, respecting. And some ppl that knew the truth He never listened and in anger wud do many wrong thing, his dad was always backed up by his family who used him as a toy.
But no matter how much his dad tried, Allah (swt) had put love between his mom and her family, no matter how hard he tried to separate them they loved each other very much and his 3 sons love their mom side of the family more than anything.
His dad saw only solution to take them all out of the country so they can separate and wont let them speak to them. Years passed, their eldest son, who grew in very tough condition was always more like a brother or friend for her mom never a son, he never really got to be like others, and starting at age 16 he worked hard (some labor job which greatly effected his health) so he cud separately financially support himself and his mother so they had money so she can talk to her family in Pakistan.
Althought, his eldest son tried very hard, he could be find love for his dad, but he always respected him fully cuz their mom always taught kids to respect his dad and his family no matter wat; he is their father and Islam tells them to, they never spoke to him in loud voice but he wud still emotionally and physically abuse them, physical abuse stopped on his mother thou but emotionally she was always abused and degraded as someone who had no sense of anything
.
His mom was so scared of the world, she never had courage to ask for divorce and she cudn't go with it cuz it would be considered a big shame in her society, and had no place to live, she only has one brother, Who was arranged married with her sister in law, and her sister in law is even worse than her brother so she cudn't stay there.
After 8 years of her begging to see her family, and her mom (who was very old and on her dead bed) and his dad not letting her talk with them, his son after alot of hard work send her to Pakistan, while his dad was already there for work, he received her, she saw her mom after 8 years, bed, but his dad only let her stay there for couple of days then forcefully took her to another city, while she cried and beg to let her be with her mom but he abused her so much, swearing screaming, hitting his 2 young sons.
His mom was cryng so much when his eldest son called from abroad, but she didn't tell him, he found out about it eventually from his brother, but she was patient. but he continue to do so for many days and eventually last night, She told his eldest son while she was really mad that she cant take this anymore she is fed up with this man and send her the tickets to come back, if she cant see her family she doesn't want to be with anyone else and she will live on her own or with his sons.
here is the complication, his son doesn't mind spending the money but all the passports and everything are with his dad he wont let her have it So buying ticket would have no use, and ALso if he allows her he will forcefully keep the kids with him (like he used to do before) , and that will be like torture for his siblings. Or if he gets too mad he might try to kill them as he tried to do in the past.
ALso, if they take a big step, the whole family will just fall apart
There are alot more worse things which he din't want me to say but he really needs to know....what should he do, its been 23 years he cant see her mom like that but wats a way out, he is still really scared of his dad n he tried talking but his dad always forcing his opinion and he doesn't want to disrepect his father just for the sake of Allah otherwise he has no respect for a man who doesn't respect a women.?
JazakAllah khair for listenning
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